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OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

You also seem to be unclear on what I was apologizing for (and, indeed, how apologies work in general). I made it very clear to you that I was not apologizing for calling your politics homophobic, for saying you support and propagate HIV stigma, or for saying that you regularly engage in rhetoric laden with the vilest transmisogyny. All of those things remain true. I laid out very clearly what I was committing to in terms of behavior and “not talk about you” was not a promise I made, nor was it something you asked of me. Nevermind that the post I wrote did not mention you by name, nor did it mention any details that could be used to identify you. 

The fact that you apparently thought my apology and amends meant I bore no bad feelings toward you says a great deal about your maturity. I do not like you. I do not like your friends. I do not want anything to do with you, outside of trying to set right where I have done harm. 

your beliefs that im somehow a hateful person (which is ironic to say the least, im not the one constantly making posts painting women & lesbians as especially homophobic / serophobic) doesn’t justify firstly completely misrepresenting our conversation, vagueblogging about me & talking negatively of me, all WHILE using me on your other blog as your public defender. the line i draw is with helping people who actively lie about me & shit talk me all while expecting me to still vouch for them (which is entitled to say the least).

also you keep saying this as if im desperate to be your friend. i don’t like you nor your friends either. you and your friends sit there constantly policing lesbians, policing women, speaking over both groups, politicise who lesbians do / don’t sleep with, justify telling women to get raped etc. my offer was to help you make amends. that offer was one i made simply because im always happy to help someone better themselves. but the tea is you haven’t bettered yourself, at all. you’re literally the same exact person. you apologised because you were called out persistently. you still believe you were justified in saying the things you did, you still believe people calling you out on wishing them death & rape is evidence of homophobia & serophobia. the first time you said this to me over messages was annoying enough, but since you’re saying this again let me take the time to be perfectly clear: the last time i liked you was at least 3 years ago. i stopped liking you the moment your misogyny started coming out & the moment you made it clear there weren’t any boundaries you wouldn’t cross. i have no interest in anything to do with you.

I have nothing further to apologize to you for. I didn’t force you to seek out an untagged anonymous post and upset yourself, and I did not further force you to identify yourself as the person being talked about. For someone with “no interest” in anything to do with me, you’ve sure gotten involved!

I’ve been nothing but civil to you. I want nothing more than to be left alone. I do not appreciate you holding me up for discussion among your terf followers, and I do not appreciate the barrage of accusations based on nothing. The rest of your speculations about my motives are bizarre. “Jeopardize my future?” This is a blog that never had more than several hundred followers, and my new blog has fewer than 50. What “future.”

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

You also seem to be unclear on what I was apologizing for (and, indeed, how apologies work in general). I made it very clear to you that I was not apologizing for calling your politics homophobic, for saying you support and propagate HIV stigma, or for saying that you regularly engage in rhetoric laden with the vilest transmisogyny. All of those things remain true. I laid out very clearly what I was committing to in terms of behavior and “not talk about you” was not a promise I made, nor was it something you asked of me. Nevermind that the post I wrote did not mention you by name, nor did it mention any details that could be used to identify you. 

The fact that you apparently thought my apology and amends meant I bore no bad feelings toward you says a great deal about your maturity. I do not like you. I do not like your friends. I do not want anything to do with you, outside of trying to set right where I have done harm. 

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.  

OK. Writing this took me longer than I wanted, but such is life. This is the last thing I will be posting on this blog– for a number of reasons, but primarily because I completed the steps again more thoroughly, and because I moved to Ireland to start graduate school– but before I retire this platform, I wanted to attempt to make things right. 

I regret and apologize for much of my behavior. I regret using the invective that I used. I regret engaging in verbal abuse. I regret using misogynist language, and I regret attacking other people’s experiences of sexual assault. I regret sending anonymous messages to harass people. I regret telling people to kill themselves, and I regret telling people to get raped. I regret wishing harm on people. I regret mocking, belittling, and disparaging people. This is behavior I no longer condone or wish to engage in.

I was acting on fear and on anger. I was lashing out because I felt attacked; for my HIV status, for my status as a survivor of rape, for my status as an addict in recovery, and for my sexuality. I was acting on hatred as well. All of these are parts of me that I would like to leave behind.

I wish I had not engaged with harassment and abuse. I wish I had not reacted, or allowed myself to be drawn into vicious fights. I wish I had ignored, blocked, and not engaged when baited. I wish I could have identified all of these patterns earlier, and that I would have listened to the people advising me to step away. 

My solution is to cease all engagement of a political nature: no discourse, no nothing. I will also not engage in any of the behavior listed above. I will not engage in verbal abuse of any kind whatsoever. I will not post anything further to this blog, nor will I resurrect it at any later time. I will not send anonymous messages. I will try my best to practice kindness and compassion in my conduct online. 

Normally, I would have asked if there was anything I had left out, and if there is anything else I can do to make things right, but this is an “open amends,” as it were. So instead, I have unblocked everyone, but have turned off anonymous messaging. If there is something you feel I have not addressed, or if you would like to ask me to do something beyond what I have proposed, please feel free to message me. I will not respond publicly, and I will not respond to abuse.

If you care to, I would appreciate if you could spread this post around.