The Darkling does have some very human qualities. Whenever he doesn't get what he wants, he behaves like a wounded child. He craves the love of a desperate nation... and he craves power
When it comes to redemption, however, he is still a long way from it. He still carries a part of the brilliant boy he once was, but he is far from innocent. And when he makes a threat, he truly means it. He is not a man who speaks empty words—his words are every bit as calculated as his actions.
Sorry it took me a minute to reply, I was spending time with my family over the 4th of July.
Please know that this is not meant to be hate or disdain towards you or your beliefs, merely an analysis of your words and why I disagree with what you said.
Firstly, Aleksander does not "have some very human qualities" as you put it: He is human, irrevocably and unchangeably. While he may be much older than your ordinary human, he still feels and thinks and acts dangerously, achingly human. He loves his mother and puts up with her cruelty and bitterness, even though that is the last thing she deserves, because like all people, he desires nothing more than to give and receive love (as evidenced by how SHE IS STILL ALIVE AFTER ALL THIS TIME. A real monster would have killed her the second she got on his nerves. Aleksander does get openly irritated with her behavior, yes, who wouldn't. But it takes her betrayal in sending Alina away for him to finally DO something to her. And as several people on this platform have pointed out, there is no good reason presented in the text as to why she could not remove the shadows over her eyes herself). He is fiercely devoted to and protective of the Grisha, because they are his people, his culture, his lifeblood (Even though little to nothing has changed regarding the treatment of Grisha - go read Demon in the Wood and compare how the Grisha were treated then vs how they are treated in other nations during the Grisha Trilogy - he has remained in a position of servitude and stuck with the Grisha rather than disappearing with his dear ole' mum or striking out on his own). And I believe that he truly loved Alina -perhaps not entirely romantically, but he cares for her despite her flaws, despite the fact that she made them enemies (How and why could he have trusted Alina with the truth of who he was? Why did he laugh at her frankly unfunny jokes? Why did he never take advantage of their tether to manipulate her into coming to him, or at least break her mentally? He didn't even really say anything to her until that night she asked him why he didn't leave her alone!). Aleksander has not become uncaring and cold in the endless centuries of pain and loss. That's very clear to me in the text. He was born human, he died human, and even in resurrection was human. You will not and can not convince me otherwise.
"Whenever he doesn't get what he wants, he behaves like a wounded child" so first he's not really human and now he's a child. Please, pick a lane. And please give me an example of him acting "like a wounded child" because I quite frankly do not recall any such instances. Aleksander's a good bit emotionally constipated, alas, but he is very much a man. A very thoughtful, careful general, mind you. One who has BEEN LEADING A BLOODY ARMY FOR ABOUT 400 YEARS.
"He craves the love of a desperate nation" he craves love period. Because his mother never gave it to him and his relationships with anyone else will always be shadowed by the sad fact that he will eventually lose them all. Because that's part of what makes him human. Are you wrong for wanting the love of your family? For wanting people to like and understand you? Or does that make you and me just as depraved and "inhumane" as him?
I also don't think it's only love he seeks. I think he also craves acknowledgement, to be appreciated for everything he's done not just for Grisha, but for all of Ravka. To cease to be their monster. To be recognized as the savior for once in his life. For someone to look and say "good job, you did well". But that could very well merely be me self-projecting myself onto him.
Need I remind you why Ravka is so desperate to begin with? Because of the incompetence of mortal men, particularly the Lanstov line.
"And he craves power" well why does he? What does he intend to use that power for? I always understood it as him wanting power so he can finally enact lasting change for the benefit of Grisha and Ravka. There are also several others on Tumblr whom I follow and repost often who have reached the same conclusion. Ones like stromuprisahat, lilu787788, rotteddesires, and starrfettii, to name a few, who are Darkling supporters who often post detailed analysis on Leigh Bardugo's work and the Shadow and Bone Show that I highly recommend you take a look at.
"When it comes to redemption, however, he is still a long way from it." This I actually agree with you on. Because Aleksander needs no redemption. Merriam-Webster defines redemption as "the act, process, or an instance of serving to offset or compensate for a defect". Usually people use the term redemption to refer to villains or antagonists changing their ways and joining the protagonist's side.
Sasha has no major defects that require offsetting, nor would I EVER want him to change or join ALINA'S side of the fight. He's perfect just the way he is.
"He still carries a part of the brilliant boy he once was, but he is far from innocent." Nobody in the bloody Grishaverse is an innocent. Alina murdered an entire skiff full of ambassadors and soldiers, for crying out loud. As for that "brilliant boy part"... *sigh* Listen, one of the reasons I hate Alina so much is because she can only ever seem to compare Aleksander to a child or a monster, never the man he is. And you seem to have the same problem. Please, try and form an independent opinion on the state of this man's soul outside of the verbatim Alina constantly spews before talking to me again.
"And when he makes a threat, he truly means it." I SHOULD BLOODY HOPE SO, given that HE'S A MILITARY LEADER who seeks political power!!!! Seriously, what's even the point of making a threat if you cannot or will not follow through on it? If you don't follow through on your word, it shows that you don't have the strength or integrity to be seriously considered trustworthy, and it undermines your authority. That's just common observation skills, dear.
"He is not a man who speaks empty words—his words are every bit as calculated as his actions." Again, THAT'S A GOOD THING, AND NOT SOMETHING TO HOLD AGAINST HIM, UNLIKE THAT GOOD-FOR-NOTHING HUMAN FLASHLIGHT AND THE PUPPY PRINCE.
Hope you have a wonderful day/night, God loves you, and I love Sasha. Nothing you or anyone else says or does could ever change that. 😊