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Ask your feedee what makes them uncomfortable!

Ask your feedee what is too far for them!

Ask your feedee what you can and cannot do with them!

Ask your feedee how much they are comfortable eating or stop when they give you your safe word!

Ask your feedee if they’re okay with teasing!

Ask your feedee what their limits are!

Tell your feedee how beautiful they are!

Do not make your feedee feel forced to send you photos or so sexual things for you!

Do not make your feedee uncomfortable by continuing to tell them things they’ve made clear isn’t okay!

Do not make your feedee continue eating when they’ve said the safeword!

Do not insult your feedee unless they ask to be or are clearly okay with it!

Do not guilt your feedee into gaining more than they’re okay with!

Do not hold your feedee against their word if they set a goal weight and decide they don’t want to complete it! That’s fucking shitty and it isn’t your fucking body!

-People who sexualize body positivity blogs and push their feederism fantasies onto non-feederism people.

-People who fatten up an unwilling partner . If they don’t like being fatter , don’t fucking do it .

-People who obnoxiously harass others for their kik or skype and insult them when they deny their request

-People who tell others with body issues that don’t feel comfortable being skinny that they don’t look like they’ve gained any weight , trying to invalidate their efforts .

-People who add horrifying captions to people’s pictures , telling them they’re going to die but thinking it’s okay because it’s a sexual quirk for them to say such things.

-Fatphobic assholes that will sexualize fat bodies one moment and make fun of the next

If you fall under any of these categories , please eat a brick of rotten dog crap and reconsider your entire sad life .

- people who assume you’re single because you’re fat

- people who, Because you’re their fetish they expect you to break up with your partner to be with them for no reason at all

ya’ll really need to do better and learn the meaning of consent. literally no one wants to be harassed or sexualized for their bodies. i dont like it outside of the chosen context of my blog, because here i’m able to both embrace my fat body and my own personal fetish that goes with that- that doesnt mean every fat person feels the same way, most dont. and honestly EVEN if they did, it takes awhile for someone to be comfortable enough within this fetish and their own journey of self love to really embrace that, so projecting that onto someone is so shitty.

I do not know whether it's a gendered thing, whether it's owing to growing up with genuinely years of sexual experience being psychologically centred on pleasing instead of taking pleasure (and don't read me wrong, I still derived pleasure from that but I was more concerned by perceptions of myself as a sexual being than I was about finding out what I liked), but I find the sense of entitlement that comes with projecting your fantasies onto a stranger absolutely astounding.

I really struggled to express my adoration of soft bodies to my partner, and it has taken genuinely the best part of 4 years for me to feel secure in the knowledge that the way I speak to them or touch them is not upsetting them and that they actually like gentle teasing, that it's okay to speak about how something doesn't fit, or that I like seeing them eat.

Loads of us struggle with wanting to make fat people feel beautiful, in general, because we know that society is doing a poor job of building up their confidence. We want to say, you look great and the things people tell you are wrong with you actually have their own virtues, and it's okay to like or even love yourself; we worry that the 'F' word of our community will invalidate everything about that statement that is true.

I just don't get it, how some of us can get so mindlessly thirsty that they just selfishly make something about their fantasies, no holds barred, hurting people who they must know have had to work hard to feel self love, with complete disregard for their feelings. I hate the stigma this has brought us, how we're the enemy of body positivity in a lot of people's view.

Work on yourself, please. Self awareness, respect for others, understand your privilege, and please try really hard to put yourself in other people's shoes. Understand that borderline violent admiration for a person does not feel good when it's non consenting; that taking ownership of your body and showing it is not always sexual, and not always for you.

People don't exist purely to satisfy your fantasies - that is the fact that needs to coexist with this fetish for it to become much less toxic.

there are plenty of people producing content for this kink of their own free will, please support them (and I do mean support them! if you gotta drop a few dollars on a premium photopack or w/e to get your fantasy material, then that's a few dollars well-spent!) instead of getting off on stolen images of a complete stranger who didn't consent and doesn't know. that's not ok.

Feeder Q&A: comment which numbers you want the answers to:

1: when did you realize you liked overweight people

2: when did you become a feeder

3: have you ever had an IRL feeder/feedee relationship

4: what’s the most weight you’ve put on someone

5: what is your minimum desired weight of a feedee

6: what is your maximum desired weight of a feedee

7: would you ever be a gainer yourself

8: have others noticed you’re inFATuation with bigger people

9: what’s your fat fantasy

10: what’s the hottest thing you find about feedees

11: what’s the biggest turn off of being a feeder

12: have people ever judged you about being a feeder

13: do you want your feedee to become immobile?

14: do you have any other fetishes/sexual desires

15: would you have a feedee/feeder relationship (introductions to family, friends, coworkers, etc)

16: would you ever film feeder/feedee videos

17: would you ever film feeder/feedee porn

18: who is your favorite tumblr feedee

19: who is your favorite tumblr feeder

20: would you ever post on social media about your preferences

21: how many people IRL know about your feeding desires

22: Do you like thin people as well or only chubs

23: would you ever post a picture of your face on your feederism tumblr

24: would your family accept you for your feeding desires?

25: on a scale of 1-10 how much do you love fatties!

Repost to answer if you dare 👻 😫