When did someone bash people who were saying thank you in the SB? The only things I have seen are this:
“I gift people in the SB a lot, but I almost never see a thank you for it anywhere… [they like to say thank you in the SB and assume their gifter is constantly looking at the SB for their gift acknowledgement, I guess, instead of posting it on the forums so I know they appreciated and/or liked their gifts] So, for posting, I thank you.”
and this... “ I really love all the gifts I get and Itry to comment on profiles when I can but anons always get thanked in SB and now Im concerned i look ungrateful for all the things people send to me, randomly or not.”
So let us address these, Anon. The first quote came from the post “A Note to Jacegem” in which an anon gifter was expressing nothing but gratitude for actually seeing a thank you as they normally don’t see them in the SB due to walking away, clicking another tab, being busy, etc. This is to assume that this person has other things going on and isn’t paying tons of attention to the SB for extended periods of time. This isn’t bashing, blaming, shaming, any of it. It was simply gratitude for a small gesture of courtesy to post on the forums. Something I see a lot is that someone anon’s an SBer and they had logged off, come back an hour later or a day later and expect that their thank you will still be seen by their gifter if they just post in the SB, because a lot of people lurk the SB even if they never post. This is impractical. Unless you know who sent you the anon gift, you cannot ever be sure your thanks will be seen by the proper set of eyes. I am not against people thanking in the SB, honestly, but if you want a better chance of your gratitude for the gift being seen, the forums are a MUCH better alternative.
The second paragraph is the post “On the topic of gifting...” I don’t really feel that this can be classified as bashing, blaming, or shaming either. The person is expressing that they typically do their thank you’s privately, it seems like... Commenting their profiles, that is. “But anons always get thanked in the SB and now I’m concerned I look ungrateful” ...There’s honestly no way to look “ungrateful” as a result of everyone else saying thank you in the SB. The anon gift forum thread exists for a reason. Some use it, some don’t. Some say thanks in the SB, some don’t. It’s all preference. If you JUST received the gift, saying thank you in the SB is feasible. If you received it yesterday, or 6 hours ago, what have you... and you wish to say thanks, it is my personal opinion that using the gift bragging forum is the best option.
So again, I restate, nobody appears to be bashing, blaming, or shaming anyone for saying thank you in the SB. Nobody is ‘assaulting’ anyone else here. Are you really going to say someone sending presents is being assaultive? Sounds pretty contradictory to me.. I digress, saying thank you in the SB isn’t the worst thing on earth, it’s just not a very promising way to say ‘thank you’ for something due to how fast it moves, how likely your gifter is to see it, and the fact that you cannot view previous posts once they disappear off the SB.
