sonder suggestions

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hiya! i hope it’s alright, but i am not going to answer the gender question right now. i try to keep this blog as anonymous as possible to allow for projection and relation, if that makes sense. also, i’d prefer any more personal questions be asked through message or not on anon, so i can answer privately! this blog is for you and the others who need it, not about me :pas for the color, i’d put it around “river in a forest” and mahogany wood together. like the grey of river rocks with clear water running over them, in combination with mahogany. wishing you lots of love,sonder-suggestions

no worries at all!i love this sm <3 i hope with all my heart that this happens for you!! it’s super beautiful, i feel you on what that kind of touch is, too.love,sonder-suggestions

hiya! this is such an interesting question!when i imagine a soulmate for myself, it’s hard to pin down features. i also imagine vague traits, and i imagine emotions and colors more than anything else.for example, my concepts tend to have some kind of soft, flickering, glowing light, and that is a trait i associate with comfort and being content. a soulmate can and should be (in my opinion) a soft, yet strong beacon during the dark times, a reminder of hope, yet still human and flawed. i try to avoid pinpointing a gender in my posts as well, because i feel as though a soulmate could be anyone, of any gender, ability, or background. thus, i tend to associate a soulmate (for myself) with the idea of infinity and knowledge, as well as an openness and kindness that is hard to explain in words.i hope that answered your question- i know it was kind of vague, but it really made me think, nonetheless!i hope your day is as bright as the sun!love,sonder-suggestions

hello!i am so, so glad you like my blog!! asks like these make me so happy, and i want you to know that you’ve filled my heart and made my day! thank you for reaching out to say these things, it really means a lot to me <3i hope the rest of your day, or the one coming up, is full of joy!love,sonder-suggestions

hi! thanks for the question!on occasion, my posts are about specific people. however, most of the time they’re exactly as you describe - for a soulmate out in the universe somewhere. a lot of them (especially the concept posts!) are wishes, in a way!thanks for asking! i hope you have a wonderful day!love,sonder-suggestions

hi love!neither you, nor your situation are a burden, i promise. i want to preface this with the fact that i am not a professional anything, and not to take anything i say as definitive medical or mental health advice, okay? i know my response might seem kind of on the vague side, and may not be helpful, but please understand i’m working from a place of cautious optimism.because i don’t know much about your particular situation, i’m not going to try and give you specific advice (especially since you haven’t indicated you want any). i am going to throw out a few suggestions of what has helped me in the past, and may help at some point. the first step to getting something done is to figure out where to start. if you’re stuck in the mindset that you can’t go to anyone or do anything, then it is absolutely not going to get done. you have to want to do it. however, i understand age/familial/cultural barriers are often a factor. there are always people out there willing to listen!  i highly recommend seeing a professional if at all possible. if that is not possible, and/or it’s a crisis situation, i recommend texting the crisis text line if you’re in the US.i’m not clear on what it is you think you’ll never change. what needs to be changed? what kinds of things do you enjoy doing? could you find local support groups, art groups, libraries or college campuses that have puppy play dates? i can’t guarantee anything, but sometimes a change of scenery, or starting anew with a fresh group of people, can be helpful.i know hopelessness (and depression) can be a bear to handle, and sometimes it’s almost impossible to deal with. please know that i’m rooting for you, and although i probably haven’t helped a ton, i would be more than happy to listen, and to send you any resources i may have.wishing you lots of love and strength, sonder-suggestions(non-suggestion asks are welcome! they will be tagged with ‘not a suggestion’)