SugarBritney

As a sugar baby, you are selling yourself and your image. The better you are and the better you look, the more successful you will be. Here’s a list of things you should be putting your allowances towards to increase your value as a sugar baby.

Hello!

I’m glad to hear you have identified and accepted certain traits about yourself that many women struggle with or simply don’t like and try to change. That was the hardest part for me, accepting I’m not really a bossy sexy bitch but the exact opposite being innocent and nice. So, solving your problem shouldn’t be hard at all.

I think your issue may be a need for balance, as well as, becoming more aware of the type of men you are dealing with. You mentioned your three traits being an intellectual, a business woman, and a vixen, and those are all wonderful to have. However, a little too much of either trait with the wrong man can ruin things. I suggest moderation and more awareness of the men you’re involved with. 

When you use your vixen characteristic, learn to be a tease without going overboard. If the conversation switches to sex (because it definitely will), change it by making a light hearted joke about something else. I navigate conversations away from sex daily with little smilies or lol when something crude is said, and then subtly change the subject. Sometimes I even express my wishes on not to rush things if the guy becomes pushy. The key is to be a tease without becoming annoying or overbearing with it. If a guy starts to view you as nothing but a tease, it turns him off. Keep that desire alive and strong while keeping sex at bay until you wish. Also, if your dates are at the man’s home, leave just before things get heated. Have a reasonable excuse and be sure to tell him beforehand so he won’t be caught be surprised. If the man is very sexual, be a lot more cautious. Any thing you do will turn him on, and you don’t have to play much on your vixen persona.

With your businesswoman trait, try to showcase it among men who appreciate intelligent women and stimulating conversations. Some men HATE to be outsmarted by women, which goes with the saying “women are meant to be seen, not heard”. That is sadly how many men still think of women. With your intelligent conversations, start off lightly and then ease your way into the indepth debates, depending on his reactions. If you sense he’s being turned off, make him the center of attention and show amazement with his achievements, even if they are subpar. Marilyn Monroe was supposedly really smart, but not showing it around certain men helped a lot in her career. I think many men find smart women to be intimidating and emasculating, and unfortunately, even successful businessmen.

While being an intellectual, don’t be afraid to express you have financial needs, even though you have everything in order. Student loans, other debts, or simply trying to build your savings or invest, are very understanding. And if you are doing this to live a bit luxurious life or travel, express it if the man seems to be accustomed to that lifestyle. As long as you don’t seem desperate or show dependency, moderately expresses your financial needs is very understanding, regardless if you have everything together. And you can also always make up a clever financial need, haha. 

Idk man…

This post makes me think…

When I was a newbie, I didn’t accept a lower allowance because I felt I had to due to lack of experience, however, because at the time, the amount was A LOT of money to me and all I needed. I think that concept is what’s important when considering a lower allowance. 

Of course there are many newbies who go overboard with things and are delusional, however, requesting a 3k- 5k allowance is very reasonable. Especially when you are dealing with wealthy men. We preach about not being desperate for money or get played by manipulative rich men, and then turn around and advise girls to accept $200 offers for sex because they are “new” from men who make $500k and up. What sense does that make? Not to mention, everyone’s experiences are different. So what if it took you months to get that 3k allowance? Your journey is not that of another girl’s.

But, my biggest problem is with the undertone of the recent advice appearing on my dash. It appears newbies aren’t deserving of wanting more because certain women had to settle for less at the start of their journeys, therefore newbies do too. I’m all for calling out newbies for their delusional wants and expectations, but asking for 3k- 5k allowances from wealthy men is very reasonable. And in this instance, I felt trying to compare the $200- $500 hourly rates of successful escorts to the $200- $500 weekly allowances or per meet offers being rejected by new sugar babies, was a flawed attempt to further the notion that newbies rejecting those offers think they are better than everyone else, snobby, or superior. Escorts are on per hour basis, most sugar babies are not. 

Nothing is wrong with a newbie accepting $200 if thats what she seeks, while at the same time, I wouldn’t call her out for rejecting it either. I think the advice isn’t genuine and this recent stream of advice telling newbies to settle for lesser allowances “because I had to when I was a newbie”, is from deeper rooted issues or envies.