change your thoughts & your environment will change. there is no such thing as a slow period…unless you believe there is. your ethnicity does not limit you, unless you think it does. I am often told to consider the “reality” of being a black escort…that my white counterparts will always make more than me because they are white…I am told this is the “reality”. 

To that belief I say: it is “reality” and “truth” ONLY to the person focuses so much on it that it has manifested again and again for them. I don’t focus on those things ever. It doesn’t serve me. It’s a counterproductive belief to me. 

I choose to believe that I will get whatever I want, the “how” doesn’t concern me. I don’t permit myself to be submerged in a suffocating sea of misdirection; I am choosy about who I listen to. I mute so many girls on Twitter. I unfollow so many blogs of people complaining & making excuses. 

My mentors in this industry are women who have earned $100k a month. That is who I gather “truth” and “reality” from. In being in such close communication with these women I have learned that they are not special in ANY way except in the way they think. 

$10K in a night, easy. Securing a sponsor & credit card, done. Earning $60k from weekend dates & mutiple overnights, piece of cake. Leaving this industry a millionaire, more than possible. 

I have mentors because I will learn from their mistakes and fasttrack my success. It will take me half the time to achieve what they have achieved, and that will make them proud. In fact, I intend to surpass their success. 

Before you begin:

• Know what you want. What you really want. And don’t think of “how” you’ll get it. • Write the desire in present tense on a card. It is now your goal card. • Carry this card with you and read it often. This is putting the desire into your subconscious mind. • Check if your goal is really what you want. Can you imagine bigger? Are you letting fear stop you? Are you answering your soul’s calling with this? 

Night:

• How you fall asleep determines what shows up in your life. Everytime. Without fail. So we start our day how we fell asleep the night before, actually. Ask your self one question before you sleep: “If my wishes were fulfilled, how would I feel?” Fall asleep to that question satisfied. • Record an MP3 or voice note of your OWN voice, reciting positive affirmations. Get examples online but personalize them. Your subconscious mind trusts your own voice. Use it.  • Never ever let yourself fall asleep feeling stress or failure. Don’t invite it in. 

Morning:

• When your eyes open, set your intention for the day.  • Did you have any dreams last night? Write them down. • Write 5 things you’re grateful for. Increase to 10 after a while and begin to include wishes that are yet to manifest e.g. “I’m grateful I now weigh __” 

Day:

• Read Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. (PDF’s online) Read slowly and reflectively.  • Read Feeling Is The Secret by Neville Goddard (PDF’s online)  • The Secret book/DVD is great for beginners but you’re going to have to dig deeper to pull this off.  • Do what makes you smile. Read, play your music, call a friend, go for walks. Do whatever you can to lighten your mood.  • Write about your desire as if it’s already happened.  • Visualize your life ASSUMING the desire has already happened. How do you feel? What are you wearing? Where are you? Was manifesting easy and fun?

Remember:

• Bruce Lee, Jim Carrey, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Oprah Winfrey, Big Sean, Conor McGregor and countless others have used this formula. It works, and it will work for you. 

Hypergamy is not a bad word!

Some women feel guilty about wanting to date wealthy men. But those wealthy men must marry someone eventually. Why not let that someone be you?

You deserve to have the best in every area of your life. That includes your career, social life and romantic life

Rich people don't feel dirty about teaching their daughters to practice hypergamy. Their daughters aren't told that they are golddiggers, even if they are living of their parents money and using their parents connections to meet other wealthy people.

I once heard a man say that if he was a woman, he'd be rich. He's not the first man to say this. Men know the power that women hold. You could literally become rich just because you're a woman.

Identify Rich Men:

Avoid men who are overly flashy in the photos. They likely aren't very rich at all and are in debt.

Avoid men who have high end designer logos all over the jacket or shirt.

Look for men who are properly fitted suits or business casual outfit outfits in the photos. As they are likely businessman of some sort.

Don't discount men wear dress down. I know plenty of millionaires and wealthy men who wear jeans and a T-shirt.

Just check to see if he is well groomed at the very least. Does he take care of his hair? Does his clothes at least fit him right?

Many truly wealthy men, except for the nouveaux riche, don't want people to know they are rich and don't want to attract the wrong people, so they purposely dress down.

Make affluent girlfriends

The goal should be to build a network of classy, successful women are living the lifestyle that you desire. At least one of them should be married, single and in a relationship

Many successful men are going to trust the close friend for recommendations on the great girl, instead of trying to approach random women in public or going online

If they're getting married sometime soon, and you are invited to the wedding many of his and her male friends will be there, and they are most likely is just as successful as your friend and her boyfriend.

Meghan Markle didn't stumble upon prince harry by accident, she was introduced to him by a friend.

It is also important that you become the woman that other classy, successful women want to be around. The relationship shouldn't be one-sided in value you should offer them value as well.

You do have to carry yourself as a classy, successful lady would. You should have interesting things going on in your life. This is another reason why I tell women to build a side income, even if their goal is to meet a wealthy man who takes care of them.

If you've upgraded your friends, you will be up and dating again in no time, because they can introduce you to someone new.

You should always be working on your network and your net worth. Think of all the rich people who went bankrupt but remained fine because they had not only the knowledge but the network of other successful people who could help them in someway.

"Your dresses should be tight enough to show you’re a woman and lose enough to show you're a lady." - Edith Heard

most men want something to fantasize about. If you're overly proactive, they have nothing to daydream about.

If you dress overly conservative or worse, if you dress masculine, then he won't want to fantasize about you at all.

It's easy to find a man but finding a good man of quality and requires you to do some upgrading to yourself and your life.

finding a good man is like finding a job good job, you don't stop improving yourself and looking for one until you finally find it.

Subscribe to magazines that wealthy people read in your town.

Many magazines that are popular and lower income areas are filled with gossip and celebrity topics because they know what people in these environments find entertaining.

Magazines that I popular amongst wealthy people tend to be filled with very different topics.

Only accept expensive Dates!

Some men and women make the argument that if you meet online, the guy doesn't really know yet and it may be a waste of money...but it's not a waste of money if you're selective about who ask out on dates.

If he is swiping right on every woman online, dating a new woman every week and taking none of them seriously, then of course a coffee date with him best because he's not looking for a serious relationship to begin with.

Remember, men follow the standards that women set. Men wouldn't offer a coffee date when Every woman said no to coffee dates.

You should want to date a man who is generous towards you, loves to wine and dine you and treats you the best.

Dating Etiquette:

Keep phone calls very short during the beginning of the relationship I'm talking 5 to 10 minutes.

If a man wants to know more about you and talk to you for hours he needs to take you out on a proper date.

If he hasn't asked you out with and text exchanges, start taking even longer to respond to his text messages. I'm talking days.

It is OK not to give an answer to a question that is too personal. Many women make the mistake of feeling the need to give an answer to everything.

But not a classy lady! If he asks you how many men you've slept with respond with "I'm a lady and I would rather not discuss something so personal".

Whenever man asks any other question that you deem to be too personal, just let him know that you would rather not discuss it at the moment and change the subject

Don't try to tell a ton of jokes, ask ton of questions or talk to much about yourself. All these are signs that you were trying to impress him

This doesn't mean that you should act shy and boring. Show that you were impressed when he tells you about his accomplishments. men love feeling smart.

The people who talk the least tend to be the most interesting. The people that let us do most of the talking are usually the people we find to be good conversationalist, when in reality, they just know how to keep you talking about yourself. Which most people enjoy doing.

Only allow him to see you once per week until you become exclusive. Why? Because why would he buy the whole package, when he can get it for free?

If he already has full access to your time, and can see you whenever he would like anyway, what incentive does he have to take things to the next level?

A woman who is living her best life doesn't have time to go out with the guy multiple times per week. She's not that easily obtainable.

I don't care how much he begs you or tells you he enjoys being around you, always keep it once per week. Men will always fast track a relationship and see you as much as possible in the beginning.

And most of the time they will genuinely mean it. You are new to them so the excitement (and let's be honest, the lust) makes them want to see you as much as they can. If you allow it, that excitement will die out fast and quickly turn into boredom.

Avoid serious topics like Marriage and starting a family. If he brings it up first then give them a light answer for example: "I could see myself getting married to the right person", "I could see myself having kids with the right man" etc.

How to get him to propose (or do anything else you want him to)

I once had a man admit to putting off proposing to his girlfriend because he already knew she would say yes. He said he thought no rush to propose because he knew she wasn't going anywhere.

Most guys are used to women constantly nagging them about marriage, so let them wonder why you don't mention it at all. Be more mysterious than the rest.

Many women make the mistake of nagging their partners in order to get what they want, yet this technique only leads to the man resenting you.

Now when I say ignore him, I'm not talking about doing the silent treatment. Not only does the silent treatment create the opposite effect of what you want, but it's very immature.

I once knew a woman who wanted to get married, but her boyfriend wasn't even bringing up marriage. Of course she didn't nag him, as it would go against my advice. Instead she told him she was taking a mini vacation to Europe and she didn't invite him.

Prior to that, she was constantly staying busy and texting and calling him less. She "punished" him by giving him less of her time. By the time she got back from her four-day trip, he asked her for her hand in marriage

When you show them that you care too much the chase is over.

Men are used to being spoiled by women's emotions and over-affections. It's part of the reason why the silent treatment doesn't work.

When you are sitting right next to him being angry and silent as he tries to talk to you, it shows that you truly do care too much and he knows it.

If you truly didn't care you would have walked out and left along time ago are you would be too busy to be sitting next to him and pouting.

When you pull away from the relationship even just a bit he will notice. He will begin to worry that you might leave or that you found someone better. He will feel losing you and he will do anything to fix it.

Now the catch is that if he isn't that into you, you will soon find out with this technique. So be sure that you are ready to handle the truth.

If you are following this rules, the wealthy man that you are seeing will have invested too much time, money and energy into you, to want to lose you so quickly.

Don’t build with a Man!

When you help a man build his career from the bottom up, you represent what he can get while he's on bottom. Which is why many men cheat or leave a woman altogether once he gets on top and becomes successful.

You want him to be doing well in his career before you except a proposal. This allows him to see you as a woman that he got while on top.

Keep them chasing you from the beginning. He will feel like you are still the prize to be won, once he's on top, because he still hasn't fully "caught" you.

And after that, the fact that you let him build his career alone without you helping him, he will feel like he truly got to impress you.

In the end men just like to feel as though they got the best women that they could while they are successful. They don't want to feel like they've settled.

When men talk about their “type” they’re really talking about who they can afford not who they ideally desire to be with

men will say i want a woman who’s natural and doesn’t wear makeup

but who do they follow on IG, and mast*rbate to while watching p*rn, and cheat with, who do they pursue and spend money on : women wearing makeup

men will say i don’t want a gold digger or  high maintenance women

but when given the choice they’ll always go for the high maintenance women, a man will walk into a room and look at the most boojee expensive looking woman, the woman who’s nails and hair look like they cost 2 months of rent, and THAT’s the woman they’ll approach

men will say they want a good girl who loves them for who they are but will be bored with her and actively chase the self absorbed woman who puts herself first

so whatever men say they want they’re lying

they’re describing who they can afford

they can only afford a low self esteem woman, who doesn’t take care of her look and doesn’t ask for much

but who they dream about and wish they could have, who they salivate over and actively pursue and jump hoops for is the exact woman they claim they don’t want

they want the high maintenance bratty chick, the girl who wants to get flown out and go on shopping sprees, the girl who knows her worth and ads tax,

they might hate on her for show, they might go on these podcasts and claim they don’t want that kind of woman, but deep down every man wishes he could show off having a pretty girlfriend and being able to spend on her, no one aspires to be with bottom of the barrel, low maintenance easily accessible women.

Hey dear,

the best way to establish boundaries is first through energy, how you look and act gives men an idea on what you’re willing to tolerate.

for example if you accept last minute dates that let’s him know you have no boundaries around time.

if he shows up at your workplace unannounced and you accept to see him that shows him you have no boundaries around personal space.

my advice is at the first sign if disrespect, the first time he insinuates something or says a tasteless remark, do NOT ignore it, you can ask him to repeat himself, then explain what he means = this will make him realize how unacceptable he sounds. Then calmly you can say either of these things.

I’m not comfortable with that

It’s not acceptable to talk to me that way

Did you mean to say that out loud

what makes you think you can talk to me that way

you can establish boundaries while staying feminine, no shouting or agressive body language just let him know that you see what he’s doing and you won’t let it pass unnoticed.

The first mistake women make is believing men don’t have enough to spend. If a man likes you it doesn’t matter if he’s earning 6 figures or minimum wage, he WILL find a way to provide for you!

I had a friend who’s boyfriend was 10 years older and was earning significantly more than her and he used to make her go 50/50 on everything, food, rent, vacations. Yet every time he was with his buddies, and I’m talking groups of 7 to 10 guys at a time, he’d always pay for the entire table to show he’s an « alpha male. »

You ever wonder how your boyfriend/husband never has money for you but will magically have money for his homie who needs gas money, has money for p*rnhub or onlyf*ns subscriptions, has money for random useless hobbies like video games and Pokemon cards, and is sending back money to his mom & relatives.

Bu why doesn’t he have money for you ?

He simply doesn’t like you!

I know men who are coupled and make their gfs pay for everything yet these same men will ask to pay for a random woman’s Starbucks because she’s cute, or offer to pay groceries for her just to get a chance to talk to her!

Trust that at all times men are spending money, if it’s not on you, then it’s on the next chick, even if that’s their mama.

For years I never quite understood the whole you have to love yourself first in order for others to love you.

But now I do and I’ll explain it as best as I can:

When you walk into a room, the only thing you have going for you is your appearance and attitude (aka confidence)

You could be a loving, creative highly intelligent woman beneath the layers of insecurity, but if you act insecure, don’t take up space and speak negatively of yourself, people will just accept that conclusion about you because again they can only know what you show them, they’ll assume that you must have something to be insecure about.

Similarly, you could have previously been the ugly duckling, could have been bullied at school, picked last, a victim of trauma, but if you act confident and speak highly about yourself, that’s the only conclusion people will take with them, they’ll assume you have a good life going for you because you’re confident.

You are a walking advertisement for yourself, everywhere you go, through your confidence(or lack of)you’re telling people how you feel about yourself and how they should expect to treat you.

We are wired to want the best for ourselves, so given the choice between a confident and insecure person we’ll choose the confident one, because they carry the promise of a good time!

Think about weddings, there’s always that one bridesmaid who’s a bundle of light, she’s talking to the DJ, and helping the staff serve food and chatting up the elder family members, everyone loves her and remembers her. Think about the cool girl you meet in the bathroom of a club, she lets you borrow her lipstick and gives you an uplifting compliment and makes you feel good about yourself, and you think wow I’d love to get to know her.

THAT’s the impact of self confidence, it’s this luminosity that’s so addictive and that draws everybody in.

the other day i read something and it was a real wake up call, it said something about how this life is the only one we get, this isn’t a free trial that we then get to upgrade, we either heal, achieve our dreams and thrive in THIS lifetime or we are left with the unknown. your life is not a waiting room, where you wait for things to get easier, and for opportunities to align, and for wealth to fall into your lap, your life is now! We are taught so many useless concepts growing up, “it gets better when you’re out of high school”, “it get’s better when you have a job”, “ it’ll feel nicer when you’re in a relationship”, “ xx age is the best age”, newsflash, it doesn’t GET better, you have to MAKE it better, every single day, and you have to do it on purpose, with determination, even on the days you don’t feel so good, or the days you’re feeling lazy, or the days the weather’s not quite right.

We fail ourselves the moment we live our lives in the future, in anticipation of the better, happier, wealthier us that apparently can never exist in the now but only in the mist of our imaginations of a future. the future is NOW. your life is a continuous now, wait for tomorrow to be better and that tomorrow is your new “now”, and that’s how people blink and suddenly, life has already passed them by while they were fantasizing, they wake up at 50 or 70 and think of all the things they could have achieved, and they think of how doable it was all along. the things we wish to accomplish seem daunting when we first look at them as a big chunk, but in reality every dream is only a series of small steps, actions, and thoughts, that are repeated with fervor and faith on a daily basis.

Please, start today, start living now, we are not drawing from an inexhaustible source, our time on earth is limited, everything else is not, your passion, drive, discipline, how much you can grow, how much you can love yourself and others, how much you can serve others and contribute to the world, how much you can achieve and create, how much you can earn and learn, money, knowledge, love, prosperity, wisdom, health, are all available to us, no cap, no maximum or limit to how much we can have, it’s all about how much we’re willing to take, if we just get up and do it.

Don’t try go for red lips, red nails and red heels IMHO. Even if you rock Loubs, it just looks so extra- in a bad way. Never coordinate your purse, nails and your shoes around anyone in fashion- it looks good to regular folk but it comes across as slightly tacky, slightly lazy, and very unimaginative to anyone in fashion.

Where to shop:

Zara: I find Zara has a knack for tailoring their clothes to fit your size very well. They’re very clean, & often minimalist in nature. Shoes are affordable & amazing, especially if you have wide feet. If you still can’t afford things here full price wait for their end of season sales. 

ASOS: they are a one stop shop & you can easily compare prices between brands. The ASOS brand itself is pretty great. If  you’re a student, make sure you sign up so you can have a 24/7/365 10% discount on purchases. Their sales are phenomenal & they have a great customer service & shipping policy.

H&M: I used to hate them but they’re upping their game. They’re very good for basics such as camis and long sleeve shirts.

Lord & Taylor: They have a good selection of quality fashion jewellery that looks very decent. I swear by their earrings.

Thrift stores: This is obvi hit or miss & takes a bit more time & a bit more knowledge about the kind of fabric youre looking for etc but one of my most complimented shift dresses was bought at Goodwill for $4 & I also have a lovely silk blouse I got for $3.

Saks Off Fifth: This is Saks Fifth Avenue’s version of Nordstrom Rack. If you’re looking to invest in quality designer pieces but want them at a bargain, this is a reliable source.

Poshmark: This is a site where people buy things from each other’s closets. I sell & buy from there. There was a beautiful asymmetric skirt that got sold out at H&M last year that I ended up finding here in my size. Basically thrifting online & everything is cheap.

The RealReal: Online consignment store for designer goods. If you want to splurge on a designer bag or shoes without paying full price, this is a great place to get pre-loved items. 

How to take care of your closet:

It doesn’t mean anything to buy quality pieces if you don’t take care of them. Looking after the things you own will keep your closet looking expensive.

Find a cobbler: I swear by my cobbler. A good cobbler will take your raggedy ass worn out shoes & make them presentable again. I have a habit of wearing my shoes down to the ground but my cobbler fixes them right back up for cheap. Your cobbler will also more likely than not know how to take care of leather goods such as bags.

Find a tailor: This is more expensive than a cobbler but 100% worth it. My tailor has taken some pieces of mine & turned them into gold.

If you want to be ATTRACTIVE you can be.

-Get up early. Set your alarm and stretch first thing. Then go make some tea.

-Get dressed, do light makeup & go for a walk (Always look your best even if it’s light makeup & your hair is in a ponytail).

-Work out. Even though you don’t want to! Do you think anybody wants to at first? No. How do they get results? Discipline.

-Check off a calendar to feel accomplished after u do these things every day (with a rest day in between. Even then, stay active just go easier—walk).

-Do a face mask 2X a week at the end of the day. Put teabags on eyes to reduce puffiness. Moisturize and use gua sha roller to massage face.

-Sleep to binaural beats music for deep sleep

If you want to be SMART you can be.

-Read portions of a book mindfully and try to retain that information.

-Try to finish 1 book every 2 weeks. The library is your friend.

-Do a crossword in the local newspaper

If you want to be STRONG you can be.

-STOP giving into your emotions & being at their mercy.

-Do you feel sad? Well cry it out, comfort yourself & then get right back to doing whatever you need to further your goals.

-Don’t be an open book. Even if you don’t feel well nobody on the outside needs to know. Don’t give away your secrets. Only ask for help from appropriate people.

If you want to be FRIENDLY & PERSONABLE you can be.

-What would you do if you were drunk/ not overthinking it?

-How others react to you is none of your business. Don’t let them determine your worth/ mood.

-Compliment strangers. Ask for directions. This can lead to small talk.

-Mirror people subtly. Add on to the conversation by asking questions. Wait until the other person is done speaking no matter how badly you want to get a word in.

why should someone be rewarded for not being the best? for not putting in effort? I have worked with girls who, like me, want to be the best. they put in effort. they bring the fantasy. they take care of their nails, hair, skin, body, hygiene. they read books on seduction. they watch videos on sexuality. they give their all in bookings. and their clients ALWAYS come back, its no secret.

I have also worked with girls who do the bare minimum. who don't even bother to put on makeup, who don't work on conversation skills, don't give a fuck. it shows because they are the ones complaining about money. not being booked, clients not returning. sure, their marketing is fine still bare minimum. they don't spend on ads. photos are decent but they aren't fresh. these girls are surprised when their retention is shit. they are entitled. they do the bare minimum, so they get minimum results.

I will never be that person. I am too prideful. I prefer to be known as the best. I prefer to flip the switch and to leave a person awe-struck with how good I am at pretending. yes, its exhausting. but we are compensated VERY well for being a fantasy. If I expect $100k months, I had better be the sort of woman who commands it. Lazy people don't get ahead, full stop.