If you can't be a rock and support, you aren't ready to be a dom. For that is what a dom is.
You don't have to be a hard, stoic and impervious all the time to be dominant. You do need a stable vision, secure heart and reliable presence.
Build room in your presence, and if you are lucky, a sub or lover will occupy you as their place of refuge.
Like other places of refuge, some may be fundamentally dangerous or chaotic. These places are only sanctuaries if they offer their protection in a way their wards can intuit reliably. If you can't know yourself, no one else can either.
I have heard many people say trust is the most important aspect of a kink or BDSM relationship.
It is the relationship.
It is the bridge that sustains dominance and submission.
It sustains security and devotion.
That's the fundamentals.
If you’re interested in being my sub please read the following:
Requirements to be my submissive/my limits: https://www.tumblr.com/suffocatingdeviancy/742464926386356224/would-you-be-open-to-owning-an-online-sub-what
Do I accept male subs too:
https://www.tumblr.com/suffocatingdeviancy/742506707320815616/do-you-enjoy-male-subs-or-just-female-asking-for
