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“You don’t need to cum sweetie.

You just want to.

You’ll soon learn the difference.”

Over the last couple of years that I've been on Tumblr, I have had a lot of "how do I get my wife to" messages. I think too many men expect their wives will see how much some kink turns them on and will jump right into it. So they do something stupid like buying a cage and then surprising their wives with the key.

My husband has reminded me that a lot of men have fantasies for years, and have had all sorts of time to build things up in their heads. Your wife on the other hand has had no inkling of this and dropping some huge dominatrix fantasy on her will only leave her wondering where all this came from. No wonder most of the messages I get have been "I tried to get her interested, but she flat out said no."

Here is the problem. You're thinking of it as "how do I get her to" instead of "how can we both learn to enjoy this." If you're not already in the habit of having honest and heartfelt conversations, asking her to try some freaky sex thing (because in her mind that's what it looks like) will totally fall flat.

@that-tom-allen had an answer to a question like this recently. I can't find it, but it was something like "Honey, I ran across something that sounds like it would be some hot sexy fun for us to try. I'd really love it if we could try it. Here's a glass of wine, can I tell you about it, and why I like the idea?" Men, if you can't even imagine yourself saying this to your wife or partner, then you have no business dumping some crazy dominatrix fantasy onto her. You need to get to where you both can talk about your sexual feelings first. That's where it all starts. And ironically, that's a huge part of what makes a good relationship in the first place. 😉

Now that I've written all that, even if you manage to work yourself up to having those kinds of conversations, there's still no guarantee that your wife will go for it. She will have her own likes and dislikes and may not ever be interested in having you wear a cage. The best that you can hope for might be that she will compromise and lock you for certain times. Or that she may enjoy denying you but won't want to deal with the cage. You will have to learn to negotiate with her. And that will be a lot easier to do if she trusts you and you've been honest with your feelings.

Please notice that I'm only answering the part of the question about getting her to lock you up. I have absolutely no interest in the cuck part, and I do not discuss that, except to say that it is a completely separate thing from being locked up. Your wife is not a kink dispenser, so don't dump too many things onto her at once.