Starrlighttheestud ⚢

My first Substack article is out now! https://open.substack.com/pub/starrlightthestud/p/transphobia-pink-pill-and-feminism?r=4xhx2j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

The queer community is public enemy number 1 to a lot of bigots and it’s extremely irritating to see everything queer content creators say get chopped and skewed by cishet people with a bone to pick about our existence.

My latest Substack article is out now!: https://open.substack.com/pub/starrlightthestud/p/you-dont-have-to-earn-your-masculinity?r=4xhx2j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

I’ve previously talked about how mascs and studs often times get placed in the gender gray area when it comes to our interactions with cishet people. We’re seen as too masculine to be viewed as women up until people want to dehumanize and fetishize us by making extremely gross sexual remarks to “remind” us of our womanhood. This treatment extends to how we are treated when we show any form of emotion outside of stoicism, when we aren’t the most handy when it comes to physical tasks, and when we decide to make decisions regarding our reproductive health such as family planning with our girlfriends or wives. I’ve had moments in my life where I’ve questioned my masculinity because other people didn’t view me masculine enough to be considered a stud; this caused me so much internal frustration because I felt like I had to put out more masculine attributes to gain respect from people both inside and outside of the queer community. However, as I’ve gotten older, I realize that my presentation and attributes of masculinity are unique to me as an individual and I must surround myself with people who don’t question the validity of my expression. My only hope is that younger mascs and studs come to this same realization, queerness can have some growing pains but, it’s important that we don’t minimize our places within the world and to not look at our gender expression with the same harsh criticism that we often times receive from bigoted cishets. We deserve a mental and physical safe place to land and to be loved❤️

I believe that certain women recloset themselves and flee from lesbian love because of how passionate it can be. When you share a level of intimacy with a woman that’s so unique to your circumstances, when the sex is mind blowing every time, and when you both have shared experiences of how cruel the world can be but, the two of you can still find peace in each other, that can be very anxiety inducing to a woman who comes from a religious background that teaches woman’s pleasure as unimportant and even “sinful” or “selfish” it causes women like the Jackie Hill Perry’s of the world to run back to religion because they felt like they’ve done something wrong by falling deeply in love with another woman who shares the same love for her. We can even see this play out in an unrequited love situation as well. I’ll never forget when I watched “The L Word: Hate The Sin” and one of the participants who was a butch trying to go through her own personal conversion from a lesbian to heterosexual and feminine and I think it was because she was deeply in love with a friend that appears in the documentary yet, she realized they could never be together because the friend was straight and came from a christian background.

My Substack is officially under construction, stay tuned you guys!!! More long form writings are coming!!