Diary of a Sugar Baby

Oh honey 😂😂

So bummed I missed out on this prize of a guy!

Nothing funnier then a salty POT who doesn’t know who tf you are. As if I don’t have cash me out calvin, spoil me shawn, private island isaac, and shopping spree sam lined up to see this month👏🏻😂

xo

Update: June 3rd, 2019

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Hey Babydolls!

Tonight is my last night at the beach with my S/D Cal. It’s been an amazing trip, did a lot of shopping today, and spent quite a bit of time at the beach! The new bags, relaxation and daiquiris were much needed! 🥂

After my first initial postings about traveling to see two of my out of state SDs, I received a lot of messages asking for tips/advice on meeting with POT/SDs that require long distance travel arrangements. So while I’m sitting here on the beach, I’ve decided to compile a list of things I hope offer some answers and insight on the frequent questions I’ve been getting!

BEFORE meeting

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1.) Make sure you REALLY know who you’re traveling to meet.

• Know his real name, a photo form of government issued I.D is a great way to confirm this.

• FaceTime/ Skype/ Snapchat Vid Call him, or oovoo him. (He can fake his pictures, but not likely a video chat.)

• Look him up! Run his name on google, and

a background check platform.

2.) Make sure you guys are on the same page, about EVERYTHING.

• The compensation you are receiving

should be clearly stated, EXACT numbers.

• Form of compensation should be clear as well. (cash, direct deposit, etc.)

• Compensation should always be given up front, make sure he is aware and prepared.

• Has sex been discussed in a respectful and mutual manner? Whether you are comfortable, OR NOT, with intimacy should be clear. (Condoms are a standard ladies and gentlemen, for your own health do no risk it. Bringing your own supply ensures an untampered with option at the ready.)

3.) Making Travel/Lodging Arrangements.

• Always first request an airline voucher/gift card so you can manage your own travel arrangements.

• If the POT insists on taking care of your tickets themself, always call the airport and confirm the legitimacy of the information you are provided.

• If the POT offers their private jet, always request to fly commercial first for the initial meeting. Explain you are not comfortable boarding a private aircraft until after becoming acquainted with them. Private planes are much more comfortable and tend to take off quicker however, definitely utilize this option after you are comfortable you’ve had a successful meeting.

•First meeting trips should only be between 2-3 days.

• Request private appropriate lodging. There is no reason to stay in the POT’s personal home/condo/flat. This is a must for your safety, as well as privacy.

• Research the hotel your POT suggests. Confirm it is up to your standards, and that its location is in a safe neighborhood.

• The hotel room should be in YOUR name. Confirm this by calling the hotel itself, and have them confirm your reservation.

4.) Safety First

• ALWAYS tell someone where you are going, when you are going, and with whom you are meeting.

• If possible, tell a trusted individual you know in real life all of the above information.

• If for privacy and discretion reasons you are unable to alert someone in your real life, ALWAYS alert a sugar sister. We are a loving community of support, and I for one have been blessed with many friendships through the bowl, and I’m sure many of you have as well. There are so many of us who are more then happy to be a friend and confidant to any sugar babes out there looking for a support team. (Most of my layovers and plane transfers I spend talking/facetiming my sugar babe friends, seriously so amazing to be able to talk to someone who is likeminded and knows what experiences you encounter! This can also really help shake any nerves you may have; by talking it out with someone who understands! 🥰) My inbox is always open to you babydolls! ((Sometimes messages get burried due to an overload of spam 🙄))

• Upon arrival after your plane lands, request private transportation arrangements that do not include your POT present. Getting into the car alone with him before checking into the hotel and settling in is not ideal or safe. Your first meeting should be public, not in his vehicle. Suggest he sends you an Uber/lyft gift card, or some taxi fare that will cover the full amount of the trip from the airport to your lodging space. This way you can arrange your own arrival to the hotel, allowing yourself time to freshen up, as well as time to get comfortable- And it’s safer!

• ALWAYS travel with emergency money on your debit/credit card. Should something go wrong, or change last minute, you need to be able to adapt! Whether that be getting yourself a new hotel room or plane ticket, you should be prepared to take care of yourself if necessary.

5.) Packing Guidance

• Discuss what the plans will be for the time you spend down there. Will you be going to the Yacht club? Music theater? Louvre de france? Knowing your plans will help you pack appropriately and efficiently!

• Check out the weather forecast for where you are traveling to, plan accordingly.

• Pack a few back-up outfits! A zipper can break, a dress can snag, but you can be one step ahead of these fashion disasters.

•Review TSA guidelines as to what amounts of liquid and powder can be brought through security. (3.4 ounces) Double check all the cosmetics you are bringing! There’s nothing worse then having an agent rummage through your belongings and confiscating a precious product all because it’s size is an issue!

•Pack travel size cosmetics you are comfortable with! Traveling to meet a POT is not the time to discover you have an allergy, or just overall unsatisfied in a product you purchased just because it was in the travel size section. Buy travel canisters/containers you can transfer the products you’re already using into instead.

• Pepper spray in the the purse is always a nice touch!

• Always leave a little space in your luggage for any shopping scores. However, if your shopping was EXTRA successful, don’t be afraid to let your POT know you need additional luggage space to be purchased. Also note, often times airlines will charge extra for more baggage to be included, remind him of that fee he needs to take care of as well.

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If your POT has any objections to any of the above, trust your gut and tell him goodbye, sugar daddies are replaceable- you are not. Your safety is key, never compromise yourself during this process for any reason, there is no payout worth your life.

But don’t forget to have fun! Breathe! This trip is about meeting a potential man who is going to take care of you the way you deserve to be! Enjoy the journey 😘

xo

YOUR COMPETITION IS NOT OTHER SUGAR BABIES.

I cannot stress this enough.

If you find yourself comparing your sugar journey to others, you can fall into the trap of frustration and anger.

I’ve received some private messages expressing feelings of inadequacy, asking how I as well as others who post about their SDs have been able to get where we are, when on their own side they haven’t had such luck...

PLEASE remember every single one of us have a different story, and a different starting point, so you simply cannot base your progress off of someone else’s experiences.

I personally have been in the bowl for 5 years now, so trust me when I say nothing happens over night. For every success story I share, trust and believe there’s just as many flops as well. For every SD trip I talk about, there’s just as many failed dates and awkward meetings I’ve sat through as well.

When I share pictures and updates about my time spent with my SDs, it’s never meant to put anyone else down, and certainly not to brag or make anyone feel bad about their own journey in the bowl. I share my experiences to remind other sugar babies that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that staying focused will eventually pay off if you let it.

Your only competition as a sugar baby is the person you were yesterday.

Many of us when we started out in the bowl had to overcome feelings of anxiety, fear, and just general discomfort as we tackled a whole new way of life. If you have dealt with these feelings, you should be proud of yourself for just that! Many people cannot get past this step, so you’re already ahead of the game here!

If you took the time to make a profile on Seeking Arrangement, or any other sugar baby platform, and if you take the time to check your inbox regularly- you should be proud of yourself.

If you take the time to go free lance in hopes of connecting with a sugar daddy, you should be proud of yourself.

If you take the time to make an effort to get all dressed up, and to make yourself look fabulous for a SD date, you should be proud of yourself.

If a man hands you any amount of money just for being you, you should be proud of yourself.

All these things put you on a path to success, whether the results are immediate or not, you should be pretty damn proud of yourself- and I’m proud of you as well.

5 years ago I was 17 and living in my third foster home, separated from my only brother, recovering from the sexual abuse of my previous foster “father”.

I was happy to even receive a message on SA offering a free meal and a mere hundred dollars.

Today, I have several long terms SDs who are putting me through college, have supported me to where I actually have a savings account, and take me on trips around the world.

Looking back on where I have started, I have come a long way- and none of this would have been possible if I would have given up and gotten discouraged after all the failed meetings, and SD encounters that made me want to stop being in the bowl all together.

I am living proof that if you stick to it, and persevere through all the experiences, you will allow yourself to have the life you’ve always wanted.

If you look back on the person you were when you started your sugar baby experience, and if you’re doing even only slightly better then your previous self, hell even if you have $20 more dollars to your name- you’re living proof too.

And that’s pretty awesome if you ask me.

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Update: October 24, 2019

Exciting news! I officially now have a residence in New York. One of my SDs who lives full time up there leased an apartment for me in Manhattan, so I can come and go as I please without having to stay in a hotel every time.

The view is absolutely beautiful, and located right next to Central Park. (where I looove going on runs.)

While I won’t be living here full time, (since my college is in my home state), I will definitely be making more trips up there as my schedule allows. Do any of you SBs live or frequent NY as well? Would love to meet up if so for drinks and to just hang out if so! 😄 Shoot me a message babydolls. (I don’t know a lot of people up here, and my NY sugar daddy stays pretty busy. It gets lonely!)

I hope all of you have been enjoying this spooky season of October, and that your bank accounts are extra full this month!

xo

hey babe - 2 answers to this post: theoretical and actual. I cannot tell if this is actually happening to you, or if this is something that is starting to happen and you’re worried about the end results.

Theoretically:

So there are a lot of red flags in a SD who won’t give you cash. Like... why not? It’s very easy to stop at an ATM and withdraw money. Any concerns that his S/O would find out are equally mirrored (if not heightened) by any other transaction form: PayPal, cash app, Venmo, etc. So cash is a beyond reasonable expectation. It fundamentally makes no sense that the alternative would be using a credit card. 

That being said, he’s like a scam... a splenda/salt at best. I would keep moving and looking for a better POT who can actually support you.

Actual

So if you are in the first part of the situation for reals, and you still decide you want to go through with it, you need to be very wary and protective of you/your information. The cc could be a way for him to try to get more information on you (name, address, etc.) so continue using a fake number with him and ideally use it to purchase gift cards or anything that doesn’t require an address to mail stuff to. Still not fool-proof and/or inherently “safe,” but a decent way of doing things.

As for the possibility of a wife finding out and asking for the money back - that’s more messy than legally obligating. You can simply say no... ideally not responding at all and virtually disappearing (he shouldn’t be able to find you at this point). It will get messy if she continues pursuing it and is able to with your real information, but as long as you keep the text messages from him giving you full permission, it’s likely you won’t have to pay any of it back - he chose to give you these things fair and square, and it likely would get laughed at in court.

The only issue with this whole thing is the messy-factor in you might be threatened or legally embarrassed by this process... thereby "out-ed” as a SBSW, so it’s best you disappear at the first sign of trouble and just never message or engage further about the purchases. 

But ya, overall, avoid. If you chose not to, keep all the messages as proof and make sure you have the option to disappear by not letting him(them) know your name, address, or contact info.

^^^^ This is some good advice!!

Be wary of the SD who won’t give you cash. In addition to the reasons above; one of the best parts of having an SD provided allowance is the encouraged option of saving. Being able to collect cash allows you to save/invest for your future- you never know what’s down the road for you, and you’ll always need money anyway!

Hey baby girl! First of all, there is nothing to be afraid of. My guess is that he wants you to send him nudes or videos as blackmail. But what you should do is call him on his bluff. Say something like “You think I’m scared of you? You think I care that anyone knows what I do?” Even if its not true. He might back off right then and there. BUT if he doesn’t; I have some steps for you to take. 

1. Is he married? Prestigious? Does he want anyone to know about his private life? I hope so. Because you are going to either ask him for his email address if you don’t already have it. Tell him you’re sending him an email.

2. Go to spypig.com or ifread.com These are email tracking services. They will create an emoji for you to copy and paste into the email that you’re sending to this man. Once he opens the email you will be notified of when he opens it. Along with his IP address and location.

3. NOW, this next part is optional. You can either let him know that you have his IP address, his real name, and his address (which is a bluff because you’ll only have his IP address and basic location) and you will also out him. Or you can go the additional mile, and actually find this info. Otherwise known as DOXing. 

4. If you’d like to actually DOX him, there are plenty of tutorials online. However, I’m not going to give direct instructions because this is a serious matter and is a FELONY. So if you’d like to actually DOX this asshole, please message me. 

March 10th 2020

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Hey guys!

First update of the new year here!

It’s been too long again, but even when I’m not posting I’m still on here seeing all your guys’s messages and posts- happy it seems like everyone is doing well! ❤️

Just returned to my home state after having been in New York this past week! Spent majority of the time finishing putting up decorations in my new apartment. (Had it leased in October of ‘19, and it was only my third time staying there. Man when I say I’ve been busy, I’m not even playing 🤪).

Didn’t do anything too fun while up there, truthfully been avoiding the general population as this corona health scare continues. Now I’m not one for perpetuating hysteria, but there have been confirmed cases in the state so better safe than sorry was my thinking.

Besides, my HW kept me otherwise busy safely indoors pouring hours into research and typing. Yay, lol.

Found out stagecoach and coachella might be getting postponed now too because of the virus??? (Do any of y’all also go to these music festivals as well?) Apparently within the next 48 hours a decision is to be made, but talks of rescheduling until October are on the table. It’ll be a bummer for sure, but for the public’s health I get it 🤷🏼‍♀️

In light of all this going on, I wanted to make a master post for the cleanest way to travel! Compiling tips and reminders for a safer way to use public spaces like an airport or train station, as well as the hotel rooms you stay in!

MUST HAVES for general travel:

-Hand sanitizer

-disinfectant wipes/ disposable plastic bag to place these items once used in.

-travel size lysol

Additional items during times of mass sickness:

-disposable gloves

-disposable masks

Airport/Plane Sanitation Tips:

1.) Always, always, always carry travel size hand sanitizer. This should be on your person, attached to your carry on, or purse, is a good spot.

2.) Sanitize your hands often. Especially after using one of the touch screen ticket kiosks, handling the bins you push your belongings through security in, also if you touch the handle rail on the stairs/escalators.

3.) Disposable gloves are not a bad option to have on hand either. Are these a necessity? Certainly not, but in times of mass virus spreading, ensuring your own health through any measures available is the right thing to do.

4.) Use the aforementioned disinfectant wipes to wipe down the handles of your airplane seat and tray.

5.) Also use the disinfectant wipes if your seat has a touch screen TV option in front of you.

6.) Those magazines in the seat pocket have been touched by everyone and their mom, don’t even think about it 😂 bring your own to look through!

7.) Disposable masks. Secure a box and hang on to them! Did I wear a mask the entire time I was at the airports this past week? YES. Even while on the plane. (Now do I normally do this? No. This tip is for times like now with Corona being on the rise, not necessary in events of normal travel.)

- if you don’t want to wear a mask the entire time you’re in the airport, consider wearing one at least in times of being stagnant near large groups of people. Like in lines at security, baggage claim, and while boarding on the ramp. (You could keep your mask on while sitting on the plane until you confirm you don’t hear people in the vicinity coughing or sneezing too.)

Hotel Sanitization:

1.) Now, obviously you should only stay at a hotel or Airbnb that you feel comfortable in, one in which you trust that their cleanliness is up to par- you can confirm this by researching and reading their reviews before booking!

2.) Upon arrival, wipe down any common surfaces with Lysol and/or disinfectant wipes.

- Places to consider: door knobs, tv remotes, light switches, ac/heat control panel, faucet knobs, coffee machine buttons, and room telephone.

3.) Inspect the bed sheets for any damage or stains. Bringing your own linens is always a good clean option as well! If I have the space for a change of sheets I’ll pack them, but at the very least I bring my own pillow cases every single time!

4.) Peel back the fitted sheet and examine the mattress for bedbugs or signs of them. Alert management right away if you spot dried blood stains, or anything suspect, which will almost never be the case in a reputable hotel- but worth a check nonetheless!

5.) Before using the shower, squirt shampoo in the tub and run the water on hot for a minute to decrease the number of germs where you’ll be standing, even if the bottom of the tub looks clean- DO IT ANYWAY. Laying a spare bath towel on the shower floor and standing on it for the duration of your wash is always a good way to eliminate likeliness of contact with any biofilm or fungus.

6.) Never touch the drapes. Forever haunted after reading a whole article about how statistically they’re one of the most likely yet overlooked place to trap a lot of debris and allergens, subsequently allowing germ build up over time.

7.) It’s best to limit direct skin contact with the carpet and furniture. Wear socks or slippers while walking around, and be fully clothed when sitting on chairs or the sofa.

8.) Don’t forget to show your hotel bathroom some love. Disinfecting the toilet seat and flusher should always be priority!

A lot of these may be common sense, but I’m sharing the reminders because I care, and being sick is absolutely no fun. If sounding like a broken record keeps even just a little bit healthier, than I’m cool with being that guy 😂

It’s important to remember that your chances of contracting the Corona virus, or any viral infections are very slim. This is statistically proven of course. But your chances are even lower when practicing good cleaning habits. It’s not “doing too much” when your health is on the line 💁🏼‍♀️

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I’ll be making a new post very very soon! So stay tuned for a more interesting update babydolls!

In the meantime, I hope you all of you have had an amazing start of the year thus far. Here’s to 2020 bringing all of you an outpouring of wealth, love, health and happiness throughout all of its remaining days.

Talk soon!

xo

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Hey guys!

It’s been almost a month since this initial post of mine, and a lot has certainly changed in regards to Corona Virus.

While my suggestions were ways to travel safer during this pandemic, I want to now come back and clarify that the only way to truly remain safe is by not traveling, but rather by staying home and quarantining.

(You guys knows this!)

My previous post is full of good ways to travel cleaner otherwise, but they should be stored for when it’s safe to begin traveling again!

I hope all of you are practicing good social distancing, and are not risking any unnecessary travel, or SD dates that could simply just wait!

We’re all in this together, and it will take a team effort. If we all play it smart and do this right- we’ll all be enjoying our hamptons vacation with our SDs soon.

Sending love and health to you and yours ❤️

xo

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