Hi Starling

Referencing my previous poll post :

sun/moon, moon/venus, venus/mars, 7th house/8th house/pluto, 12th house

Sun/Moon synastry is underrated as it can indicate incredible understanding and growth between two people, and most of the time it’s just seamless. There is so much admiration, care, and desire for the wellbeing of the other person. It’s great for friendships but also for long-standing relationships. It can move between phases though due to the nature of the moon, but this is one of those connections that can remain for some time. You may also achieve more together, as if things just come together rather easily. I manifested riding in multiple dream cars with a person I have this with. These connections bring treasured experiences, ones that make you feel as if you’re growing into the person you’re meant to become. High potential for being best friends here and growing very close/intimate.

Moon/Venus synastry is simply wonderful. It makes two people very genuine with one another, and the intimacy can feel so healing. Each time I have this with someone, I feel so happy to be in their presence. It is a blessing to be together and the level of comfort and understanding is amazing. There is little else that compares to be honest, but the nature of the Moon makes things move between phases. So overall, these connections can be really healthy and beneficial depending on the individual charts. So much love and compassion can be experienced and often a mutual desire to just be close to one another no matter where or what is happening. They are your safe haven and your sanctuary.

Venus/Mars synastry can indicate chemistry! I mean obviously as both these planets rule over attraction. There can be a tendency to desire the other person despite any inherent differences, there is something instinctual that pulls you together. I cannot say much as I haven’t experienced or seen this energy play out.

8th house/Pluto synastry is probably the one I’ve most experienced, and I have a definite love/hate relationship with it. The dynamic is very much love/hate, push/pull, take me/leave me, fuck you/fuck me…ugh it’s intense and transformative for sure. These connections can be ride/die too, and are sexually charged but also hard to let go of, even when you know you gotta. These connections make you feel so alive and you will want to live for this person, even when you should walk away. I think it magnifies anything unconscious or any uncomfortable energies you might have or feel within yourself. It’s the house of psychology so it’s natural to want to unload your trauma—#traumabond. If you aren’t prepared to deal with your shit then go ahead and pack your shit because this won’t be for you. It’s hard to resist and can leave an imprint like no other. Even long after the connection has ended, this person will remain embedded in you somehow, you’ll keep some intimate part of them and they’ll keep some intimate part of you. There is an intrigue here that makes both parties want to delve deeper, and there is often so much understanding as well. It can be scary and frustrating because you almost want to protect yourself, but these connections will only help you know yourself more deeply. The intensity and context of the charts involved will color the nature of the connection. I’ve experienced Venus-8th house many times and it just seems like we can’t stay away from each other and cutting loose takes effort and so much processing. Ending one of these connections made me feel like I was at my end and I wish I were exaggerating, it was very tragic the way it played out. My best advice is to stay real and trust yourself! If your intuition tells you something is off, listen! If you feel like you should dive deeper, listen! These connections are irresistible yes but don’t be manipulated by the allure of it all!

12th house synastry is also irresistible but can also be hard to come to terms with. This is the house of endings, so anything began here will feel…strange to say the least. It can be a battle between the two people, but often others will see these things more than you. There’s this guy whose Mars falls into my 12th house, and two people have mentioned our chemistry and had me like “wait what?” but like it really does exist, hard as it may be to explain. Also, the dreams of each other are very powerful. I had a sex dream of this guy and let’s just say I notice how attracted I am to him more and more these days. These connections can indicate understanding despite how difficult things may be to explain. These connections can also leave us in a state of self-sabotage as well as sometimes (more often than not) they can turn unhealthy and we just don’t want to see this side of the connection. So pay attention to the vibes you guys. If things feel off, let it be okay? Don’t force, just go with the flow and wait for things to improve or be willing to walk away. Often, there’s so much pressure here and space and time to process and explore possibilities is needed. These are deeply impactful and intimate connections that require wisdom and an inner knowing, and with that they can turn into the most beautiful connections. Honestly all the water houses can indicate powerful synastry, but the 12th house is one of pure magic.

Honorable Mention: 7th house synastry. Ah the house of marriage and commitment. You’ll probably want to have a long-term relationship with these people and it is likely, but as with all synastry it depends on the nature of the charts involved. It’s rather nice synastry as it brings mutual awareness and understanding of what the connection is. However, it can also indicate co dependency. Honestly, I’ve wanted to marry both people I’ve had this synastry with…and I would have regretted it. Take my advice and make sure you know what the hell you want from someone, and if not that then at least know what you don’t want. It’ll save you so much time and energy! I don’t dislike it, but it’s not my fav! It can make you complacent and needy, as the 7th house is our shadow side too. It’s the side of ourselves that is shown within others and often these people end up just annoying me, even if I want to kiss them. Truth be told, you’ll learn a lot about relationships here and it’ll definitely leave its mark. This synastry is 50/50 for me, it can go either way but honey it’s definitely going!

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝐒𝐓 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the first house represents a beautiful and pleasant exterior. This placement suggests a pleasant, attractive facial appearance, graceful physical movements, and a charming way of speaking. It can also be interpreted as having a peaceful and calming presence. With this placement, one may have a pleasant voice that is enjoyable to hear. Additionally, a Venus in the first house indicates that the individual's appearance plays an important role in their sense of identity, self-worth, and ego.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟐𝐍𝐃 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the second house suggests a harmonious connection between physical possessions and values. It also implies a focus on material possessions and personal comfort. While this placement can suggest an individual with a more refined taste, it may also create a reliance on material luxuries. Additionally, with Venus in the second house, one may have an affinity for collecting items and seeking physical pleasure in life. Their values and priorities may be more aligned with material goods and possessions.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟑𝐑𝐃 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the third house represents a focus on communication and mental stimulation. This individual may have a charming and well-spoken manner and a tendency to express themselves concisely and effectively. They may also have a passion for learning, exploring new ideas, and engaging in intellectual pursuits. With this placement, one may excel at writing and expressing themselves verbally. Additionally, they may have a gentle and diplomatic approach to interactions, using their communication skills to mediate conflicts.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the fourth house indicates a focus on home and family. The individual with this placement may have a strong attachment to their roots, childhood home, and family history. They may have an appreciation for the stability, security, and comforts that come with a nurturing environment. They may also be deeply attached to their family's customs and traditions. With this placement, one may be drawn to creating a family or extending their ancestral line. Additionally, this placement suggests being driven to protect and nurture others, especially their loved ones.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟓𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the fifth house represents a strong emphasis on creativity, passion, romance, and sensuality. This placement suggests someone with a playful nature and a focus on expressing their creativity and enjoyment of the arts. With this placement, one may have a lively imagination, a passion for creative pursuits, and an interest in exploring their sense of fun and creativity. They may also enjoy a lively social life, as they seek out a passionate and energetic romantic partner. Lastly, with this placement, one's children may be a prominent focus and concern..

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟔𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the sixth house indicates a focus on service, duty, and dedication to others. The individual with this placement may have a strong desire to be useful and helpful to those around them. They may have high standards of discipline and work ethic, and take pride in being a hard worker. They may also focus much of their energy on their daily routine and developing a healthy daily routine. Additionally, they may be conscious of their physical health, and pay close attention to maintaining it.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟕𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the seventh house suggests an emphasis on intimate relationships and one-on-one connections. The individual with this placement may be driven by their desire to find a romantic partner and may be driven to seek out relationships. They may be passionate about their relationships and take great care in cultivating them. Additionally, they may have a keen intuition when it comes to relationships and be able to assess the compatibility of different pairings. This placement also suggests having an appreciation for one-on-one conversations and interactions.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟖𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the eighth house suggests a focus on the taboo, the mysterious, and the arcane. The individual with this placement may be drawn to exploring the dark and hidden sides of life. They may be interested in topics such as occultism and mysticism, and have a knack for uncovering hidden truths. Additionally, with this placement, the individual may have an intense desire for deep and intimate connections that go beyond physical attraction. They may form intense romantic relationships and may even gravitate towards having romantic connections with those who hold power.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟗𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the ninth house suggests a focus on expanding knowledge and broadening the mind. The individual with this placement may have an innate curiosity about the world and a desire to explore different cultures, traditions, and ideas. They may have a fascination with the mystical and the spiritual, and with exploring new concepts, experiences, and perspectives. Additionally, this placement suggests a desire to seek the truths of the universe and an appreciation for higher education.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝟎𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the tenth house suggests an emphasis on ambition, social status, and career goals. The individual with this placement may have a strong desire to achieve success and recognition in their career field. They may also have an eye for aesthetics and take particular pride in projecting a polished and elegant professional image. Additionally, this placement suggests a strong drive to achieve high social status and prestige, and a focus on maintaining a positive public image.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝟏𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the eleventh house suggests a focus on community, humanitarianism, and friendship. The individual with this placement may have a desire to help others and contribute to the well being of society. They may have an innate understanding of how to create harmony and positive vibrations within a group. They may also have an innate sense for finding common ground and bringing people together. Additionally, they may have a desire to expand their social circles and forge meaningful relationships with a wide range of people.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝟐𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the twelfth house suggests a focus on the subconscious, spirituality, and inner growth. The individual with this placement may have a deep, innate connection with the unseen energies of the world, and can be sensitive to energies that cannot be seen with the naked eye. They may be driven by a desire to understand and transform their own subconscious patterns and energy. They may also have a deep attraction to the mysterious and unknown, and feel drawn to explore the unexplored dimensions of life. Furthermore, the individual may experience strong dreams and have a strong intuition.

SYNASTRY & COMPOSITE NOTES 4

These are my personal observations and not facts. The whole chart has to be taken into consideration. Check out part 1, part 2 & part 3.

SYNASTRY:

The saying ”The flame that burns twice as bright, burns half as long” is so true with the hottest aspects unless the rest of the synastry is good. Especially hard Mars & Pluto synastry aspects. When its THAT hot it has to burn out. And when it does, it turns cold. These aspects can make yall go from enemies to lovers if you dont have the ”genuine like” aspects in synastry.

Venus conjunct Sun is one of the ”genuine like” aspects. While with Venus conjunct Ascendant you love the others look and behaviour but with Venus conjunct Sun their whole being match what you like.

You probably had 8th house or Lilith Synastry with that kid your parents didnt want you to play with.💀

The only friend Ive had who truly felt like a sister to me have her Moon in my 3rd house conjunct my IC.

If you have your mercury in someones 2nd house please think before you speak to them because your words can cut deep and affect their self esteem badly. They will remember what you said.

Squares to Neptune in synastry makes it sooo hard to see the other correctly and then BAM out of nowhere the honeymoon phase ends and you see EVERYTHING.

I never get tired of people I have 11th house synastry with. I can spend weeks seeing them everyday and still dont get tired because the connection is so easy and slightly detached.

Ascendant or MC in the others 8th/12th house can mean yall are not allowed to be seen together for some reasons. Someone might not like you hanging out with eachother.

Im not shocked Nicki Minaj Venus is in Megan Thee Stallions 8th house. This aspect can create a lot of rivalry bc of Venus matters.

Sun Opposite Mars = The Sun persons existense is a threath to the Mars persons masculinity and they might assert themselves fast. Mars might react to Sun person in a ”eat or be eaten” way.

With Moon Square Moon its common to have very different humour. What one see as fun the other finds completely innappropriate. House placement & aspects can change this a little but you will still have a lot of differences at the core.

12th house synastry can make one blindside the other.

COMPOSITE:

When yall have Venus in the 1st house in the composite yall light up when you see eachother. I swear when I have this with someone and we bump into eachother its like ”Omg are you here?!😍”

My dad and stepmom have composite Lilith 10th house and NOBODY wants them together and they seem to love that fact. They also have composite Sun 1st house and they got together for shallow reasons(finding eachother hot) even tho they arent compatible.

One of the hottest power couples Ive seen had composite Pluto conjunct Asc & Venus 10th house. They looked like they were created for eachother.

Aries Rising/MC or Mars in the 1st/10th in the composite chart = Everybody knows yall dont like eachother. The ”public beef” aspect.

Composite Moon conjunct Venus = Treating eachother carefully almost like a you are afraid they will break.🥹

Hailey & Justin got a Fama(408) & Juno(3) conjunct Sun in their composite chart + Destinn(6583) conjunct North Node.

ASTEROIDS:

Someone with Fortuna(19) conjunct your Sun can elevate your life completely.

Everytime I had Lilith conjunct Mercury with a friend I swear we couldnt have a normal convo. We had to gossip or talk shit about someone.

Be careful with Vesta(4) in synastry because Vesta is the asteroid of sacrifice. You will find yourself very devoted to someone who touches your Vesta and might be willing to sacrifice something that you will later regret.

His Lilith in my 11th house was a mess. Had this with my ex. Constant conflict bc of our friends. His friends hated me and my friends hated him. Several of his friends didnt want him with me. I was in conflict with several of his friends.

One of the most beautiful connections Ive ever experienced was with a guy where we both had our Psyche(16) conjunct eachothers Moon.

Groom(5129) conjunct Briede(19029) in synastry has to be the sweetest aspect. David Bowie and Iman have this one. Made to be.

People with asteroid Knight(29391) conjunct your personal planets tend to come into your life when you need it the most.

Musa(600) in synastry can make one very inspired artistically by the other.

Asteroid Fan(151590) in synastry can show someone who looks up to you a lot.

Hailey Biebers Groom(5129) is conjunct Justin Biebers North Node & Ascendant.

Heavy Earth Charts: Balance this out with sleeping less or avoiding too much laziness and unproductivity (still of course get a healthy amount of sleep), exercise often, try spicy foods, take more action, try sports or games that involve fast reflexes, stimulate your senses, and watch out for negative thoughts.

Heavy Air Charts: Balance this out with drinking plenty of water, incorporate herbal teas, take your vitamins, take hot or steam baths, use a humidifier, massage with oils, exercise or walk outside more often, be sure to stay warm in cold weather, be mindful of sleep habits, and practice more discipline and routine.

Healing yourself & Helping others

We often talked about the wounds of Chiron in Natal chart, the pains associated with Chiron placements, but I think exactly because of those wounds that the native can obtain a deep understanding of the matters related to those wounds, and can sympathise with other people who experience the same kind of pain, understanding creates kindness.

Where Chiron is in your chart will always be a sensitive spot. Exactly because it's such a sensitive spot that we pour so much effort into it, always be mindful of it, we might excel at it, become a master, but might never feel good enough.

Through healing the other person, we, in turn, would also be healed, it's a kind of projection. There's often an element of unfulfilled dreams, dreams were thwarted or the feeling that the reward isn't worth the effort. In extreme case, this can manifest as projecting our failed wishes and dreams on other people and burdening them with the responsibility to make them come true. On a lighter note, we would want to see the other person success in our stead, to see that someone finally made it. And here is where our Chiron can actually help people, making us a great counsellor, a teacher or a cheer leader in that matter. We help people in the matters related to the sign/the house Chiron is in, the aspects Chiron makes to other planets. In turn, we are known to people by our Chiron. Yes, Chiron can be a fame indicator, not by shining on its own, but by helping others shine.

What about ourselves? will we forever have to endure that pain of Chiron? We might actually find peace and healing through the positive manifestation of the sign/the house opposite of Chiron. The two opposite ends of an axis always provide answer to each other.

So don't associate Chiron with just wound and pain, associate it with the gift you can give to the world and in turn, the reward you can receive through the act of giving.

The way Chiron in each sign/ house and aspect finds healing and helping others:

★ moon signs as greek mythics ★

★ aries moon: achilles ★ you are achilles, fierce and unrelenting, your emotions striking like the swift blow of a sword. like achilles’ rage over patroclus, your feelings are primal, raw, and deeply tied to your passions. your love is protective and consuming, but your need for immediacy can lead to emotional recklessness. you charge toward your desires without hesitation, but like achilles, you must guard against the vulnerability of your “heel”—the moments when unchecked emotions can be your downfall.

𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝟏𝐬𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

Here we find natives with a strong presence that is difficult to ignore, they easily achieve the respect and admiration of others. They can give the impression of being powerful, independent and very ambitious. They are very demanding people with themselves and can give off the vibe of being that way with other people. They have charisma and can become very popular, recognized and famous. Responsible, a great work ethic and people who never settle for the minimum. They aspire for great things and are not intimidated by anyone. There is something about their aura that makes them seem like authority figures or truly experts in the fields in which they operate. They can connect more easily with bosses or people with power, and throughout their lives they can meet or surround themselves with many of them, whether on a large or small scale. It bothers them that their efforts are not recognized. These people take their reputation seriously, seek to be respected and will never tolerate rudeness or misconduct towards them. They will not hesitate to defend themselves if they see that their reputation or everything they have worked hard to achieve is being compromised by someone. While they have no problem respecting authority, they will hesitate to question it in case something seems off.

They are very frank and direct people, especially where their work and ambitions are concerned. These natives have an impressive drive and will always make sure to put all their time, heart and energy into something that excites them or feels worthwhile. Regardless of the relationship with the father, there may be very pronounced differences between them, either in personality or priorities. Despite this, it is likely that they have a similar temperament. They work very well on their own and can achieve greater recognition if they act independently, however when it comes to working as a team, they will always be responsible and productive. They are people with a great capacity to captivate the public and attract their attention, inspiring and motivating them. They constantly feel that they have to make themselves proud, so they can sometimes have strong self-criticism. They usually have jobs that allow them to make important decisions, where they are in charge or something that presents them with a constant challenge. In their work they can be in high demand, respected and needed.

I think a lot of people get confused with Mars and Venus. People say that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but I would say that men are Sun and women are Moon. Men lead with ego represented by the sun. They pride themselves with being King. Moon represents nurture and intuition. That is why women are known throughout many cultures to be a gateway to the spiritual. Why we call it a “women’s intuition” Women tend to be more into astrology. Mars and Venus, however, aren’t completely specific to any gender because both genders have Martian and Venusian energies in them. All creatures can express Mars & Venus. Both positively & negatively.

Mars represents anger, aggression, passion & sexuality. The only reason it was associated with men was because of what patriarchy taught us. Men were the only ones allowed to be sexual, passionate, aggressive, and angry. Even though women feel these same emotions as well. Venus represents love, sensuality, marriage, beauty & harmony. Women are supposed to be beautiful, sensual & non confrontational. Women are told they have to marry & have kids or they’ll “die alone & miserable.” Any men with these characteristics are seen as less masculine. In actuality, women can be sexual, dominant & express anger. Men can be sensual, nurturing, and appreciate love & beauty. Both genders have masculine and feminine energies. And it’s important to keep them balanced.

Venus is also not as soft & gentle as people think, especially like what is taught in western astrology. No hate, they have the wrong perception of Venus. Venus is far more cruel than it lets on. Venus is actually much like Mars as they were once lovers. Thought to be polar opposites but have more in common. Mars is outwardly aggressive, but internally soft. Whereas, Venus is outwardly soft but internally aggressive & cruel. Venus is the hottest planet, scorching & inhabitable. That is why all Venus Nakshatras sit in fire rashis- Sagittarius, Leo and Aries. Also, all of the Venus nakshatras, Bharani, Purva Phalguni, Purvashadha, are ugra or fierce. Representing aggression, assertiveness, cruelty. Which can be ruthless, hurting others in the process. Venus is hedonism especially in Purva Ashadha. Venus will do anything in the pursuit of pleasure and passion, even if destructive, morally corrupt & wrong. Hitler, for example, had a Bharani Venus AK. You’re Atmakraka is your soul’s desire. His soul desire was beauty and pleasure and he did anything even hurting and killing millions of people just to achieve it. Venus/Shukra in Vedic is also the teacher of Demons, but people think Venus is an innocent and submissive planet, really it can function as a malefic. If most women were Venus, the world wouldn’t be how it is now. Us women wouldn’t be in the predicament that we are in.

Men are taught that they are superior like the sun, blinding others with its light. Society teaches men that the ultimate move is to be like the Sun. That’s why men & patriarchy are so drawn to solar men. Women are taught to be like the moon hidden, nurturing, seen but not heard, accusing us of being overly emotional. That we aren’t logical. That were not fit to lead only the sun(men) should. Not to say the moon is weak It’s just calculative & secretive. Naturally, Men= Mars, Women=Venus, but society & patriarchy trains us to be Men= Sun, Women=moon. What Claire Nakti called the “ideal women” nakshatra or favorite wife of Chandra is Rohini, ruled by the moon, but sitting in a rashi ruled by Venus. But, like I said, Venus is far more cruel and ambitious for it’s goal. That is why most women killers are usually not caught. In reality. Women need to start being more like Venus.

HIDDEN GIFTS ARE OFTEN PASSED DOWN

These remain in your ancestry as dreams or talents that never saw the light due to circumstances.

Hidden gifts are deeply rooted in your soul and something you often overlook or are unaware of.

You can only discover them once you tap into your inner power.

YOUR WATER HOUSE REVEALS WHAT YOU HIDE

Element water runs deep and holds every secret that’s still not known to you.

4TH HOUSE is your conscious, meaning what you know on the surface.

8TH HOUSE is your subconscious, meaning what you know intuitively but struggle.

12TH HOUSE is your unconscious, meaning what you don’t know or understand.

IN NATAL CHART

ARIES IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is the courage to create your own path in life. Others see you as someone who rises above loss and destruction.

TAURUS IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is to turn emotional pain into something beautiful. You have an intuitive sense of how to attract abundance in life.

GEMINI IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is for uncovering knowledge that’s not easily available. You can channel wisdom or messages from unseen realms.

CANCER IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is the ability to heal deep emotional wounds, not only for yourself but for others. Very psychic and intuitive.

LEO IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is the power to shine through even the darkest times. You inherit a natural talent for leadership or creative expression.

VIRGO IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is understanding the subtleties of life and using them to heal. You can break down complex problems.

LIBRA IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is bringing harmony and managing deep emotional bonds with grace. Your intuition guides you in partnerships.

SCORPIO IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is the power to transform through intense situations. You connect with the mysteries of life. Very shamanic.

SAG IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is seeing crises as opportunities for growth and expansion. You are blessed with higher wisdom.

CAPRICORN IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is your inner authority. You can achieve success working on your ambitions and goals privately.

AQUARIUS IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

Your hidden gift is to embrace unconventional ideas and ways that can change the collective consciousness.

PISCES IN 4TH, 8TH OR 12TH HOUSE

DISCLAIMER: I am in no way, shape or form a professional astrologer, modern or traditional.

I HAVE been studying astrology for a while now, and analysing charts available to me, as well as my own, and noticed a lot of the info you find online doesn't make sense in real life, because it is too reductive, stereotypical or lacks broader context. So I thought I'd share some of my personal observations to see if it resonates with anyone.

This is NOT the end all, be all. Apply it as it makes sense to you.

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The 1st House 🙋‍♂️

The 1H in synastry is a tricky one, because the first house itself is related to our individual identity. It is the house of self. So, when it comes to having a love planet here, things can get really murky. You'll often hear that it indicates instant attraction, but also only surface-level. While that is not entirely wrong, it would be a disservice to reduce it to just that. Yes, first house ties back to your physical appearance and external impact. But what does that mean for someone else being impacted and impacting that? Does it even apply in synastry? The answer is: YES. And it goes much deeper than you'd think. It will talk about an immediate recognition. It talks of being mesmerized by someone's look and demeanor, but that comes accompanied with an obsessive need to know more about you, to be around you, to soak up as much of you as possible, as if to aggressively learn you. And that's because you will tickle all the boxes the person had been holding inside (and vice-versa).

(e.g.: having someone's planet(s) fall into your 1st house doesn't just mean they will be attracted to you, if it's romantic. It also means the person feels like you two share a vibe, share interests, ideas. It means they feel like you move according to their speed, and therefore, that could lead to a lot of trust and comfort on their part, because you feel like a safe place. Not in the same sense as the 4H, but in a more "this person will have my back, cause we're the same!" kind of way. It makes the person feel like you are enough, because you fit them. So even if everyone else disagrees with them or doesn't understand them, they'll sort of look over at you, and if you validate them, that will be enough for them. They'd rather have your approval – since you are someone who gets them – than to have the approval of a bunch of people who don't understand where they are coming from.)

It truly is a beautiful thing, but even positive planets with positive aspects can lead to unwanted side-effects. The house person could come to resent the planet person because of how much they like them. Depending on who the house person is – if they have a dominant or prideful personality, for example – they may come to resent and even become angry with the planet person at times, because they'll feel so strongly for the planet person that they could start acting out of character for them, and that can make them feel like they're losing control of themselves. And as human beings, what do we do when we feel out of control? Shift blame and start looking for culprits. This DOES tend to wear off, though, exactly because of how intensely the house person feels for the planet person, but it can burn hot for a minute or two, specially if they end up getting into an ugly fight and the 1H person tries to forget the planet person, but they can't bring themselves to hate them. They'll get angry at the fact that no matter how hard they try to hate the person, they still feel enchanted by them.

(this could also create an unwanted feeling of "nobody else is like them", so the 1H could panic a bit at the thought of losing the planet person because 1H synastry creates the immediate feeling of the "perfect person for me", so imagine thinking you found the perfect person for you... it can make you feel like if you lose them you'll never recover, because no one else will be like them or able to replace them as perfectly)

All in all, though, first house Synastry tends to usually show up good results, depending on the planets and aspects involved. Another aspect of this synastry that doesn't get talked about for some reason is the fact that they tend to obsess over and notice the tiny details in each other. So it creates this effect of falling for them over and over and over again, cause they'll keep finding little things about the other person that they find enchanting, and THAT'S what creates the physical attraction. It's not that the planet or house person are conventionally attractive to everyone – they might not even fit the beauty standards –, but to the house person, those little details will sort of build up the planet person's beauty step by step, and by the time they catch on, they'll be enamored with every part of them, so, to the house person, the planet person truly is the most beautiful thing ever.

(1H house synastry also brings a 1st house energy to the attraction. NO - NOT ARIES. First house. But it will sound like arian qualities because Aries does rule the first house, after all. What this means is that a big part of the attraction for the 1H person is feeling like the planet person is independent, self-sufficient, confident, self-assured and capable. Because it's taping into their 1st house of self, the house person can sort of see the best of themselves reflected on the planet person, which means they feel like all the things they are insecure to show the world, the planet person has and is not afraid to show them. So they feel like planet person not only embodies their attraction ideal, but also the ideal personality they wish they had themselves. Which they do, but they don't realize it until planet person comes along and brings it out of them.)

First house Synastry is a complex kind of Synastry that is much more psychological than it's given credit for. People often focus on superficial physical attraction and gloss over the fact that it's like somebody is literally stepping into your mind and making your inner fantasies come out. It can feel very vulnerable and intense.

The 7th House 💍

Oh, isn't this one a gem?! Perhaps one of the most sought after in synastry. But the idea here is to provide an alternative perspective, so here goes: if it's badly aspected, or there's other challenging factors involved (the person falling into your 7H is problematic themselves), you're gonna run into the issues people often attribute to 1st house synastry, such as superficiality and a "false love" because 7H Synastry, regardless if it's good or bad, creates somebody who's "perfect on paper". They say the right things, they do the right things, they seem to fit into your whole ideals. But that does not guarantee that that's who they truly are. That's just who you think they are. Remember – the 7H is the house of "other". So it's not about you. It's about the other. But it's rather how you act around said other, and also how you perceive them.

(It's tough to say this, but you gotta be real to help some people out there who might have had 7H Synastry and didn't understand why the relationship failed, since everyone online claims it's a guaranteed soulmate. It's because Synastry goes both ways. And all houses have good and bad. There is no such thing as the perfect Synastry. But in the case of the 7H, I'd say it's the real life case of "if it's good, then it will be amazing. Truly a soulmate. But if it's bad... it will be awful. Just not immediately.)

Going off of the previous comment, another grim way this Synastry can turn out is in its binding effect. And I don't mean anything spiritual or abstract here. I mean literally binding. Imagine a relationship going sideways like that AND you are also now married or share a business together. MESS! This is the house of contracts and long-term. Remember Saturn exalts in Libra, because Libra likes things that last, and Saturn is the planet of long-term, so the house of Libra will sprinkle that lasting effect over whatever it touches. And if you're in a 7H relationship, that relationship will last with you, whether good or bad. It will take A WHILE to break off from it, either mentally, emotionally, psychologically, legally or financially.

(e.g. somebody has their moon in your 7H, but it's a moon at fall, in Scorpio, and it's afflicted in their natal chart. Now, at the beginning they will seem like a gift from God directly to you, so much so that you decide to make it official... And then, one or two years in, living together, each day it gets more toxic and draining and the dark sides just oozes out of your relationship. But now you are legally married, and divorcing will take time, bureaucracy, money and emotional energy, not to mention you'll have to uproot your entire life, explain it to your social circles and families... And what seemed like your dream come true was in fact a bitter lesson to learn).

To veer away from the dark twists of the last ones, let's dissect the correlations people make with the 7th house, like "oh, your spouse will be interested in art, and beauty, and music, and sophisticated things!" Why? Are you marrying a Libra? A Libra rising? Somebody with a Libra Venus? No? Then that has nothing to do with 7H Synastry. Houses are not signs, signs are not houses. Libra is one thing, the 7H is another. Venus rules Libra, which resides in the 7H, but Venus doesn't rule the 7H. It merely influences the 7H. It would be a better guess to say you might have met your person while they (or you) were already in a relationship than it is to say you met because of beauty-related things, or art, or music, since the 7H doesn't talk of any of those things, but it DOES talk of committed relationships.

(e.g. you might have met the person right after they (or you) got divorced. They might be connected to an ex of yours. Or another possibility that isn't talked about is how the person you eventually end up with is someone you have liked for a long time, but never got the chance to be with until now. Since this is the house of long-term relationships, having placements here could indicate that the person you ultimately stay with long-term is someone you already knew prior to getting together, but you needed to experience other relationships before you united with them.)

Another final aspect of placements in this house is the fact that it doesn't just deal with your love relationships, but also the way you consciously present yourself with others. How you behave socially. But also the mirror effect of this house, speaking directly about love. This is, after all, the house directly opposing the 1st house of self. In that regard, this is similar to 1H synastry, with the exception that in this one, instead of you coming out of your shell subconsciously, you make a conscious effort to become your best for your person here. You want to live up to all of your potential.

The 2nd House 💆‍♂️

This one is a bit tricky for me, because I'm not materialistic AT ALL. I have a Taurus Lilith in the 2nd house, so, I express it on the other end of the spectrum. When you have that placement, you either put too much value on money and material things, or you are completely unattached from it, and that's me. So the whole "money this, money that!" vibe is not my scene. I don't see a price in life, I see value. With that said, let's get this going.

Yes, this is the house of money and material things. Yes, it will deal with your personal finances. But no, unless other parts of your chart/Synastry agree with it, somebody's placements falling here should not have a lasting effect. It might merely indicate you overspending on dates and gifts. The 2H is the house of YOUR money, which means that the whole "oh, they're gonna shower you in gifts!", "And this is a sugar baby aspect!", "Your person will want to spend all their money on you and buy you expensive things!" is probably not gonna happen, sorry. If it does, it will be you spending your money.

(And if you do spend your money, the whole "gifts" thing is also not that common, because normal people don't just go around buying gifts for others every other day of the week, unless they have some sort of imbalance. Such a consumerist mindset! Not everything is about paying for things or buying things. That's a VERY American culture of dating, specially for women. This nasty idea that a man has to buy you or he's not good. Which is what encourages habits like thinking the man always has to be covering your finances (how old are you, 5? Get a job and pay for your own damn self! You are an adult woman), paying for your food, buying you a house, giving you gifts all the time and affording expensive dates. You are not a product. If your biggest incentive to be with a man is because of how much he pays for you, then that's the world's oldest profession, not a relationship of love. So this should play out more like them helping you manage your own finances. Don't go around thinking a 2H love placement is gonna turn you into Cinderella.)

If you do happen to be a stay-at-home person in your relationship, which is valid, as long as it's not all about money, 2H love placements and synastry will talk more about other material aspects of things. It will talk of stability, sustainability, longevity and security.

(e.g.: it could mean that you allocate your resources towards creating a safe, stable environment for your life together to flourish, such as buying things for your home together, revising your finances to make life goals and plans together more viable, setting budgets to achieve milestones together... as well as the literal physical aspects of valuables, so using your resources towards nourishment (food, shelter, clothing and health). Things that will ensure your relationship lasts and endures through hardships and tribulations. In the 2H of values, Synastry could indicate the relationship itself becoming your prized possession that you take care of. All the Earth houses are about caring for things, just in different ways.)

Another poorly explored aspect of the 2H is values in the moral, spiritual and emotional sense. It's WORTH. Both the causes you find worthy as well as your self-worth. A 2H love placement or Synastry can and will directly affect that. Even if you do happen to be dealing with financial/material things too, that can affect your self-worth directly.

(e.g.: say you are married to someone who is constantly in debt, or say your spouse is the breadwinner of the household and you depend on them financially. That can really take a toll on your self-worth. It can bring feelings of poor self-esteem, can you make you feel undervalued, inadequate, make you feel like a burden, or make you feel incapable of caring for yourself. It can strike your self-confidence and make you VALUE yourself less. Or the opposite. Your spouse may open you up to new possibilities of making money, which in turn gets you into a new passion project that you succeed in and that can make you feel like a worthy person, make you believe in yourself, make you feel important and valuable.)

I would argue that most often, it's the 8H Synastry that will really have your partner's materials affecting you, because the 2H is the house of your PERSONAL gains, while the 8H is the house of OTHERS' gains and possessions. Most often, the biggest impact I'd say 2H love placements have will be dealing with self-worth, self-confidence, shared values and morals, feelings of belonging and acceptance.

General Things ✨

What I see most often is that positive and negative outcomes tend to happen simultaneously. It's not all doom and gloom, but it's also not all sunshine and rainbows all the time. Sometimes it's great, sometimes it's not so great, and those ups and downs come and go. That's just life. Both are there to be worked with, worked for, or worked through. At the end of the day, astrology will not mandate your life events, and you have to always be learning from your life, and working on yourself and the things that matter to you. Astrology is just a guiding light to identify possible themes to be mindful of.

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That's it! Thank you if you've read it this far! I might have come off a bit harsh (I hope I haven't), but I promise I'm nice lol.

My whole goal is to try to discuss astrology in as realistically as possible, but while making it clear that any possible outcome is plausible. If most times all you hear are fantastic stereotypical descriptions of placements, such as 7H, the not so great ways in which it can play out will be explored here to help people navigate them. If all you hear are bad things about a house, then I'll try to show the positive ways in which it can come out.

The whole point is to try to bring a wide range of notions to these descriptions, together with the information that is already out there and available by many other creators.

At the end of the day, remember this is all POSSIBILITIES. Your personal life has to be analysed to know what's gonna ensue. And don't be discouraged, because the truth is that positive and negative effects tend to happen together for your best.

Hope you have a good day when you find this!