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His wife on the other hand was blissfully content, snuggled up against him with her head resting on his chest after enjoying a morning filled with powerful, shuddering orgasms. Even as she recovered though her silky soft fingers were teasingly feathering his heavy, cum-filled balls, ensuring his cock would continue to strain against his cage and that his balls would continue to ache as weeks worth of pent-up cum continued to churn.

Smiling, she replied to his plea, "Honey, there's nothing I can do for you. Jen has your key...you know that."

"I know," he whined. "But...maybe you can talk to her??"

Laughing softly she said, "Sweetie no, you know I can't do that. That's the whole reason why we switched keys in the first place, so that neither of us would give in when we felt sympathetic toward our husbands. It would defeat the whole point of us switching keys if I were to talk to her for you."

The look of desperation on his face was absolutely adorable and a wicked thought popped into her mind. She paused, then continued, "But you know, now that I think about it, she is stopping by this afternoon. We're going shopping and we're meeting here. I suppose there wouldn't be anything wrong with you asking her."

"I can't do that," he said. "That would be so embarrassing!"

"Suit yourself," she replied with a shrug. "It doesn't matter to me. I guess it just depends on how bad you want out, hmm?"

"I do!," he whined.

Giggling, she teased, "Oh yeah? How bad?"

Pitifully he pleaded, "Oh my god, baby I'm so desperate! My balls ache so bad and it feels like my cage just keeps getting tighter and tighter!"

Looking at him with a pouting expression, she cooed, "Oh honey, you poor thing. Is it that bad?"

"Yesss," he whimpered, and she could almost feel her pussy gush.

Turning his head toward her, she purred, "Sweetheart, if I could I'd unlock you right now I would. Really, I would...but, I can't."

She fought back a giggle as he sighed in frustration. Continuing, she added, "But I'll make a deal with you, if you can convince Jen to unlock you... I'll make you cum. I promise. No tricks."

"Seriously?!," he said, his eyes widening.

"Absolutely," she said. "No tricks, no ruineds. Baby, if you can get her to unlock you I'll make your poor cock unleash the most massive load of cum you could ever imagine."

She smiled at his groan, then whispered in his ear, "....and I'll make each and every second feel so... fucking... good for you. You know I can do it, baby."

"Fuckkkk...," he groaned, causing her to giggle. He knew she was right. Truthfully, that was one of the most maddening, frustrating parts for him of their journey into male chastity.

This woman was like a pleasure savant when it came to his body. Cumming for her was unlike anything he'd ever experienced with another woman. Her ability to read his body, to make him sear with pleasure, to work him into an absolute frenzy, then ultimately make him detonate in an orgasmic explosion was insane.

But now, in a cruel twist of fate the woman who he loved... the woman capable of giving him more pleasure than he ever imagined possible... the woman whose warm, naked curves draped around him every night like a blanket of erotic softness... was off limits to him.

Separated by a steel cage.

That could now be unlocked only by her best friend.

Fuck.

"Ok, ok," he groaned. "I'll do it."

"Mmm, good boy," she purred seductively. "And I hope you succeed honey, really I do. Baby, no one knows Jen better than me. Can I give you a little hint?"

"God yes... please!"

"Well, Jen is an all or nothing kind of girl. You can't be tentative or hesitant. If you're really going to do this, you can't worry about being embarrassed. She'll see right through that and you won't have a chance."

Seeing the confusion on his face, she continued. "Baby, you have to be all in. If you're going to ask... ask. If you're going to beg... beg. If you're going to plead... plead. Don't hold back. This isn't the time to worry about your pride. Make sure she knows how utterly... and completely... desperate you are."

He exhaled deeply and nodded. Stroking his hair, she purred, "Baby, I think you can do this. Imagine I'm the one with the key. You know exactly what I would expect from you if you asked to be unlocked, right? That's what you need to do with her."

She smiled reassuringly when his eyes widened, patting his face gently. "I know honey, it's scary isn't it? But I honestly think that's your only chance. She's fair and open minded, who knows?"

**********

To her disbelief, five minutes after Jen arrived her husband emerged from the bedroom... wearing nothing but a pleading expression on his face and a steel cage secured to his cock. He approached Jen nervously, then knelt before her.

The two women briefly locked eyes, both fascinated, amused, and admittedly aroused by the unexpected turn of events.

"Jen? I have something to ask you.... a favor if I can?" Although he tried to appear calm and confident there was no mistaking the nervousness and vulnerability in his voice.

"Of course sweetie, I'm listening," she replied.

Remembering his wife's words he exhaled... then proceeded to shamelessly bare his sexual soul to her, pouring out how frustrated he was, and confessing how his wife had him so hopelessly desperate for her that he couldn't even be in the same room with her without his caged cock starting to drip with need.

Finally, after desperately building his case, he gazed up at her from her knees and pleaded, "Jen please?? I'm begging you... I can't take anymore! I'm constantly aching... I can't think... I can't sleep... I can't eat. I'm a wreck, I need it so bad! It's like, all I can do 24/7 is think about how badly I want her....please? I'm begging you, please help me?? Please unlock me so she can make me cum?! She promised that she would if you would just unlock me, please??"

His wife had been watching in a combination of awe and lust, barely able to believe her husband was at the point where he was shamelessly confessing his desperation for her to her best friend - naked and on his knees. It was crazy. And insanely hot.

Jen stepped forward, brushing her fingers through his hair. "Sweetie, breathe," she purred. "Relax, you're fine. This is exactly how she wants you. You don't need to cum, you're just getting started. What you need is to stay locked up longer. You need to become more desperate, not less. You're still not understanding yet how things are for you now. You still seem to think that the fact that you're aching and desperate somehow plays into when you get to cum. Sweetie, it doesn't. That doesn't matter. At all. Not any more. So no, I won't unlock you."

She smiled as a look of utter devastation crossed his face. Tilting his head upward, she softly instructed, "Hey, look at me. I like you. I do want to help you, okay?"

When he looked up, she softly said, "You need to accept that the days of cumming just because you're desperate like this are over... and they're not coming back for you. No matter how badly you want it. Sweetie, from now on you're going to be constantly aching to cum, but that's okay. The sooner you accept that, the better off you'll be."

She paused briefly, and as she touched his face softly added, "You need to stop thinking of your orgasms as something that's for you... they're not. They're for her now. The only point of you ever having one is if she happens to be in the mood to watch you have one. You get that, right?"

"Oh god...," he moaned softly. At that moment he felt utterly helpless. Trapped. His last and final hope, gone. Alone, in an existence now empowered by female sexuality.

"I know," she purred. "Not what you wanted to hear, huh? But, it was sweet of you to ask, and you did it so very well. Don't be sad, you didn't know.... but, now you do."

Both women shared a brief smile as Jen walked away, leaving him on his knees looking devastated and broken.

His wife approached, smiling as she drew him near, holding him close. Speaking softly, she murmured, "I'm sorry, honey. I thought she might say yes. But you really did do wonderfully, I'm so proud of you."

For a moment she just held him close, stroking his hair, until she said, "Oh, and one more thing..."

Leaning down, she touched her lips to his ear and huskily whispered, "Seeing you like this, naked and on your knees, confessing to Jen how desperate you are... begging to be unlocked.... mmm, that is soo hot baby, I'm absoutely dripping right now. So, I'm going to need you to be on the bed... naked... spread out... with the restraints ready for me when I walk in the door, understand?"

"Yes ma'am...," he whimpered softly.

Chuckling wickedly, she added, "Oh, and sweetheart? One more thing, have the mouth dildo secured in place too. You know how good it is for me when I ride you like that now, don't you baby?"

"Oh yesss, I do...," he said softly.

Laughing softly, she purred, "Mmm, I bet you do."

Aw, look how worked up you are....do you need me to fuck you? Yeah? But I thought you wanted to watch the movie, sweetheart...let's just finish it first. What's that? You can't wait? You need me? Shh, be a good boy and focus on the movie...there's only an hour left...

Then I'd start to thrust into him so slowly, feigning innocence.

Here are some ideas, and some advice to couples that are exploring a female led relationship that involves chastity.  These are not “advanced techniques” and I don’t claim to be an expert, but in the 6 years we have played in the lifestyle, these are some of the more important things I have learned.  If you are looking to completely dominate your husband in every aspect of your life, this is probably not the article for you.  If you are interested in having a more fun, kinky, and exciting sex life, along with a little more control in the household, and help your husband be a better partner to you, this may help.

How long should he be locked?

I truly believe that it should be up to the keyholder and her alone, but some people like to switch things up, so here are some fun ways to let fate decide.

Determine the number of orgasm he has to give the keyholder before he earns an orgasm.

The keyholder could require him to provide her with 10 oral, 10 using a vibrator, and 10 using his cock before he earns the right to have his own.  Or 20 using his fingers and 5 using his mouth, and 5 with a dildo, or strap on, you get the idea.

How about adding one day every time he has an orgasm, so if he made it 21 days this time he has to wait 22 next time.

There is a myriad of dice games that could be used.  If you Google dice chastity game, you can find an endless supply.

Marbles seem to be another favorite, again if you Google marble chastity game, there are plenty to choose from.

I think a really fun one is to use trivia to determine his lock up time.  While lying in bed the keyholder can ask a series of questions about anything she likes really, and for every answer the sub gets wrong he gets a day or a week or whatever time period the keyholder desires locked in chastity, this is fun because the keyholder is still determining the lock up time, by the number of questions or how hard they are.  Try Keyholder trivia, she can ask questions about what she likes, you can both have fun and learn what makes your keyholder happy!

I also think that it is a big turn on for the sub to know that regardless what the “game” determines should be the lock up time, that he knows it is ultimately what his keyholder decides, so when the time arrives that he has earned his orgasm, simply tell him, “I know you were supposed to have an orgasm today, but I have decided to keep you locked another few days.”

Fun things for the Keyholder to say to keep the sub excited.  I think it is important for the keyholder to remember that for the sub in chastity, it is a 24/7 commitment, and sometimes all it takes is the smallest reminder from his keyholder to get his libido back up and racing and keep it exciting for him.

“Tonight sweetie, you can be my little brown noser.”

“Oh! Sweetie, your cage looks tight and uncomfortable!  Oh well, you will just have to suffer for me.”

“You haven’t thanked me for locking up your cock and controlling your orgasms for you in quite a while.  Do you have anything to say to me?”

After he has given you an orgasm orally, you could say, “Sweetie you are getting so good with your tongue, pretty soon I will never have to unlock your cock!”

After inspecting his cage to make sure he is secure, you could say something like, “Hmmm, maybe we should get a size smaller.”

“Sweetie I seem to have lost the key, oh well, we won’t be needing it for a long time anyway.”

“Denying you is so much more fun than letting you orgasm, I might never let you cum again!”

Every time you lock his device, you should say something like, “Now thank me for controlling your orgasms,” or, “There we go, my cock is locked up again, until the next time I need it.”

You get the idea, anything to remind him that you are in control will excite him and keep him happy for quite a while.

Tease and Denial:  I think this is the most important part of chastity and also a successful female led relationship.  There are numerous entire web sites and articles with ideas out there, so I will let you find your own fun ideas, but I would like to remind you that it doesn’t have to last only an hour, there are ways to tease your sub all day without having to lift a finger.

1.      Have him shave all his pubic hair.  It is more comfortable wearing a cage when you are shaved anyway.  Every time his goes to the bathroom it will be another reminder of your control.

2.      Assign him to make you a sex toy, or bondage device, like a leg spreader, or install eye bolts to tie him off to.

3.      Assign him a list of chores you want complete, with the knowledge that if they are not done he will be punished.

4.      Make him clean the house dressed as a woman.

5.      Have him hand wash your panties and lingerie.

6.      Have him run an errand for you wearing a butt plug.

7.      Tell him you need new panties and you want him to buy them for you.  When He gives them to you, tell him you think they will look better on him, and make him wear them.

8.      Before he leaves for work, make him lick your pussy and tell him that he has the privilege of smelling you every time he inhales now.

9.      You can set rules for him, like having to ask to use the bathroom, or having to address you as mistress or princess for the day.

Punishments: Punishments can be fun, or they can be just that, Punishments.  I think any female led relationship should have both.  Just having “fun” punishments promotes behavior from the sub that is unacceptable, because he enjoys the punishment and acts up in order to get it.  For punishments that are meant to correct behavior or habits, he should be aware that you are truly unhappy with what he has done, that you love him very much, and that the punishment is meant to hurt.  After the punishment reinforce that you love him, and you did what you did to help him be a better partner.  I can say 100% of the time that your partner will love you for it, gain respect for you in the relationship, and be far more excited because it now seems real to him.  With just playful punishments, he may still view this as a game.  Here are some playful punishments:

1.      Have him lick your ass, as you watch TV or read a book.  Make sure to give him plenty of direction and encouragement, and tease him a bit as well.  Lets face it, sex is 90% mental.  Say things like, “I love my little brown noser,” or “get your tongue in there or that cage stays locked for another week.”  It’s important that you make do a good job, not just lick your butt cheeks, the excitement for the sub is all mental, being made to lick your ass, the punishment part is making him really do it.

2.      During a teasing session, if he starts moving too much or getting overly close to orgasm, take off your panties, put the gusset on his face and tell him they can keep him company while you go get a drink.

3.      Have him run you a bath, wash your body, lotion your legs, dress you, even paint your toe nails.  Keep it exciting for him by telling him how happy you are he is in chastity, and how you would hate to lose his enthusiasm, so you may never remove the device.

4.      Have him wear panties and stockings to work under his work clothes, no one but you and he will know.  He will be on high alert all day hoping no one notices.  You can text him from time to time to remind him of his situation!

5.      If he keeps asking to be let out of his cage, take off your panties and gag him with them.

6.      Play a little trivia game with him, tie his hands up, play with him until he is excited, and ask him if he knows how to please you, he will of course say yes, then you can say “great!  We are going to play a game, I will ask you some questions about me, when you are right I will stroke your cock, when you are wrong, I will slap it.”  Ask away!  You can ask him anything from your favorite color to your favorite sexual position!

7.      Tens units are a lot of fun as well, as they can be used to provide great pleasure, or a small amount of pain.  They can make a great training tool used correctly.

8.      Take all his boring male underwear, and replace them with panties, and tell him he has to earn his underwear back, and he should wear the panties till he does.

9.      Hoods can be a lot of fun.  Get one with a gag and use some ear plugs and he won’t know when or where you are going to give him pleasure (or pain).

10.  Spankings of course are a favorite, using your hand or a paddle its pretty tough to really hurt him, so spank away.  Careful with some of the switches or canes, as you can actually draw blood with enough force.

11.  If he comes without permission, I consider that a pretty serious offense.  The whole idea of the relationship is that he is giving you control of his orgasms, if he takes that back, its just a sex game to him again.  If he is unable to control himself any more, he should be able to talk to you seriously and explain the situation and let YOU decide when and how he orgasms.  Taking it upon himself is unacceptable.  He should get a serious punishment, be locked back up, in his cage immediately, and made to lick up his mess.

12.  Ruined orgasms can be very effective.  There are plenty of videos and articles on how they work and how to cause them, so I will not go into it, but they take some practice to get it right.  When you do get it right, it actually will leave your sub just as horny, but leaves you with the leverage of saying “you just had an orgasm!”  You know you did it right if his seed simply flows out with no “burst”, also just watching his face will tell you!

Like I said there has to be more than just fun punishments.  Sometimes, he will need to be corrected.  This prevents him from “topping from the bottom” or controlling what you have him do.  Certainly he has to get some of what he wants, but he should not be able to “force you to force him” that is not how it works, and is not as much fun for him or you.  Punishments are also great ways to “tweek” his behavior or attitude towards you, if he is acting moody or speaking disrespectfully to you, simply tell him of your concern, explain what you expect from him, and proceed with the punishment.  Its amazing how quickly a good spanking will get a man back in “subspace” where he is loving and respectful.  Some punishments can include:

The easiest and usually most effective is spanking.  It is both humiliating and a bit painful for the sub.  You can use your hand, a hairbrush, cane, switch, paddle, flogger, crop, shoe, anything really.  Make sure he knows the reason, make sure he knows you love him, make sure he knows it is going to hurt.  When its done hug him, tell him again you love him, and reinforce with him that you don’t want that behavior to continue, as it is upsetting his keyholder.

You can put spikes in his chastity cage.  Be careful here as I have heard of some people actually getting a bruised or cut penis from some of the spikes available for some devices.

Being tied in an uncomfortable position for a period of time.  This can really be painful and uncomfortable, and gives the sub time to reflect on what he did.

Prolonging his release date.  Yep, that’s pretty effective.  Although it really only works if you have a set release date.

Withholding teasing sessions.  What your sub craves most of all is your attention, so withholding it is about the worst thing that you can do to him.  Be careful here though because after a few days in chastity your sub is going to be pretty emotionally vulnerable, and could easily feel neglected by being ignored.  So, if you are withholding your attention make sure he knows why and that he is just not being put on the back burner for something more important than he.