CW: Sexual Assault Dear M_ _ _ , Sexual assault is a crime of power and control. The term sexual assault refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim. Sincerely, Amy Jo ---- The term rape culture refers to a set of cultural practices that allow sexual violence to happen and excuse it when it does. ---- Him: βAre you on birth control?β Me: βNo.β Him: βWhere do you want me to cum?β Me: βAnywhere but inside of me.β I roll over after he stopped and say.. βWait, did you cum inside of me?β βDonβt worry, Iβll buy a Plan Bβ *kisses me on the side of my head* The panic starts. The endorphins melt away and Iβm left with fear, uncertainty, and shame. How is it that I did not have any say in this? How is it that a 27 year old man was able to cum inside of me and then just walk away, probably not thinking about it twice? Why is it that rape culture is such a prevalent thing that I sat there afterwards telling myself: βWell, it was partly my fault too.β βItβs not like I was in a dark alley and he attacked meβ βI shouldnβt have let him go on without the condom.β What. The. Fuck. I told him NO and he still did it. Four days later. Him: βI donβt remember it going down that way but if you feel assaulted or that a law was broken you should go to the police. However it just looks like youβre out to be socially damaging because you have a bruised ego.β Me: βOkβ Him: β So I donβt really know what I can do for you at this point because youβre not asking for anything youβre just whipping up people with a story that you took a lot of liberties with.β Me: β I understand that your experience was different than mine, but Iβm definitely not lying about how I feel violated and I do believe that you did sexually assault me by that. I told you no and you did it anyways. I gave you multiple chances to be a nice person to me but instead you told me that I was crazy. You didnβt treat me like a human being, you didnβt buy the Plan B. You didnβt give a fuck, so donβt pretend that you did. And only now after youβve been outed you choose to try and talk to me? Itβs pretty obvious you have the bruised ego. Him: βI donβt and you can keep doing what youβre doing and I canβt control that. If you had anything to charge me with you would have. So youβre going to use social media and angry idiots like yourself to slander me. I was drunk, and you didnβt get off me. β Me: βThatβs no excuse.β Him: β Kinda is. Youβre like 3 times my size. Maybe 4.β ----- Not only am I now being told itβs my fault, that Iβm crazy, Iβm also being fat shamed. I did not know that if someone is fat and on top of you that takes away your ability to speak? The ability to say βIβm about to cumβ. I bought the Plan B myself. I took care of things myself. Itβs been two weeks now and Iβm STILL feeling the effects. I feel like my entire body has been beaten down. Iβm bleeding profusely. Iβm breaking out. Breast tenderness, changes in menstrual flow, diarrhea, dizziness, headache, nausea, stomach pain, tirednessβ¦ I have every.single.one.of.the.side.effects. ---- βThey said to inform you that it would be a smart choice on your part to post something to retract and deescalate the situation you created online. This is my life you're attacking as well as my family and friends.β -M_ _ _ What about my life? What about the consequences I have to silently deal with? What about the days I canβt work because I feel like Iβm dying? When Iβm bleeding so much Iβm scared to even leave my house? What about the fact that Plan B isnβt a guaranteed thing? What about the trauma and anxiety that I had to deal with in knowing that you violated me? What about the STD test or pregnancy tests? WHAT ABOUT ME? WHAT ABOUT ALL OF THE OTHER WOMEN OUT THERE? This isnβt just about me. This is about every woman that is violated, assaulted, raped. This is for all of the women (or men or people) that have went days, months, years, lifetimes without ever speaking. They might never be heard. But maybe in reading this they will feel a little better that they arenβt alone. That Iβm here for them. We all should be here for each other. We should all believe each other. In a world where we are told that we are crazy, or that it wasnβt βenoughβ of a sexual assault to count, or whatever the fuck else. The least we could do is have each otherβs backs. Support each other. Love each other.
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