I used to scroll through tumblr aimlessly and reblog the typical posts of “one day you’ll wake up and it’ll be Sunday morning, you’re making pancakes with the love of your life, and everything will be okay.” I used to wonder what that would actually feel like. 

I was once this young 19 year old girl who had flipped her entire world upside down by coming out, moved back home, and started over. I dated a couple of girls, learned important lessons from each of them, and decided at one point I didn’t want a girlfriend. I was over the drama, and I was ready to just love myself. Despite not wanting a relationship I was obviously still on Tinder (as all single lesbos are), and one day as I was swiping out of boredom I swiped right on this super pretty girl. Not only was this girl flat out beautiful, but WE MATCHED! I definitely thought she was out of my league, so to say I was excited would be an understatement. We talked and talked, and next thing I know we planned a date for the weekend. However, plans changed and we ended up meeting a day earlier than planned at a Starbucks. At this time I was still dealing with ex drama - typical lesbian shit haha. Anywho, on the way to go meet this super cute Tinder girl I was one the phone with my ex, who at the time was playing the game of I don’t want you unless you want someone else. (I’m sure everyone’s familiar with that one) and she told me that it was either her or the girl from Tinder. She also made it known that if I pursue meeting her then we were officially done-done. 

Little did I know that the girl from Tinder would become my wife. From the moment I saw her in Starbucks I was awestruck by how freaking pretty she was. I couldn’t believe it, and all I knew was I didn’t want that night to end. Admittedly, I wanted her to stay the night with me at a friends house, but with complete innocence. I just wanted to be near her, and I didn’t want her to leave. There was something about her that drew me in, and I wasn’t ready to give it up. She didn’t stay with me that night, but before we knew it we were inseparable. 

Here we are nearly 4 years later - 2 dogs, 2 cats, our first house, married and just as happy as we were when we met. We’ve been through so much together - everything from financial to mental health struggles. Through everything we have always turned to each other for strength and support. There are days where we annoy and frustrate the hell out of each other, but we have FAR more good days than bad. 

I never thought I’d be lucky enough to have found the love of my life so unexpectedly. I didn’t know how soon the “one day” would be, and now that I’m experiencing it for myself it truly is the most wonderful feeling. It’s so wonderful that it’s surreal. 

Long story short: You will be here too someday. True love is not a cliche - it’s real, raw, and beautiful. So take risks, and do something that scares you. There’s no wrong choices, just different outcomes. If you believe in fate, every decision that you make is for a reason you may not realize yet. 

To my beauitful wife, 

 I love you endlessly with every piece of my heart, thank you for an amazing (almost) 4 years.