love yourself

“Sometimes people let the same problem make them miserable for years when they could just say, ‘So what.’ That’s one of my favorite things to say. ‘So what.’”

“I have a million things to talk to you about. All I want in this world is you. I want to see you and talk. I want the two of us to begin everything from the beginning.”

“It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them. I was so preposterously serious in those days…Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me…to throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair. That’s why you must walk so lightly. Lightly my darling…”

“Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again. This will pass. I promise it will pass.”

“Sometimes you need to distance yourself and create alone time so you can really discover what you want out of life.”

“We grow. It hurts at first.”

“We all have different reasons for forgetting to breathe.”

“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”

“when he’s not around at the moment you’ll learn to fall in love with other things around you. the cars swishing by outside your window in the pouring rain. the waves crashing into the shore in a pleasing hard way. all the letters you write to him at midnight that he might or might not read. the pretty old bookstores and small peaceful cafés around the corner. you’ll realize that there is beauty everywhere and there is love wherever you look. there’s love in the strangers laughing as they walk on the sidewalk near the beach. the dog jumping up and down before he is given food. the old lady you’re walking by in the grocery store who’s smiling at you. that little rush you get in your body when you’re running as fast as you can. that first bite from your favorite meal. even if he’s your number one love and he’s everything, you need to step outside sometimes and look at all the other variations of love. even if he is not with you right now, you shouldn’t miss out on all the other love. love everything lovable deeply and unconditionally.”

“I have no idea how long I’m going to love you, and that scares me so much.”