That’s Gay

“I’m attracted to women.”

Everyone turned and looked at me and I was like “uhhh” so I finished.

“I’m attracted to women and I can still do my job. Regardless of what someone in my class is wearing. I can still teach. So why can’t you?”

1. describe your idea of a perfect date

2. whats your “type”

3. do you want kids?

4. if you do, will you adopt or use some other form of child birth?

5. describe the cutest date you’ve ever been on

6. describe your experience having sex for the first time (were you nervous? or was it easy peasy?)

7. are you a morning time gay or night time gay?

8. opinion on nap dates?

9. opinion on brown eyes?

10. dog gay or cat gay?

11. would you ever date someone who owned rodents or reptiles?

12. whats a turn off you look for before you start officially dating someone

13. what is a misconception you had about lgb people before you realized you were one?

14. what is a piece of advice you would give to your younger self

15. (if attracted to more than one gender) do you have different “types” for different genders?

16. who is an ex you regret?

17. night club gay or cafe gay?

18. who is one person you would “go straight” for

19. video game gay, book gay, or movie gay?

20. favourite gay ship (canon or not)

21. favourite gay youtuber

22. have you ever unknowingly asked out a straight person?

23. have you ever been in love?

24. have you ever been heartbroken?

25. how do you determine if you want to be them or be with someone

26. favourite lgb musician/band

27. what is a piece of advice you have for young / baby gays

28. are you out? if so how did you come out

29. what is the most uncomfortable / strange coming out experience you have 

y’all forgot that other people don’t care about the differences between lesbians and bi women. y’all were so busying arguing about monosexual privilege and het-passing/straight-adjacent or whatever the fuck privilege that you forgot we’re basically the same in the eyes of non-lgbt people

It wouldn’t have made a difference if both women had actually been lesbians. It wouldn’t have made a difference if both of the women had been bisexual. The reason behind the assault would have been the same: love between two women has been so fetishized and objectified that the men on the bus felt it was their right to force these women to play out their fantasy.

Lesbians and bi women alike suffer from attacks like this. Painting it as an attack against a specific label and not our community as a whole is not how we move on from this. It’s not how we grow.