sorry but this is maybe THE most annoying response i see to discussion of anti-transmasculinity and exorsexism in trans spaces.
i hate to use "sides" in this context because things are not that binary and they are not that uniform. but like. i need to fucking remind everyone that one ""side"" created the term transunity specifically to call for less infighting and for transfeminist theory that integrates all kinds of trans experiences, and the ""other side"" immediately began insisting the people behind it must hate trans women.
its so fucking infuriating. like jesus fucking christ you do not need to condescend to us about how this infighting shit is gonna get people killed!!!!! WE KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! & its ESPECIALLY fucking gross when you type this shit on a post about intercommunity bigotry, as if the people being anti-transmasc or exorsexist and the people talking about how that is bad are equally contributing to infighting.
this discourse is not actually pointless or meaningless i'm sorry. there is real shit, real rotten fetid wounds in our community, that we have never properly addressed (& that goes for the anti-transmasculinity, the exorsexism, the transmisogyny, the biphobia, the misogyny, the aphobia, the racism, the classism, everything). we cannot just "stop fighting" because the REASON there is so much fighting is because people - bi people, aspec people, transmascs & nonbinary people, queer people of color - keep saying "hey this shit is hurting us, can we talk about it & stop doing it?" and then other people react to that like its a personal attack on them to have somebody question their emotional support lateral violence. and then because the internet is built to incentivize outrage over productive solutions & meaningful community-building, it becomes something huge and messy and shitty, and the core problem struggles to ever get actually properly addressed.
most of the time, at best, you get what happened post-ace discourse, where the community goes "fine okay the A can stay" but never actually grapples with the acephobia and arophobia or amatonormativity, never grapples with the extent of the hostility towards aspec people, and everyone just pretends it was silly terminally online teen arguments that had nothing to do with real life, and we return to a slightly modified status quo. and that is not fucking improvement.
don't come onto posts about transandrophobia, written from a transunitist perspective, castigating people about "you need to be united" that is literally. what we have been trying to say. for multiple years. if you zoom out it has been a major thread of conflict in the queer community for decades, fucking decades, without a true resolution.
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