If you think about it, so much of Stefans vampire life is tied to people taking his agency away
Like, he BECOMES a vampire against both his will and his knowledge, with Katherine turning him for no reason he can actually understand at the time.
Kills father in self defence - after finding out their father killed them - and becomes a vampire
Then his impulses kick in and he turns Damon too - gaining his ire and animosity for the next century
Then his body starts fighting his morals due to the blood addiction- a substance he NEEDS to survive
After he managed to get it in check, Damon forces him to feed on human blood, triggering it again
He spends the twenties w Klaus and Rebekah - which he enjoyed, but then Klaus took away his memories of it
He asks lexi to help Damon, she almost dies because of it. And then, for the INSULT of delegating ( for his own mentalit health) , Damon kills Gail after Stefan had managed to become part of their family
Then, upon return to Mystic Falls, Damon:
Seeks to ruin his relationships, kills ppl out of spite and blames Stefan for it
Stalks Elena, tries to trigger Stefan addiction AGAIN
Stefan gets kidnapped, tortured, his addiction starts again
Klaus comes, takes his freedomx forces him to become a ripperx forcefully turns off his humanity
He gets locked up by Silas, memory erased by Tessa, trauma affecting him ( for however little time), traveller torture, Enzo killing his gf and his niece for ** checks notes** " not living up to the expectations he had beforr they even met" and like....
People complain that he's broody and not fun, but at this point WHAT CAN YOU EVEN DO?
