either I drink it or the boat sinks!

its another hesitant alien day

Vincent Lemaire disappeared under mysterious circumstances after his team beat the New York Admirals in Scott Hunter’s own arena. No connection I’m sure.

fascinating how often men expect women to sympathize with their fears of being perceived as or treated like a woman

so much "masculinity" is constructed around the certainty that being gay or being a woman is inherently demeaning. and we're supposed to nod along supportively

"male loneliness crisis" ok so like.....what would happen if you started acting like a better friend to other men in your life? what's stopping you? is it the fear of being perceived as one of your inferiors?

"men aren't allowed to show emotions" ok so like…..what would happen if you started being more emotionally expressive? what's stopping you? is it the fear of being perceived as one of your inferiors?

someone said it's also a cautionary tale about mistreating your wife and I think that's spot on especially for other related types of stories e.g. the crane wife. like I think these stories are very much Husband Anxiety Stories. the Woman-Creatures are black boxes whose interior experience it is impossible to know and who have strange and often seemingly arbitrary rules that you must follow or else they will disappear. idk. like. that's why I think that any empowering-to-women-ness qualities of these stories is incidental. I think they're externalized anxiety about coercive societal heterosexuality and the inability to truly Know one's wife in such circumstances.

oooo yes absolutely!

was just talking to Story about this and he told me about one folktale where a guy meets a beautiful woman at a lake and she brings a bountiful dowry of like one million fat cows and such and she is of course a fairy so she's like "my one requirement in our bargain is that if you strike me three times I will leave" and in many versions of the story the husband doesn't ""actually"" strike her -- each time it's something like, one 'strike' involves her forgetting her gloves inside and he walks out and taps her on the shoulder with her gloves, but she tells him that counts as striking her. this sort of thing. which is TRANSPARENTLY like "whoa wouldn't it be fucked up if your wife could enforce consequences for behavior she said was harmful, even if according to your cultural norms it was fine, and you didn't see it as a big deal?" like... lol. what if women could actually be the ones who decided whether or not any given action their husbands took against them was harmful? IMAGINE... PREDEY SCARY....

some of yall didnt go insane at 15 and it shows

bitches think they know what the post about whole time i was vagueposting my grandma

not going to lie i hope we never see irina in the show. i think not seeing her, allowing her to haunt the narrative and be represented through ilya’s necklace, makes her absence more potent for the viewer. we know what ilya has lost and that it fundamentally changed the course of his life. if s2 is faithful to the long game (which we can only assume it will be), we will know even more about how irina’s death continues to have ripple effects in ilya’s mental health and relationships. i don’t need to see her on screen (in flashbacks or dreams or even in photos) to understand that. her absence is a presence!!

no because i'm not done actually. i think there could be something very powerful in us as audience members grieving for irina in the way that shane does: ilya loved her, she made him who he is, and we never get to meet her. we never get to see that relationship, and can only imagine it based on what ilya tells us in the narrative. ilya's memories of her are what keeps her present for him, but also create an image of her for shane and for us as viewers. it's tragic but it's beautiful.

*sigh* fine, fine, i'll be the new doctor who showrunner. bring me two twinks, britain's tallest woman, and 1000 pounds worth of alumininamian foil

i think something fundamentally forgotten about athletes is that it's Their Literal Job. me personally, i would not turn down an offer from another company that has a 10k or 15k raise if my current company says they can not/will not pay me that. no matter how much my supervisor or my team likes me, i simply am not turning down that much of a raise and i wouldn't expect an athlete to...