carer who regulates your nervous system
1. carer who is always curious before accusational. youre regressed and keep making a mess of your craft supplies right after they clean it up? "hey bubs, is this a special pile?" they wait patiently. "dada i hasa find da perfct stiker an an paper fow dis!" they understand and try to find a solution to make both of you happy. "okay bubs, can you be dadas little helper and sort your supplies in this box? dada can help you dump them in, yeah?" when you're both done, "awwee you're dadas sweet litle baby! have fun!"
you will never hear any kind of toxic message from them.
2. carer who is always conscious of your headspace and adjusts their behavior based off their conclusion. youre in toddlerspace and too fussy at bedtime? "baby girl, look at mommy, yes, I know you don't wanna go nini, but if you stay up all night, you'll be too sleepy to run around the convention." using the appropriate methods to take care of you. "noooooo! i not!!" "okay then, can you snuggle up with mama while she reads your favorite book? we're not sleeping, we're just gonna get comfy under the covers and dim the lights-- you know mamas eyes are sensitive" spoiler alert: kiddo did end up falling eep
they will never take advantage of your vulnerability or poke fun at your regression.
3. carer who doesn't bat an eye for anything lgbtq related. (bonus points if they are in that community themselves). you have to take a testosterone shot and you're afraid of needles? "sweet pea I can do it for you, can you be brave and hold onto (stuffie name) while carer takes care of it? yeah? okay look away!"
or "squirt, I know you're scared but look at your papa! he takes these alllll the time, here, ill show you it isnt so scary!" you guys can take your shots together :)
"good job kiddo! here, i got (fav cartoon) bandaids for you! let carer put them on!"
4. carer who doesn't bat an eye for anything disability. (bonus points if they are in that community themselves). you're autistic and get overstimulated with certain things? they fully accomodate you and try their best to avoid said thing, but if its inevitable, they always have sensory stuff for you. you have a physical disability? they research all about it and surprise you with the "i know" when you start subconsciously explaining or just already inputting a change
(ok we're speedrunning now bc im kinda tired of long ones so we multiplying)
5. carer who doesnt care how unconventional or not common a thing is, they believe you on it, listen, and work together to tackle it
6. carer who happily changes you whether its an accident, occasional, or daily thing. carer who literally is cool w pullups, diapers, whatever
