I am honestly wondering why it is/was so difficult for people to see Tony Stark as the caring person who just wanted to make things right as it was there in one way or another in all those films. Sure, maybe there were more snarky comments, but it was always there, this was always his character, basically ever since he was taken captive in Iron Man 1 after the fist, what, 15 mins?, of the very first film? That is what Tony Stark has always been all about. Owning up to mistakes, taking responsibility, trying to build a better, safer future for everyone.
âTony: You stood by my side all these years while I reaped the benefits of destruction. Now that I'm trying to protect the people I've put in harm's way, you're going to walk out?
Pepper: You're going to kill yourself, Tony. I'm not going to be a part of it.
Tony: I shouldn't be alive... unless it was for a reason. I'm not crazy, Pepper. I just finally know what I have to do. And I know in my heart that it's right.â
And before Iron Man 1, sure, he may have reaped the benefits of destruction, but I would argue that even then, he was lost, looking for meaning in his life that he couldnât find, distracting others and himself of this hopelessness with money and women.
I personally think that this is all very very clear and obvious in Iron Man 1 and honestly, once he is in that cave, there is hardly anything smug, wisecracking or arrogant about him. In the flashback at the beginning, sure, but once he is in that cave and also once he is out, heâs very straight forward and open. Thereâs a sincerity and honesty about Tony Stark in that film that is, admittedly, a bit harder to see in most of the other movies, but it is always there.
Iron Man 2 is a prime example of Tony Stark maybe partly falling back into old patterns of behaviour to hide his true feelings, and maybe because that is what people expect of him. But even though, there are enough moments in it that let us see past his facade and which allow us to spot the frightened, hopeless guy behind the mask. He knows he is dying in that film, after all, and he feels that he cannot tell anyone as he doesnât want people, and especially Pepper, to worry about him when there is literally nothing anyone can do to save him. So of course he goes a bit crazy and throws that last birthday party, because why the fuck wouldnât he? But you can see the pain in his eyes when he tries to hint to Pepper that something is indeed very wrong and he wants to spent some quality time with her (before heâs gone) on that plane and she doesnât get it and thinks heâs just being his old douchy self (because how should she know whatâs really going on).
And the list goes on endlessly. Weâve discussed him flying into space with that nuke in Avengers a million times already, which is him making the ultimate sacrifice to save others, and he doesnât hesitate a moment. Hell, I bet Steve already realised how fucking wrong his accusation about Tony ânot being the guy to lay down on the wireâ were once Tony went to start that engine on the heli carrier again by putting himself in massive danger. Time and time again we see him standing up for what he believes is the right thing to do to save as many people as he possibly can, never once bashing as much as an eyelid if that means that he might die in the process. Tony getting into that âdonut shipâ, leaving Pepper and facing Thanos even though that has literally been his greatest fear for years is only the very last example of this behaviour that has been driving him ever since he was kidnapped in Iron Man 1. All those jokes in between etc. have only ever been a facade since then, and I just donât get how people havenât been able to understand that.