Firstly I just want to say before I get betweent the legs of the subject (haha) I’m actually really happy to answer this and glad that you asked it! I really believe that there isn’t enough dialogue among queer women about our sex. I think a lot of inexperienced queer women in our communities feel a pressure to know what to do, for many queer women we hear a lot about how we have vaginas so we “should” know what to do. But not all women have vaginas and having a vagina is no guarantee to understanding anyone else’s either. Respect that everyone’s vulvas and vaginas are unique and may require different speeds and pressures of stimulation. To learn what a particular pussy needs you need to speak to your partner about the specifics. But overall I believe eating pussy can be broken down into three more universal steps. The building blocks if you will. What you build up from with your own unique style and specialised effort is what you accomplish with time and with communication.
So let’s get into it! I’m going to address this as though it is your first time going in for eating pussy. Although I definitely understand many queer women in our community have had some experience already but may still be working it out and need to read this just as much as someone who hasn’t had any. It is normal and ok to not have it worked out! for the purposes of this answer I will assume even with experience your perspective is quite fresh and so I’m going to describe it as though you’ve never even seen one so everyone who needs this can take as much as they like from what I explain. I will also assume you know what a clit looks like, if you dont have one look for photos or videos of it online, if you have one do the same but you can also feel your own and look at it. Familiarise yourself enough to it that when you see the pussy you will get a general idea where you are starting. And please please remember communicate with your partner, clits can be unique in size, position and coverage so remember to speak. Ok so you’ve worked the pussy up, you’ve teased the inner thighs with kisses, bites(if she enjoys it, remember, communicate) , your warm breathe, just whatever works! She’s ready for you to start kissing and eating that pussy. You look at the powerful and beautiful pussy and realise you’re too ahead of yourself. By this point I see girls do the “fuck” look, they want it, they want to fuck the pussy with their tongues but they are also very intimidated. The first mistake we tend to make at this point is hesitate. By this I mean we tend to tread lightly. We don’t know how it tastes and we don’t know how much pressure is needed. What mistake we tend to do because of this is make contact to the clit with the point of our tongue. I do not recommend the point of the tongue as a clit stimulator. It can be very awkward and it is harder to control stimulation and pressure with. What I recommend is when you get to this point begin going down onto the clit. Your tongue spread and flat. What i recommend is do not overthink the initial contact. Like I said before, we get intimidated and we’re scared to put any pressure. I want you to push your face in that pussy, obviously I’m not saying headbutt it but be reasonable. It’s a tasty pussy, don’t be scared to push your face in it! It isn’t going to taste like pineapple and sweet fruits let me just clarify that, it will taste like pussy. It will have a salty and relatively strong taste. I’m not going to tell you it tastes like a lolly but, girl, does it taste amazing! You’ve got your face pushed against the pussy and your tongue is flat against the clit. I suggest if you’re confused about how your tongue will be flattened, right now, poke your tongue out and down toward your chin, you’re probably only going to make it to a bit bellow your bottom lip and I’m not asking you to try to stretch it super long anyway. I just want you to feel your tongue flat and hanging out your mouth a bit. A fingertip up from the tip of your tongue is where you should aim for clit contact on your tongue. I want you to see that as the first step. You have flattened out your tongue and pushed your face into the pussy. Your tongue is spread flat against the clit with appropriate pressure, again you’re not headbutting it you’re using a decent and appropriate pressure. The tongue flat against the clitoris with appropriate and confident pressure will feel great. Be aware of how she responds. Maybe hold that pressure on the clit with your flat warm wet tongue during first contact for a long moment. Let her body enjoy just the pressure alone for those first few seconds. Whatever you want! Maybe you just want to jump right into pattern stimulation and that’s ok too it just depends on you and on the girl. Ok! Now hopefully you have a pretty ok idea of how to make contact with the pussy. You get that your tongue is generally best controlled flat and spread. Maybe you don’t, I’ll try to convince you. To see this I say to seriously just practice right now on your hand.
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