13 Questions for a new feedee relationship
1. What are your feeding goals and limits?
E.g., desired weight gain, pacing, maximum comfort level 
2. What specific acts excite or unsettle you?
(e.g., stuffing, forced feeding, public feeding)
3. How do you feel about ongoing consent and check‑ins?
(Safewords, Yellow/Red signals, pause triggers) 
4. What boundaries are non-negotiable—physically, emotionally, sexually? 
5. When would you want to pause or stop gaining?
(Health concerns, mobility, emotional state) 
6. How would health issues be monitored and addressed?
(Doctor visits, care planning, regular check-ins)
7. How will gains affect daily routines?
(Clothing, travel, household chores, finances)
8. Do you want feeding to stay private or be public?
Comfort with social/fetish-sharing vs. private experience  
9. Do you have any past eating-disorder concerns?
(Support needs, triggers, coping strategies)  
10. What role does exercise or physical activity play for you?
(Fitness balance vs. weight gain goals) 
11. How will emotional well-being be supported?
(Therapy, friends, breaks, mental-safety plans) 
12. Is there a worry about coercion or feeling pressured?
(How to address guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation)  
13. What non-fetish intimacy matters to you?
(Vanilla affection, cuddling, communication—ensuring well-rounded connection)
