Hmm... I'll go for the not so tame ones! 17, 18, 19, 32, and 33
Iâmma warn ya, @dreamykittenn⌠this is going to be a lot of âI donât really have an answer for thatâ or ânunya, thatâs private sexy stuffâ or long-winded explanations about why I donât do or care as much about these things anymore, lolâŚ
17. What are some post-hypnotic suggestions you particularly enjoy (for others or yourself)?
I get why people ask this. They want ideas, or they want to voyeuristically groove on stuff other people do⌠ButâŚ
When I first started playing around a decade ago, Iâd go way way out of my way to come up with really clever, creative, âooohâ post-hypnotic suggestions and triggers. For as much as the EH community lately generally poo-poos (the legal term) Stage Hypnosis for having different consent norms, thereâs still a large element of EH community play that centers around very Stage Hypnosis-y âhahaâ trigger play â we all know the kind: triggers that are meant to be kinda funny and shocking and silly, for show-offy entertainment as much as sexytime.
I get that, and I still occasionally enjoy that sort of trigger, especially at a con or event where thereâs that playful, exhibitionist, show-offy vibe in public settings.
But when it comes to my private, intimate, sexy play, I find that over the years, I donât go in as much for elaborate, unique, clever and sometimes overly-complicated triggers or suggestions. In private, my partner and I arenât there to see how creative we can be or how funny or shocking a trigger is. Weâre there to have sexytime fun just with each other in private. To that end, sorry, those kinds of triggers shall remain private, but I will say most of them are used not to elicit some complicated chain of actions or reactions, but simply to put a play partner into or reinforce a different, sexy state of mind, such as doll or toy headspace play.
That said, sometimes partners and I want to play around with some CNC type triggers that use memory play to âhideâ the trigger, so that the partner is responding to a trigger they arenât consciously aware they have and acting in ways they canât quite explain. Again, I mostly use those for very sexual, intimate behaviors that remain behind the Giant Nunya Door, lol.
So howâs that for a long, rambling non-answer? Get used to âem today! lol
18. Describe your best experience involving hypnosis
Again, I know what this question wants to hear about, lol⌠and Iâm not going to share it.
I really do admire and appreciate those amazing folks in our community who are open and explicit and so very hot in sharing the intimate details of some of their hottest hypno play experiences. But Iâve learned over the years that as much as I sometimes wish that was me, itâs not me. Partly because deep down at heart, Iâm still kind of a shy rural smalltown guy who sometimes blushes about sharing sexy sex sex stuff publicly â Iâll talk VERY openly ABOUT sex topics, but tend to shy away from sharing with strangers specific details from my own sex life.
It causes minor internal conflicts for me because Iâve always been a pretty show-offy, attention-seeking, storytelling kind of person, and for the past few years Iâve found myself immersed in and self-valuing from an online community where some of the social currency and attention and popularity is garnered from sharing stories about SEX STUFF.
But also because one thing being in the hypno kink community has taught me over the years is to really respect and protect other peopleâs privacy. My âbestâ hypno experiences always involve someone else, and the best of the best experiences involve very private, intimate things with someone else.
Even if Iâm as vague as possible about a specific type of erotic play or a singular hypno moment, there could be someone who reads this and says, âOh god, that was with ME.â And while some folks and friends and current or former play partners might really enjoy reading that vague sexual reference to themselves in a public forum, quite a few would not feel entirely comfortable with it. Including myself, lol.
So yeah, my BEST hypno experiences have usually been in private, in the bed room, involving doing really deep, hot, sexual things with close, intimate, trusted partners.
But on the PG-13 side of things, some of my best PUBLIC hypno experiences have been just hanging out with friends on a call or at a con and goofing around, improvising, coming up with new, fun, silly ideas as a group. Dating back to my first-ever hypno con I talked about in a previous ask below, I love coming up with and testing out new fun hypno ideas in a public group, and the entertainer in me loves performing and showing them off. I like playing with props (like a half empty water bottle at the most recent NEEHU) or a silly kernel of an idea and improvising and spinning it off into all sorts of new fun silly (maybe a little sexy) hypno tricks.
Also, some of your âbestâ hypno experiences are likely to be your âfirstsââthe first time you Did A Thing or first time It Worked. I have a few of those moments from that first MEEHU five years agoâfor example, the first time, toward the end of that confidence-building hypno weekend, I instantly dropped two people at once in person with just a snap of the finger or push on the forehead. Or, from that same first MEEHU, the first real HypnoEgg Super Battle, that had the whole room watching and cheering. Those were huge exciting moments in my personal Hypno Mythology :)
19. Describe a bad experience you had involving hypnosis? Why was it bad? Why did it go wrong?
I consider myself very very lucky that Iâve never had anything really bad happen or go wrong during hypno play, knock wood.
I have had hypno play that afterwards my play partner gave feedback that some part of it wasnât entirely comfortable for them. Iâve had partners who were relatively new to erotic hypno play feel embarrassed afterwards about some of the things we did. Iâve had abreactions from a play partner when memory play CNC commands worked too well and freaked them out a bit because they genuinely did not know why they were doing or saying certain things. Iâve had scenes that I did not do a good job of fully negotiating in advance that did not cause problems for the subject or ruin the scene, but that the subject rightfully and helpfully pointed out later should have been better negotiated.
In all those situations, I was lucky enough to have good partners and subjects who felt comfortable and safe communicating any issues to me during or after, and we talked openly about the things, and I learned and noted some important lessons.
From a skills standpoint, I do have one moment I remember well from a few years ago â the first time I tried to hypnotize in public someone completely new to hypnosis, never had any huge interest in it, had never been in a hypnotic trance. And I just BIFFED it. Fumbled, didnât have a solid plan or technique. Iâd been trancing lots and lots of folks over the years, but they were mostly experienced subjects, or at least people really interested and eager to trance. But in this case, my first attempt at âstreetâ hypnosis, I was woefully unprepared. It was in public with an audience watching, I was rushed and nervous, and needless to say, the person did not go into any sort of trance state. I felt like a failure, I felt like Iâd bumped up against my stark limitations, and it rattled my confidence for a bit. (Not about trancing play partners â I was still able to do that as usual â but about trancing âstrangers.â)But this past year, Iâve been helping co-lead a new, wonderful Chicago hypnosis group (Chicago Mesmer Group â check us out on Fet if youâre in the area!), and because we have a lot of new, curious but inexperienced folks attending from both sides of the watch, Iâve had a fantastic opportunity to teach budding new hypnotists structured techniques like the Ellman Induction â which meant really LEARNING the Ellman Induction myself.
I had never gone in much for formal, structured inductions â like many of us, I started with progressive relaxation and then just sort of improvised my own induction style over the years. But teaching and learning the Ellman has been great because it is a very structured, formatted, standard starting place, and it usually gets good results. (My hypno Ellman experience was similar to my relationship with Shakespeare â I âstudiedâ a lot of Shakespeare in college, but didnât really âgetâ it until I had to teach it to students later as a educator. Nothing teaches you something better than having to teach it.)
The new group has also meant that there have been a lot of opportunities recently to trance newcomers who have never tranced before. And Iâve been thrilled to discover that, using something like Ellman or a variation on it, Iâve had great success giving new folks their first-ever hypnotic trances.
Yay for learning and growing and moving past failures and stuff!
32. Describe your biggest fantasy involving hypnosis?
Iâve been fortunate enough over the past decade to actually live and play out some of my hottest erotic hypno fantasies â in ways I could not have possibly imagined 30, 20, even 10 years ago. And Iâm continually exploring new fantasies. And yes, I do have some deep, hot fantasies Iâve never fully explored. But Iâm not gonna share them here, lol. My Tumblr exhibitionism and need for attention has its limits.
33. Do you have any fantasies about non-consensual hypnosis? Describe them
Oh yes I do, very much so. As Iâve said in other answers, the majority of my fetish centers around non-consensual Mind Control fantasies, where the heat for me is in the slow, resisted but uncontrollable transformation or corruption. The hottest part of any hypno or mind control erotica for me is always the âmiddle groundâ where the subject/victim hasnât yet completely surrendered and succumbed, and doesnât know whatâs happening to them or why theyâre thinking feeling and behaving a certain (sexual, uninhibited, lustful) way. The hottest lines for me were always, âOh god, why am I doing this? Why canât I stop myself? Why does it feel so good?!â
However, Iâve found that I donât usually go in for too much theatrical or archly artificial role-play in my kink scenes. I donât want us to pretend like and have to act out that weâre completely different characters in a story. I want us to be usâonly altered, transformed, and controlled. That can make deeper CNC play a little trickier, more complicated, and more labor-intensive with real hypnosis. (I used to co-teach a class at cons called Mind Control Fantasy vs. Hypno Reality.)
Iâve yet to find the perfect dynamic and balance in real play that lets my partner completely forget they have consented to darker CNC hypno play in a way that feels realistic and gets at that sweet, delicious middle space, and doesnât require them to do a lot of heavy, distracting âacting.â The trick is how to make someone you are very sexually intimate with âforgetâ that, and maybe forget that they know you in that way, so they react with shock and embarrassment at what theyâre doing â without it all feeling really contrived and artificially âacted.â But Iâm always working at it and getting closer!
Thanks for all the asks, @dreamykittenn!
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