Aluwani Ralineba

It scares me when I think about it…

It scares me how much we are learning to forget, how we spend our lives learning but doing it just to pass. We leave the basics, and complain a lot when everything goes wrong. I remember in elementary they taught us how to cross the road, but we still have highly educated people who jump without looking twice. They said amber means slow down, now we got roads full of accident because the new meaning of amber is to go fast before the traffic lights are red.

Well it scares me just to think about it. In early grades they taught us to tabulate needs and wants. But we are highly educated people we desire wants and we still like to blame the devil for students who spend their allowance on booze and ask for a tomato/eggs two days after they received their pocket money; or a qualified individual who owns nice gadgets and maintains them but without eating healthy/maintaining a healthy lifestyle… It was a great lesson had we learnt not to pass.

I know we hate serious things and this is probably one of the most boring things to read, but had we learnt to use the knowledge we acquire, we would have been far. Maybe the high school mathematics about finance could have saved us a little, and we would not be in so much debt if we learnt not to pass. Maybe we would be having so many young people with saving/investment accounts. Don’t worry I will not mention the lessons we learnt in Life Orientation about drugs & alcohol, peer pressure, sexual behaviour with STI’s and all other significant things…

Dear reader, please take time to read my thoughts, maybe this message won’t be shared to the whole world but at least if you read and it challenges you to change it is better. I know that I can’t change the whole world but touching one or two lives is better than doing nothing...

I know this is a very sensitive issue to address and you {reader} might not agree with what is being said but please take time to understand me. I want to address the issue of infidelity (cheating aka “side bae”).

Dear reader, when you have a mate and you decide to cheat on him/her, it does not only affect you but the whole world as well. When you decide to cheat you leave that girl/guy broken, some people heal and to some do not, so you change their entire world forever.

When you are in that relationship and you decide not to be faithful, you leave a person with trust issues, it gets hard for some people to sink it in. They carry the same baggage to the next relationship. Even if the new partner is very different from the one who cheated, they find it hard and move on with the mentality that every relationship will end the same way or the other.

Now we have broken people, broken marriages, broken homes, broken societies, broken communities and the list can go on and on. Just because of that first person one dated couldn’t be faithful, maybe the second too. We have so many kids growing up without father figures because of a spark that could not be contained and it’s causing fire. We have gangsters that are growing up to do the same and sadly even the educated people are taking part in this. Once they get that degree,the goal is to buy a GTI and get those girls or go to clubs so “guys can get us drunk”.