A Day in the Life of.......

TIL (click to go to the thread, which probably has more interesting tidbits I missed).

Bonus:

The subject of "Veto Power" came up in one of the polyam groups that I'm in. For those of you that don't know what a "veto" is in polyamory, it's when you give your partner (usually a spouse/nested partner/"primary" partner) the right to "veto" your other relationships or tell you to end things with someone that you are seeing/in a relationship with.

We don't have veto power in our marriage and never have. I also wouldn't knowingly sign up for a relationship where I could potentially be subject to one. I have mixed feelings about vetoes, personally. I understand why people feel the need to have them but to me, they are superfluous. I just don't get the method that states that I am going to deal with an issue I am having with my partner and their choices by getting rid of the other partner.

Like say your partner has a partner that is abusing them. Your issue isn't your meta; it's your partner. Why do you have a partner that is signing up to be abused? Have a meta that's a crackhead thief and steals your shit? Why is your partner with a crackhead? Have a meta that your partner goes out with to gamble away your mortgage money? Why is your partner ok with gambling away your mortgage money? The issue always circles back to your partner.

And most of the time, the vetoes aren't enacted for extreme circumstances such as these which is what people will SAY they have them for but what they actually USE them for is to keep themselves from feeling too threatened by a partner's partner. They will cite all these arbitrary reasons for enacting the veto that really just boil down to "I'm worried that this person/relationship is eclipsing me/my relationship with my partner."

Also, do ALL of your partners get veto power or is it just the one that you live with/are married to/is primary? Because that is blatantly unfair. And I learned from PERSONAL experience that wonky shit happens when you try to keep two people apart that have a connection to each other. Like yeah, your partner may agree and break up with the person but I can guarantee you they will resent the fuck outta your ass and will take some time to get past that if they ever do.

You also have to keep in mind that it ain't no fun when the rabbit got the gun. So just remember your staunch support of the veto when they are shooting down your folks, too.

I did get an unsolicited pussy pic. Once. But it was floofy, so it doesn't count.

I mean, obvs I have taken every available precaution against such things - I'm not a complete idiot - but seriously, in all my years I've never known precautionary measures to be quite so effective.

Because they're not. I mean, even if you stop a clock it's still going to tell the correct time at least once a day. Twice, if it's analogue. Duh.

So I can only conclude that, either there just hasn't been a snausage brave enough - which I find almost impossible to believe - or, I'm just that boring. Which is probs true TBH.

Or maybe this not sending ducks to dragons nonsense is just discrimination. Which would be sad. Dragons are people too, you know...

*sad dragon face, trembly lip and everything*

I dunno, I'm probably just making A Big Fuss About Nuffin'. But it seems weird, ya know? Because everyone assured me that I would get at least a few random ducks showing up every week and so far - 0 ducks. Zero. Zilch. Nada. Nil.

Not even a saggy-assed pengwing. Nothing.

It's disheartening.

Duck day.......interesting........I could get into that.......

Of course, it seems more of a "would" duck - as in it would duck if it saw an interesting smackeral in the waters...

Vampy Nighttime Look 🦇

more doodles of owls my mc, who i headcanon to be an owl animagus, and his pet

they’re both eastern screech owls: