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How they can be all giggly and cute to you while you guys are eating cotton candy at the amusement park but then they can fuck you mercilessly in the night at going rounds and make you cry because of pleasure?

sex is about build up. teasing, conversation, eye contact, body language, kissing, lingering touches. fingers grabbing into soft flesh, nails digging into skin, biting, hearing someone’s breathing change, feeling their heartbeat, sweat, need, desire, desperation, laughter, closeness, pressing against each other, soft lips, being surrounded and entangled in them, falling in sync, listening to each others bodies, losing myself in a person that’s lost in me.

I was wondering what specific questions i should ask regarding his boundaries (we’ve talked about mine before but not his) and I’m wondering what other questions I should ask him beforehand and how I should prepare.

We have a very open line of communication but I’m wondering if I’m missing anything that he hasn’t guided me on since he is my first daddy.

(I understand if you’re not taking questions right now or if you do not have time/energy to respond. I appreciate your blog a ton and hope all is well)

I think there are plenty of questions you can ask. Here are some examples:

1) What are your hard and soft limits?

2) What happens if I use my safeword?

3) Is it ok if I don’t want to get physical when we meet?

4) How many subs have you had? Tell me about your last sub.

5) What experience do you have with similar dynamics?

6) What type of dynamic do you want/Do you want a relationship?

7) What are you looking for?

8) Have you ever had a sub safeword? What did you do?

9) Do you believe in monogamy?

10) What do you want to do for our first experience together?

11) What do you consider sensual domination?

12) Do you believe in aftercare?

13) I’m really nervous and want to take it slowly. Is that ok?

Now, these are just examples. You may have some other questions. You say you have very open communication. I think these or similar questions are necessary for you to feel comfortable. Especially given this is your first time. Make sure you get everything answered.

There’s no need to have a sensual domination session or do anything you’re not ready to do. You go at your pace. Not his. You control that. Always. Take your time and make the best decision for you. If he’s a real Dom, he’s going to want to take it real slow and make sure you’re comfortable. Your comfort and trust in him are #1. If you are not comfortable or don’t trust him, wait till you are and you do. Don’t do anything until you’re ready.