Sakura and Ino, their approach in relationships
kwoI am alwaysĀ bothered by the attitude of some extremist fans who just canāt support their favorite without throwing mud on another character.Ā
Letās dwell on this post
The subject was this page
āi wouldnāt stand for a husband whoās almost never at homeā
Through thisĀ phrase the user has deduced Ino would not be able to stand for an āabsent husbandā, and therefore she would probably divorce if her Sai had a long mission.
Well, no, first of all, thatās NOT what she says.Ā The translation isĀ awful
She saidĀ ć©ćććØęććć©Ā -Ā DÅkatoomoukedo
Literally it meansĀ āĀ I do not know what to think/Iām confused
The full phrase should be translatedĀ āI do not know what to think about a husband who almost never come at homeā
She expresses a doubt, not about Sakuraās love (sheĀ has only praise for her love), but about Sasukeās, because she cares about her friend andĀ she doesnāt like the eventuality that her husband neglects her.
This is perfectly consistent with anime and novels.
She constantly worries about her bestfriendās relationship
But at the same time she tries to encourage her
She invites her to a trip just to make her relive an old and precious moment of intimacy with her man.
She does the same in the chapter when she tells Sakura that is a little envious of her who still remains a āwoman in loveā ( ęććć¦å„³ - koisurute on'na ) with an almost completely absent husband.Ā
But her concerns are founded since Sasuke has been away from home for almost a decade and, above all, heĀ didnāt contactĀ Sakura and his family even once.
This is not just a ālong missionā, this is a total absence in Sakura life.Ā Sasuke never attempted to contact his wife, and daughter, in any sort of way or establish some sort of connection, even if itās just by lettersĀ - which why Sarada even questioned the relationship between her mother and father in the Gaiden.
Ā Sasuke had many way of contacting his family, in fact we know heās kept contact with Naruto for some time
And, also, he had a phone.
Anyone, with this infos, would have at least some doubts about Sasukeās feeling, Sarada herself hadĀ many doubts in the gaiden.
We readers knowĀ that Sasuke, despite being a bit introverted, cold and very pragmatic in his approaches, cares a lot about his family, but the characters donāt have our vision.
So itās normal for Ino to have some doubts about their relationship, despite her admitting that Sakura is and will always be in love with him.
In addition, Ino and Sakura have similar personalities but clearly have different needs andĀ conceptions in their love lives.
This is highlighted in the novels Sakura Hiden:
ā (Should I give him) lavender? Or a flowering dogwood?ā¦..Iām indecisive. ā Ino had said.
āLavender? Flowering dogwood?ā
Ā Yupā¦..In the language of flowers, lavender means āI will be waiting for youā. As for the flowering dogwood, it means āaccept my feelingsā in the language of flowers. When should I show Sai the atmosphere of my feelings?ā¦Am I supposed to be waiting on him? Or maybe like thisā¦. Should I do my confession with a ābashiiā(/sudden whack) ?ā¦ā¦..Itās worrisome right now (for me). ā
ā(Oh, I see what you mean)ā
Ino was indeed the daughter of a florist, since she was giving the explanations for the language of flowers.
āBut Inoā¦. I think that your image is (more like the) flowering dogwood. ā
Sakura was trying to say it. Ino then also nodded.
āIsnāt it?ā¦. Itās like my personality, right?ā¦.ā
Wellā¦.she said that she was worried. Ino had put her hand against her (her own) forehead. Somehow, it seemed a little sweet (to see her acting like this).
āAs for my situationāā¦.Sakura was suddenly thinking:
āāItās lavender, I supposeā¦Of course it isā¦..
āAccept my feelingsāā¦.No matter (how much) she tried to say it, Sasuke was away from home.
As for Sakura, she could only wait for now.
However, she was then thinking:
How long will I be waitingā¦?
Ino is the kind of woman who wants a sure answer from her man. Sakura instead is willing to wait. The same Kishimoto said she conquered Sasukeās heart withĀ perseverance.
None of these two approaches is objectively better than the other.
Ino also judges the relationship from her point of view: she is used to very high starndards thanks to Sai who is a very affectionate husband,Ā who, when heās not at work, helps his wife and trains their son.
Also the only one who has never forgotten their anniversary
āNo, when heās busy, during birthdays or Christmas or even wedding anniversaries, heāll prepare a gift in advance and get a coworker to give it to me,ā
Thatās why she says she wouldnāt be able to stand loneliness or any lack of affection (even in ep140 -she was angry with him for neglecting his family ), she has the perfect one for her, like Sasuke, after all, has the perfect wife for him, the only one capable of waiting for him and loving him despite his shortcomings as husband. Sasuke knows this and is eternally grateful to her
So, people should stop inquiring on Twitter, should stop making senseless comparisons, should stop fighting over their favoritesĀ and learn to analyze the characters and the context.
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