Sarah's Place

kid: what are you eating from that basket?

me: triangles.

kid: can i have triangles?

me: dunno, did you brush teeth yet?

kid: no

me: mhm, and are you okay with screaming really loud?

kidd: what???

me: yeah, sometimes these make you scream really loud, are you ok with that?

kid: i am not afraid of screaming.

this is still very, very funny.

I also taught them that the F word is, uh, “flinkle”

I love him and I want him to be happy, more than anything else in the world.

He's a trans man, but his egg only cracked a few months ago and he's still full of doubts about it. He keeps worrying about whether he's "really trans" or if he's "trans enough".

I can see how much happier he is now, seeing all those moments of euphoria from the outside makes my heart leap for him. But I don't know how to help him settle his mind.

I can only share my experiences as a trans woman and they only go so far.

Today I sat him down and read some of the dysphoria bible, and we talked about how he feels when he wears a suit. It was exactly how I felt when I first started wearing dresses and when I said that, he burst into tears and we just held each other for an hour.

He's still feeling all mixed up about it but I don't know what to do.

There are a lot of people online who hate trans men. They think just because trans men identify as men, they have cismale privilege and are “transitioning into oppressors” and are responsible for everything bad in the trans community.

It is imperative that you block anyone who is saying this immediately. Do not give them any space in your life until after you are solid in your trans identity, and maybe even after that, because it is not your responsibility to placate the feelings of transphobes. You need to be who you are, because only you can do that, and it is infinitely harder if you give any stock to people calling you a gender traitor or whatever.

Second, Gender euphoria is more important than dysphoria. If you are happier as a man, it doesn’t matter if you don’t absolutely loathe being a woman. You are trans enough.

Also, Conor McGregor blew out his knee in like nine seconds last night and Drake lost a million dollars betting on him.

I love him and I want him to be happy, more than anything else in the world.

He's a trans man, but his egg only cracked a few months ago and he's still full of doubts about it. He keeps worrying about whether he's "really trans" or if he's "trans enough".

I can see how much happier he is now, seeing all those moments of euphoria from the outside makes my heart leap for him. But I don't know how to help him settle his mind.

I can only share my experiences as a trans woman and they only go so far.

Today I sat him down and read some of the dysphoria bible, and we talked about how he feels when he wears a suit. It was exactly how I felt when I first started wearing dresses and when I said that, he burst into tears and we just held each other for an hour.

He's still feeling all mixed up about it but I don't know what to do.

I love him and I want him to be happy, more than anything else in the world.

He's a trans man, but his egg only cracked a few months ago and he's still full of doubts about it. He keeps worrying about whether he's "really trans" or if he's "trans enough".

I can see how much happier he is now, seeing all those moments of euphoria from the outside makes my heart leap for him. But I don't know how to help him settle his mind.

I can only share my experiences as a trans woman and they only go so far.

Today I sat him down and read some of the dysphoria bible, and we talked about how he feels when he wears a suit. It was exactly how I felt when I first started wearing dresses and when I said that, he burst into tears and we just held each other for an hour.

He's still feeling all mixed up about it but I don't know what to do.

I love him and I want him to be happy, more than anything else in the world.

He's a trans man, but his egg only cracked a few months ago and he's still full of doubts about it. He keeps worrying about whether he's "really trans" or if he's "trans enough".

I can see how much happier he is now, seeing all those moments of euphoria from the outside makes my heart leap for him. But I don't know how to help him settle his mind.

I can only share my experiences as a trans woman and they only go so far.

Today I sat him down and read some of the dysphoria bible, and we talked about how he feels when he wears a suit. It was exactly how I felt when I first started wearing dresses and when I said that, he burst into tears and we just held each other for an hour.

He's still feeling all mixed up about it but I don't know what to do.

As if Joanne couldn't get any shittier, she misgendered and insulted a woman who called for support, all because the woman had PCOS/PMOS and "didn't sound feminine enough."

Fuck her.

But get this: It’s made from fucking TREE BARK. Can you imagine the dedication, foresight, and experimentation involved in figuring out how to harvest and spin that? On top of everything, it’s also lace weight. What the fuck, Neanderthals?

Article: https://arstechnica.com/science/2020/04/neanderthals-made-the-worlds-oldest-thread/

Also, big ole slow clap for the article writer.

like, look at it. it’s string. it’s obviously string. you don’t actually have to be a genius to look at this and think ‘ah! string time :)’

i’ve picked up shed pieces of elm bark on a golf course, stripped and combed out the fiber with just my fingernails, and started hand-twisting good strong cordage right then and there as i walked. you don’t even have to soak it first, though i think if you want finer/softer cordage it helps to soak, beat, and comb the fibers.

the people of the pacific northwest, where there’s so many cedars, developed really wonderful textiles out of cedar bark fiber, pounding and soaking and combing it a bit like linen. i’ve never gotten to touch any, though i’d really like to.

here’s a whole page on all the different stems and barks that can be used for cordage! how cool is that?

But get this: It’s made from fucking TREE BARK. Can you imagine the dedication, foresight, and experimentation involved in figuring out how to harvest and spin that? On top of everything, it’s also lace weight. What the fuck, Neanderthals?

Article: https://arstechnica.com/science/2020/04/neanderthals-made-the-worlds-oldest-thread/

Also, big ole slow clap for the article writer.

like, look at it. it’s string. it’s obviously string. you don’t actually have to be a genius to look at this and think ‘ah! string time :)’

i’ve picked up shed pieces of elm bark on a golf course, stripped and combed out the fiber with just my fingernails, and started hand-twisting good strong cordage right then and there as i walked. you don’t even have to soak it first, though i think if you want finer/softer cordage it helps to soak, beat, and comb the fibers.

the people of the pacific northwest, where there’s so many cedars, developed really wonderful textiles out of cedar bark fiber, pounding and soaking and combing it a bit like linen. i’ve never gotten to touch any, though i’d really like to.

here’s a whole page on all the different stems and barks that can be used for cordage! how cool is that?

Like, I avoid transfem spaces over this, because yall fucking hurt my community, and I don't want to share a space with people that would do that.

I don't trust people that would stab other members of our community in the back. I can't.

If any transfem transandrophobes read this, you wanna know why transfem spaces are losing members? Look in the mirror, it's because of you, because we won't share space with hate.

Yall hurt our transmasc and nonbinary siblings way more than you hurt me, cause I can go to them to find community, and they can't seem to escape you; but you don't seem to care about that, so here we are. By hurting them, you hurt us too.

It pisses me off, but it's also just fucking humiliating, it's humiliating to see the depths that people just like me fucking sink to. Worse still, I know there was a time in my life where I'd have fallen for it, and I'm so fucking glad yall didn't reach me when I was that person, because it would have genuinely ruined me.

So just think about that, the next time you feel like bashing a transmasc person for no other reason but to take out your petty malice; you're destroying your own community in the process. Hate will eventually eat you alive.