hi im bowie im 29 and i love orphans. they/them.
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hi im bowie im 29 and i love orphans. they/them.
i blog about romance novels, framing devices, death, cycles, identity, and zines+book arts. this is my ao3. this is my lbxd.
i come as a matched set with @obeetlebeetle.
play nice and stay silly

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I found this on the public printer yesterday and now it's part of our decor and I'm kind of obsessed
reading games rn and i remember you saying you didnât exactly love it but i am really struggling to take the first 30ish pages seriously. does it get better?
HAHAHA sorry anon but it stays exactly the same book the whole time. i also felt this way, "taking it seriously" is exactly how id put it... i think eventually i accepted that it was in character for lili to narrate how she does (the excessive focus on sensory detail and the rollercoaster of her emotions felt extremely accurate to being 23, imo). but yeah thats how she is. its a long book, id maybe give it more of a chance than 30 pages (i think the romance especially picks up once they start having Real Conversation), but it isnt one id mark as superior quality in the first place. im more excited for whatever she writes next.
new metric for whether or not i find the supposed closeness of a fictional relationship convincing: do i think they know each other's starbucks orders
ok i got curious bc of everetts tags and looked up that hand gesture angel is making in the read poster; it seems to be all of these: a) something students are taught in business school to do with your hands so you dont look awkward (angela merkl uses it for this too apparently?) b) a sanskrit murda for power/joy/happiness c) a manosphere/andrew tate adopted hand gesture that he made while getting arrested and that is now a meme among children d) very close to the ASL/BSL for pussy. what the hell david lol

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Make believe. What a wonderful phrase for the active commitment we make to fiction. It's most commonly used to describe the way kids play. A kind of wholehearted pretending in which a new world is simply spoken into existence: "Let's play house. I'll be the mom and you be the dad and Jeff is our dog. The table is our house and that rug is our giant swimming pool. We run a hot dog stand. These forks are hot dogs." And just like that, it's true. Identities change. Objects transform. The room rearranges. Reality is altered simply because everyone agrees to make themselves believe it is so.
Fiction is a kind of game, and reading is a way of playing. Each story comes with its own set of rules. Some of those rules are inherited from genre or the novelistic tradition. Others are local to the story. "In this story, animals can talk but no one can do magic." "In this story, people do magic but animals can't talk." "In this story, aliens live undetected among us." "In this story, the French Revolution never happened." "In this story, everything that happens is something that could happen in the real world, but you have access to the main character's thoughts." "This story is told in unattributed dialogue - the whole thing is people talking, and to understand what's going on, you have to figure out who's saying what." The reader must learn the rules and agree to them in order to play the game.
When we read, we make believe. We aren't duped or ensorcelled. Deep down we decide. We make ourselves believe. We know the characters in stories aren't real, but our feelings for them are. We know the things in the stories never happened, but we can't wait to learn what happens next. It's make-believe when adults take a photo in front of 221B Baker Street, the London address of Sherlock Holmes, which is marked by a plaque, installed in 1990, between 237 and 241. These people don't care that Sherlock Holmes is a fake detective or that (and I've double-checked my math on this) 221 is not a number between 237 and 241. They're making believe. So are the people who travel to Dublin on June 16 to follow the path through the city that Leopold Bloom takes in Ulysses. So is the reader who says, about the characters in a favorite series, "I feel like these people are my friends," or the one who finishes a long novel and keeps saying sadly, "I'm just going to miss living in that world."
So when adults read, we make believe too. It's just that kids are much better at it. For one thing, they're more adept at learning new rules - and not just because it's the way they play. It's the way kids live. When you're a child, every room you enter and every encounter you have is governed by a new and unspoken system of protocols that you must quickly divine. Mess up, and the results are disastrous: a tongue-lashing from Mom, or no dessert, or a week with-out video games. Dinner at home runs on one set of rules, dinner at a restaurant runs on another, and dinner at home with your mom's new boyfriend runs on a different set altogether. You'll be telling a story that would be perfectly fine to tell in the first two circumstances when you notice that your mother is glaring at you, horrified and furious: "We don't tell that story in front of Kevin!" And in that moment you learn how to have dinner with Kevin - and a little bit about your mom and that story too. That's what literary fiction is: It's dinner with Kevin.
Children are perceptive, flexible, and open-minded. They have to be. Childhood is a long series of experiments - testing out hypotheses and making adjustments. It seems only right that so much of the best children's literature is experimental too.
- from Make Believe by Mac Barnett, a set of three critical essays on children's literature.
It's only right that adults think deeply about children's literature. After all, we control the production, reception, and consumption of the books kids read. Take it from me: Children are terrible customers. They have no real income. What savings they manage to scrape together usually fit in a piggy bank, and they can't really pop down to the bookshop - children traversing town alone is generally discouraged. Many of my readers cannot, technically, read. (Children's books are often read to children, not by them.) Enter the adults. Children's books are written by adults. They are edited and designed and published by adults. Adults write reviews of children's books, and those reviews are read by adults. Adults decide which children's books get shelved in bookstores and libraries. At school, adults select children's books for story time or assign them to children to read. At home, adults sometimes hide their children's favorite books because, for the love of god, they just cannot take reading them one more time. A children's book passes through many adults' hands before it ever reaches a kid's, if the kid is even allowed to touch it, because that book was really expensive, and what if the kid got pudding on it or something?
- from the introduction to Mac Barnett's Make Believe, which i largely liked as a work of criticism although i disagree with several of his points. a very worthwhile read if you are any of the adults described in the quote above, ie any adult who interacts with children's literature or children. its three short essays and hes a great writer. its not exactly child liberation focused, but i think he does have a good grasp on how important a child is as their own person.
Boys Gone Wild! Forget Will & Grace: Gay men are in lust with Johnny Knoxville and the skater punks of Jackass by Carl Swanson (2002)
this is from an essay margaret wise brown wrote while in the graduate program at bank street school, called "writing for five-year-olds." the whole thing, plus comments from her professor, is available to read here. i love this piece very much and i find her insight into the worlds of children invaluable and delightful. she takes cues from stories told to her by children in order to understand what is important to them and how to tell stories they will enjoy. timeless and vital, and of course her own rhythm in writing is so fun and inventive.
quarterly ali updates and intention setting. first off this whole month is three year aliversary đđ the specific date i read lovehypothesis for the first time is the 24th i think but i had already dabbled in lotb and the novellas before that... my beautiful descent into madness. we are a month and a half out from lovehypothesis movie #scary #fear but im hoping i get a full trailer soon as an aliversary present. i havent listened to unbound yet (came out last month) but i might just wait till my print copy comes in September. we are not getting an october release because we were bad. feb remains to be seen. deepend at netflix is moving forward + has a writer attached... im hoping we will get lovetheoretically news after tlh premiere. i want to finish GUTARN pt2 soon, its like halfway there. i have a couple deepend posts i want to make about TPE, erotics of safewords, and third act resolutions. there's no non-ali romances on my horizon (except role model i guess) but i do want to read the bonds of love by jessica benjamin (recd by ej) and this book i was just reblogging from reid and i have a couple more random pdfs hanging around. i need to make time generally to actually work on my fannonfiction writing and reading. oy not enough hours in the day

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american library associationâs READ poster ft buffy cast
basically tpe forever & if ppl see it & think the one person gets everything in this & the other gets nothing they dont understand tpe at all
Imagine a related but different scene in which two adults agree to enact a play-rape scenario. The person in Lumiâs position, the âbottom,â appears to be powerless since she hands over to the other the power to determine the stopping point. As the authorized arbiter of limits, the person in Imaniâs position, the âtop,â may be seen as the person with power as she is the one who âcalls the shots.â Obviously, a sexual scene of this sort derives its frisson and erotic charge precisely from this top-bottom power differential, that is, from its asymmetry. Inversely, one might see the bottom as being in control, since she, after all, is the one who decides when things stop and what goes or does not. The top, in this reasoning, is merely executing orders, âservicingâ the bottom. But, for several reasons, we would not be correct to view this encounter as one in which power is totally splitâwith one person having it and the other person not. The idea that the top is ultimately in control naĂŻvely overlooks the topâs vulnerability: in consenting to act as the top, she has engaged the bottomâs invitation for her to move past her own limits. The fact that she may also be pleasured by the experience does not diminish the fact that, in overcoming her internal resistancesâthat is, in bending her willâthe top has to assume some responsibility if something were to go wrong. The top, therefore, makes herself passible to the bottom and to the bottomâs desire, which means that she is not the sovereign in the dyad. Nor is she sovereign in herself since, in accepting the vulnerability of bending her will, she permits the calling up of things in herself that she cannot predict ahead of time. To enact the rape play, she will have to engage with the rousing of her sadism to let it flow, while also keeping some relative check on it. At the same time, the popular opinion that because the bottom conceives of and directs the play she is ultimately the one in control is not correct either. While it is true that the topâs authority is grantedâand can be revokedâby the bottom, the bottom also assumes the risk of being exposed to something going awry, which is also what makes the erotic engagement âhot.â In other words, limit consent gives us an understanding of consent in which power is not dichotomously apportionedâas in, one has it and the other does not âbut elaborates a vision of consent in which power, vulnerability, and responsibility are more complexly distributed, not only between the participants but also in the texture of their encounter. Dichotomous power is in the purview of affirmative or informed consent.
thank youuu avgi saketopoulou
The affirmative consent model, however, is insufficiently nuanced: it problematically imagines desire to be autonomous, unconstrained, and possible to separate from social inequalities that, in fact, condition who gets to withhold consent and who does not. Premised on and trafficking in appetites and erotic acts that are intelligible and socially palatable, it âoften buttresses normative sexualities and sexual hierarchiesâ (Cruz, 2016, p. 46). From a psychoanalytic perspective, then, affirmative consent is revealed to be but a ruse: the discourse on affirmative consent presumes individuals with distinct centers of subjectivity who inform, negotiate, and reach agreements to minimize misunderstandings and manage expectations (Haag, 1999), which overlooks that we cannot know, except after the fact, what we will enjoy or not and how or what will pain or traumatize versus growthfully challenge us. So while violations of our boundaries and a disrespect of our limits absolutely deserve our attention, affirmative consent is illusory and thus not a useful concept.
avgi saketopoulou, sexuality beyond consent: risk, race, traumatophilia
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spikedawn. M. 3.6K.
spike and dawn on the road. testing boundaries.
finally my spikedawn is posted!! been chipping away at this for months, and it was so fun to write spikes pov and figure out ways into all the strangle little nooks of their dynamic. im not tagging this underage bc nothing happens on the page, but its certainly in the grey area. ok have fun <33 read it on ao3 here.
i just pulled PSR for a hold and opened it to this page... the serendipity 𼰠my beautiful perfect book i love u so

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the publishing industry loves to make money, and i think that's where a lot of the impetus to publish former fanwork comes from. The issues imo, are twofold:
1. if you can just scrub the fan part from fanfiction to make it publishable, it probably wasn't a great fanwork and won't be a great standalone work either
2. there are only so many books that can be marketed and published by the mainstream industry. Do we really want the industry to be innundated with more slop that doesn't even do the readers of the service of being original? And are we ok with this stuff taking the place of original work? Like, literally the author of an original romance novel will be unable to publish because Random House bought their 10th Dramoine manuscript.
I respect fanfiction as an artform. I love reading it. I respect the authors who write it. But I do not think that any of the actually good, creative, and original fanworks are being published. First, because it is impossible to divorce them from the source material. Second, because any self respecting fanfiction author understands that their work cannot be divorced from the source material and still maintain the qualities that make it great.
i don't know how familiar you are with my blog. this is a topic i am regularly posting about, i am not brand new. i disagree with both your premises. first, there are as many types of fanfiction as there are iterations of any other literary form, and what makes fanfic "good" is not going to be monolithic, nor will it be a universally objective opinion. second, this is not how the publishing industry works, in my understanding. yes, a limited number of books are published each year. we are now in a serious rollback of diversity after the past decade of high highs. but a successful book in a given genre or imprint (which, maybe youve seen the stats that romance is one of the few sectors making any money) means more books in that area, not fewer. more of that author, more of comparable work, more of other authors willing to write into that genre as well.
please do not come to me and tell me what a "self-respecting" author would or would not do. i think that is a real red flag for lack of engagement in good faith. i have an enormous amount of respect for several romance authors who have published their fanfic, specifically because of the integrity with which they regard their own writing and the craft of romance. i am not interested in dismissing someone solely because of the career choices they have made or the subjects of their writing.
i also want to challenge your idea of "original work". romance as a genre is famously collaborative, iterative, and open-source. i highly recommend the book love in the time of self-publishing, which is nonfiction about the last 50+ years of romance publishing and has wonderful history about the ways that romance authors lift each other up. there are legacies of racism and marginalization that go along with that. in all of these ways, romancelandia reminds me of the history of fandom, especially in the USA. in my opinion, romance novelists and fandom writers already have a lot more in common than either group may realize.
Ah these children who always create problems for poor mothers....
Let's hold up traffic with mama!