Diego Kardashian

What is the point of staying single? Why is God making me wait for what feels like forever? Why does God allow this pain and loneliness? Why can’t I find the person I’m supposed to be with? Are my standards too high? Why is dating so confusing and terrible right now? Is there even someone out there for me?

I ask myself these questions. I get bogged down by my image of what I think my life should be. I think my true happiness and fulfillment can only happen when I am in a relationship with my future spouse.

But this is so false.

There is a choice I have at this moment, this season. The pain I feel in waiting can build me into a stronger person, rather than beat me down. I can find joy in this time in my life rather than wallow in loneliness. I can cherish what I do have and put my energy and love towards that, my family, my friendships, and my community. And, I can hold my head up and be proud of my decisions. Instead of dating someone who does not come close to my standards or having a meaningless fling, I am choosing to wait for the right man and not to settle for less. I deserve a man that will be my partner and equal. A man that will fulfill my vocation and will help me get to heaven. I can trust in God, knowing that He has a plan for me and my future spouse. Who am I to think I might know better than Him? I trust, knowing that He is taking care of me and pushing me towards growth in this plan. God does not want me to settle. He also does not want me to be in pain over singleness. I need to rush into His arms knowing that I am never truly alone for He is always there. In our pain, He sends us his overflowing and healing love.

Stay single while you wait for the person God has in store for you. Love yourself instead of giving your whole heart to someone who will only meet you halfway. God wants more for you than that. Being single is better than it’s complicated. Find your happiness in God rather than searching for it in someone else. Being single is infinitely better than being in an almost sort of kind of relationship because almost isn’t enough. You deserve better and you deserve more. Even if it is hard, let go of that almost relationship that you know there is no future in.

You deserve someone who is dating you with intent. The purpose of dating is to find the person you will marry. You deserve someone who knows this and treats dating seriously. Not playing games, not selfishly holding on to you while still keeping you at a distance. You deserve so much more than an almost. You deserve someone who says what he’s thinking, who gives as much as he accepts, and who keeps his promises. You deserve someone who is not only willing but eager to commit to you. You deserve someone who knows you’re worth a text back, you’re worth a relationship label, you’re worth his time and attention. You are worth his respect. 

You deserve some who recognizes you as his sister in Christ. You are a daughter of the King and do not settle for being treated as any less than that. You deserve someone who is dependable, consistent, giving, and loving. You deserve the unconditional real love God has in store for you. Be patient. It’s better to wait knowing that you haven’t found the right person for you yet than to convince yourself that a toxic boy is who you’re meant to be with.