𖤐𝐆𝐨𝐫𝐞𝐖𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐞𖤐

You cannot be a victim of a system you are at the top of, you cannot be systemically exploited or abused in a system you are at the top of. Intersectionality obviously plays a part in the complexities of this, however let’s strip this down to the concept of gender for the moment.

Gender is socially constructed and is used against women in a patriarchal structure. This is a fact we all know. A reactive and rebellious response to this and a hatred for men because of where they stand in it is never going to be as deep as what misogyny does, has done, and will continue to do to women. A man who gets made fun of or isn’t trusted as easily will never ever have to face the dozens of life threatening scenarios women are placed into on a regular basis, and beyond that will never face the social inequalities that are so far in the core of society it’s displayed in language devices, humour, disputes about queerness (don’t get me started.), dozens of other things you wouldn’t see or notice because the general society is taught to just let it be. Therefore, movements like 4D, reactive hatred and mistrust to recent events (the academy. The riots in Israel. The legal disputes of bodily autonomy.) cannot simply be put as ‘women hate men’.

Misandry is not that deep.

Yumeshipping is parasocial, potentially largely psychologically harmful in the age of ai and especially where a lot of pre teens are getting into it, but somebody having a little fanart of themselves with SpongeBob is far better than trying to cope with trauma by normalising abusive dynamics in media and therefore romanticising their own abuse to avoid the mental repercussions because that in itself is a detrimental cycle. In the same way vaping or weed is massively addictive but an escape from massively addictive things that can kill you and wreck your entire system.

Yumeshipping and taking it seriously is bad for you. That is obvious. If it is an escape to try to make a fake healthy relationship for yourself, I could not care less bro go frolick in the fields with a png printout of Alan from smiling friends as long as you aren’t pretending like the thing you’re escaping from is normal and romanticising it 😭.

I’m honestly like struggling to actually imagine having an emotional connection to a character to the point where I’d feel like we’re dating cause that’s just so unrealistic to me and maybe it’s just how ‘antis’ portray it, I think it’s like a dramatic step up from weird ‘[] x Y/N’ wattpad fics. If anybody wants to explain the experience I’m happy to hear it and am curious but I’m also very aware that it isn’t the healthiest coping mechanism in the world - like even if you aren’t coping from something it’s going to cause real world repercussions in your dynamics cause it’s completely made up and not realistic wether you’re ’in love’ or not. Cinnamon cookie is not in love with you. Characters do not feel love. Or anything. They aren’t real.

(Tw for add*ction) (this WILL be poorly worded please try to understand where I’m coming from)