Late night talks are not intimacy.
Living together is not intimacy.
So what is real intimacy?
"I love you" is not intimacy.
Posting photos together is not intimacy.
Knowing each other's passwords is not intimacy.
Intimacy is when you can break down in front of him.
He doesn't try to fix you.
Intimacy is when you can say:
"You're strong, you'll handle it."
"What do you need right now?"
Intimacy is when he knows your darkness.
Your 3am anxiety. Your nightmares.
Your wounds you hide from everyone else.
Doesn't turn you into a "problem to solve."
Intimacy is when you don't play a role.
Not the "perfect girlfriend."
Not the "always positive" one.
Not the "low maintenance" girl.
And instead of "What's wrong with you?"
"I’m here. We can talk when you're ready”.
Intimacy is when he remembers your words.
The small things you mentioned once, casually.
"You said you like this song."
"You said your mom situation is hard."
"You said this matters to you."
Because he was actually listening.
Intimacy is when he protects you.
Not only from others but from yourself.
"I'm a bad woman / partner / human."
"Stop. No. I won't let you talk about yourself like that." And tells you why.
Intimacy is when you can be angry at him.
And he doesn’t punish you with silence.
He says “I hear that you’re hurting. We’ll talk when you’re ready.”
Because real intimacy can handle anger.
Intimacy is not what happens in bed.
Not how much time you spend together.
Not how many photos you have.
It's how safe you feel falling apart in front of him knowing he won't use it against you.
Most people live together for years and never experience intimacy.
Not what keeps you awake at night.❣️
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