Anyway, having gone ahead and covered some irritations in the previous vents, let's dial the cynicism down a bit in regards to bringing up the importance that seems seldom attended in the matter of active communication versus the popular habit of vagueblogging.
Especially passive-aggressive vagueblogging. So sit your asses down.
Let's start with pointing out that if you can't be bothered to do anything about your problems here other than to vaguely post about it in passive-aggressive complaint when you actually can do something about it through actively communicating, you're going to be keeping yourself in a mire of unpleasant experiences and self-destructive antipathy.
Why do people even go about with such a nonsensical habit in the first place? It commonly seems like it's either done as an indirect plea for attention or an obscure (yet sometimes oh-so-obvious) expression of jealousy or dislike or some other negative feeling, among other various reasons perhaps more specific to the individual, whether they're conscious aware of it or not.
And yes, the need for attention especially among feelings of neglect and the need to express one's feelings is normal. Although sometimes, there's the outright lack of consideration towards precisely what kind of attention one attracts with that: is it really the kind of attention you'd want to garner? is the impression your vagueblogging might give really how you'd want to be viewed as?
People have a tendency to forget that tone doesn't carry well through the internet with impersonal print. What words you use, how you structure it, and the reader's personal experiences and interpretations of things all contribute to how your statements are voiced in their heads and what tone they imagine. Some use faceclaims with whatever expression they deem appropriate alongside formatting of text such as bolding of words to try to match text to the closest resemblance of their intended tone.
Nevertheless, vagueblogging often passes itself with a negative tone - especially when coupled with a sense of passive aggression - given its dubious context. And it is not such an uncommon cause of misunderstandings and drama and antagonism.
Communication is vital among anything that requires cooperation between people; rping is no different. If you're going to have a partner, they need to be able to understand you as much as you need to understand them, but likewise, you need to make yourself understandable in the first place, and vagueblogging about your problems does nothing in helping with that.
The rp community is well populated by people of low self-esteem and anxiety issues as well, and vagueblogging on matters so indistinct that it can be applied to them will often make your partner uncomfortable at best and affronted or utterly distressed at worst.
If you're the kind of person who often feels overlooked and the only way you've been expressing that is through deprecating posts of, "Oh, no one needs/wants me," or "They like that person better than me," along with passive-aggressive posts vaguely complaining about other people, yet you have to wonder why you're still feeling overlooked, you clearly need to give yourself a good slap to the face and take a good look at how you're behaving. Discouraging posts like that tend to make people around you downright uncomfortable if not even irritated; they solve nothing, and they can drive people away from you because you're setting yourself up as a person who can only complain about problems than try to seek constructive answers.
If you ever have a problem with something, most people even encourage that it be brought up with them so it can be discussed because how else can it be solved if the other party isn't given a chance to try to understand? Even if you would insist such negative feelings will come to pass, don't vagueblog about it in such a way that would make others feel like they've done something wrong that they didn't mean to that they can't try to help fix. If you know your partner(s), you should be able to express yourself to them and/or come up with possible solutions with them.
Nervous about little things like if your partner got your reply? Come up with little signals between each other; they can hit the like button on your reply twice as a confirmation that they drafted it or something. Ask them if they're fine with getting to know you on Skype or something. Tell them about these little rp concerns and see if you can talk out how to solve them. Understand their needs, too. Establish communication. To hell with counterproductive vagueblogging.
And if your partners can't respect that kind of communication or your needs then you can give them a good smack with a chair because the willingness to compromise and accommodate (within reason, of course) are part of the deal too.
Don't say, "Nobody bothers to respond to my opens." Try more along the lines of, "Is there any plot anyone is interested in that I can try an open for?" Don't assume, "I'm not as good of a writer as I thought I was." Try asking, "Is there any way I can improve to become a better writer?" Don't go making enemies with annoying posts of passive-aggressively disagreeing with someone. See if there was any misapprehension that may possibly be resolved.
Take the actual productive approach. Even if slowly. You'll likely take care of situations much better this way and present yourself in a better light than discomforting others with those negative posts.
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