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The fact that you feel upset about me speaking on something that affects black women makes me feel like you have some big balls. You’re in videos with black men, and you’re bringing out black women on your stages, but you don’t want to know how black women feel about something that’s so important? Come on, you can’t want the good without the bad. If you want to enjoy our culture and our lifestyle, bond with us, dance with us, have fun with us, twerk with us, rap with us, then you should also want to know what affects us, what is bothering us, what we feel is unfair to us. You shouldn’t not want to know that

You must resist the common urge toward the comforting narrative of divine law, toward fairy tales that imply some irrepressible justice. The enslaved were not bricks in your road and their lives were not chapters in your redemptive history.

A Rough Guide to Surviving The Unsurvivable 1) If you live with monsters, you’ll become monstrous. This can be good and it can be bad. You need to keep your perspective and know when it’s time to quit a bad scene. 2) Learn the difference between honesty and being a dick. 3) Once you stop looking for identity, you start to die. 4) Don’t sabotage yourself. There are enough people out there who’ll do it for you. Don’t let the assholes win. 5) Read more than you drink. 6) When you feel the Big Motherfuckin’ Sad coming on, scream as loudly as you possibly can. It’s good medicine. 7) Remember: If someone is talking shit about someone else to you, they probably talk shit about you too. If they’re doing it on the Internet, they’re probably someone you don’t want to be friends with. Know a vendetta when you see one. Shit-talkers are like black mold: They’ll infect you and you might not even know it. you don’t need that darkness in your life. Bitterness will jump from you to them.