reverie lady

I think... It's just, we meet someone that match our energy at that time, and as the time goes by, if we ever decide to be together with that person, each of us will have to mold ourselves continuously to mirror the changes made by the other.

People change all the time, and so do we. Without continuing the molding process, one would quickly be in a different shape than the other, and soon it won't fit each other anymore.

Then, do we create that "right person"? Of course no. What are we, God? We don't have power to create others, to mold others into what we want, what we are. We can only guide them, show them that this is us, this is the way they would fit into us, and the other person should also tell us in what way we would fit into their life.

I like the word of "match-making", because in essence, whether someone is courting someone else with or without the help of the third person, the concept of getting together with the other human being is just matching our particular shape with their particular shape, making it a complete and whole object: round, rectangle, triangle.

We are complete on our own, but our shape is not clearly defined and same with others. Only when we find someone that match our shape in that time, can we turn into a whole full shape. And once we decide to be a one whole shape, both need to continuously work to make sure the changes happening within each of them is still fitting the shape of the significant other, and maintain the whole full shape. Else, it won't work.

Suddenly, somehow... I see relationship from a different light. That being in a committed relationship is not as scary as I think it would be.

It shows me that the right people, people from the same planet, will eventually finds us, and it will make our life better as we have a similarity. And the food eaten with our people will taste better compared to food eaten with people we don't like.

And of course, food we eat alone might taste even greater than food we eat with people not in tune with us.

This movie taught me to embrace ourselves the way it is no matter what is our past. We make peace with it, and we move on. And our past doesn't define us as a human, whether we are a good person or not.

It also reminds me how family is often the one who caused the feeling of loneliness, and in fact we can find our own family outside of what we were born with. It really touched me when Okaji cries in a dinner table with Makoto and his mom. She might feel the warmth of a family even in a very simple life and imperfect situation.

One quote that really sticks with me is "we all come from different planets, so it makes sense that we can't understand each other" 🥹 I really feel understood and seen during this conversation. As if it is saying to me, "it's okay if you feel lonely and different, everyone is different anyway."

Plus another one is when Betchin says to Okaji, "i find that life is easier when i put less expectations on myself and other people." That line struck me hard. I don't usually expect much from others but I expect a lot from myself and yes, it complicates my life a lot more than it should.