𐔌 :M𑄝ni , Feitans luv .ᐟ 𐂯

I've heard some hateful yume blogs that are appearing with terrible scenarios and that sucks ngl and it sucks that us self shippers have these blogs that try to make us feel terrible. You guys did nothing and all of you are amazing

shoutout to disabled selfshippers!

ᯓ★ self shippers with invisible disabilities

ᯓ★ self shippers who can’t indulge with their f/o as much as they want because their health gets in the way

ᯓ★ self shippers who suffer yet can’t get help or a proper diagnosis because the healthcare system sucks

ᯓ★ self shippers who have a hard time being active in the community for various reasons (low energy/fatigue, burnout, pain flareups, etc.) despite wanting to

you are seen. you are loved. i’m glad you’re here, no matter how frequent or infrequent you pop in. thank you for being part of our community.

your f/os love you so much, and i know they’re beyond happy to support you through anything and everything.

you won’t walk this exhausting path alone. they won’t let that happen.

It also goes without saying that bioessentialism inherently can’t be trans inclusive no matter how hard you try. “All men including trans men—” probably not. “This is only a woman’s issue—” is it really? “Afabs only—” why? “All trans men are like—” what? what are they like? finish the sentence i dare you.

"As long as you don't harass or-" I know you mean well, but you aren't actually helping.

Most people do not condone or support terrible actions like harassment by default. This is not something that you need to specify. By outright stating that you are anti-harassment, it ends up making people believe one of two things: 1. You're lying, and you support harassment, or 2. You're paranoid, and it's hard to build up trust in you.

It's the same with making "nonsharers are valid" posts with a bunch of disclaimers at the end, or making posts going "hey friendly reminder not to harass people over doubles ok." It creates distrust by implying that you believe nonsharers ARE prone to harassment by default, and that we have to "prove" that we aren't "one of the bad ones".

And it ALWAYS happens after a nonsharer ends up harming people over a double. I get it; You want to remind people to be decent with each other. But again, you make it seem like it's an issue with the entirety of nonsharers when it was that one person who caused harm.

Sharing selfshippers can harass people. Selective/mirror sharing selfshippers can harass people. Nobody makes posts saying "sharing selfshippers are valid... as long as you aren't fucking evil about it and you know how to be a decent person, which I hope you are!" So let me reiterate:

Nonsharing selfshippers are valid. That is a complete statement.

Someone may have a special interest in a show, but instead of that meaning that they will talk about that show often, it may mean they watch that show extremely frequently.