OKAY back to the queue grind -mod t
you can always vent here (and/or ask us not to post it), or ask us not to post an ask if you accidentally left it off anon! it is NOT a hassle and we voluntarily do this to help you
stop triggering people's moral ocd and guilt tripping people who don't farm notes for you
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not your white guilt assauger. please don't vent about how being born white makes you feel guilty in my inbox. more in FQA. tag to filter it out is #race related asks
not an internet discourse blog. don't debate in my inbox. however if you're radqueer, transrace, or don't believe in transandrophobia, you're not welcome here.
obviously no ableism. this includes people with cluster b disorders, schizophrenic disorders, and intellectual disabilities.
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check out links if you want more comprehensive answers/resources related to the question. written by mod teto so all the 'i' refers to mod teto
Q: why aren't we allowed to send white guilt vent asks
A: because i'm a person of color and im tired of reading them. i made this blog to spread awareness about harmful guilt tripping over internet clicks, not to console white people who feel guilty because they're white or because posts about racism make them feel uncomfortable. (i promise there are resources/communities out there if you do genuinely struggle with guilt or want to learn how to support people of color better.)
Q: mod are you pro-genocide
A: no.
Q: i didn't mean to trigger people's moral OCD
A: tag it #tw reblog bait or add a disclaimer that it is not mandatory to reblog or interact with it.
Q: okay but i didn't say they would go to hell if they didn't reblog
A: the existence of "reblog if you support poc" implies a "don't reblog if you don't"
Q: are note games/"tag a moot"/"reblog if you're"/this other thing okay?
A: does your post make people feel morally worse or evil if they don't reblog it
Q: what about "send this to xyz other people if you break the chain you (xyz bad punishment)"?
A: go directly to jail. lose your net worth. do not pass go
Q: but we're raising awareness for xyz group
A: don't care. nobody is a bad person for not reblogging your post.
Q: do you even support xyz group?
A: i'm not homophobic, i'm not transphobic, i'm not racist, i'm not bigoted, i just don't care about your performative guilt tripping and shaming techniques.
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Trying to be any kind of activist with moral ocd is hard. Trying to be the best person I can with my limitations is either ‘not enough’ or ‘excuses’ for people who I share values with or ‘too much’, ‘driving myself mad’ or ‘too judgy’ for people that don’t share my values/or at least not to the same degree. And both drive my ocd to be worse because I want to be the best person I can without making the people around me or myself miserable! No wonder I’m constantly stressed and irritable
(This is aggressive, I just need to let it out)
"REBLOG THIS NO MATTER WHAT!!1!1!!!" "REBLOG IF YOU AGREE!!!!!!!!!!11!!!!"
FUCK YOU IT'S MY BLOG AND I'M NOT GONNA REBLOG JUST BECAUSE YOU TELL ME TO REBLOG YOU SELF-RIGHTEOUS SHITSTAINS. GET OFF YOUR HIGH FUCKING HORSES. YOU THINK YOU'RE BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE JUST BECAUSE YOU TELL PEOPLE TO REBLOG/RETWEET/WHAT-THE-FUCK-EVER IF THEY DISAGREE WITH RUNNING OVER BABIES AND KICKING ENDANGERED ANIMALS. I DON'T NEED TO REBLOG YOUR STUPID POST TO PROVE I'M A DECENT INDIVIDUAL.
ACCUSING ME AND MANY OTHERS OF BEING EVIL BIGOTED MONSTERS FOR SCROLLING PAST YOUR OBVIOUS ENGAGEMENT BAIT GETS YOU BLOCKED.
AND YOU CAUSE PEOPLE TO SPIRAL BECAUSE THEY FEEL LIKE MORAL FAILURES. ALL BECAUSE YOU CAN'T STOP SNIFFING YOUR OWN FARTS ACTING ALL HIGH AND MIGHTY FOR SOME STUPID INTERNET POINTS
… having moral ocd, at least in my case, often makes it harder to be moral and do the right thing and whatnot… because it involves spiralling through the obsessive thought of every possible way you are being immoral or a hypocrite in every scenario you can imagine, which often makes it more difficult to just focus on the situation at hand and make a judgement call on a case-by-case basis…
and if you spiral like that, you will either exhaust yourself into apathy, or you will back yourself into a corner where you can’t function on a daily basis. either way, you are hurting yourself and generally helping no one.
this is my reminder to myself to just deal with one situation at a time, instead of overloading myself into not dealing with anything at all.
OCD should really be less known as the ‘clean and tidyness’ disorder and much more known as the ‘every decision you ever make feels like you’re being held at gunpoint’ disorder
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As someone diagnosed with OCD who didn’t receive any actual information about it, this blog single-handedly helped me discover my moral scrupulosity and superstitions. I just wanted to express how grateful I am, since now that I know *what* I face, it’s easier to self-regulate and avoid content that hurts me.
— @indigo-ramblings
thank you for sending the ask! i'm always so happy when people tell me how much this blog has helped
moral ocd culture is "what if i dont actually have moral ocd and am using it as an excuse to be a horrible person and manipulate people into thinking i mean no harm when i actually might what if i do mean harm i dont always care so i cant actually have it- wait a second-"
I feel like I can't not reblog the reblog bait because that would make me a bad person like the reblog bait implies but also I feel like a terrible person for reblogging it because it triggers OCD, is tagging it reblog bait enough to 'fix' that/make me not a bad person for it? I'm strongly suspecting moral OCD for context not that disability is an excuse not to invalidate people with actual OCD though sorry
i'm sorry you feel this way anon, but a lot of people have actually confided similar fears & this is very common if it makes you feel better. tagging #tw reblog bait & other things helps a lot to people who filter the tag, and you're not a bad person for having compulsive thoughts like we all do
social media can absolutely be a good way to express awareness on a topic, but i feel like a LOT of people use it as their one and only form of activism, so for them it must be used in an exclusively pure and morally correct way because well, if they don't, that must mean they're bad activists!
hence treating not reblogging a post like the most heartless thing anyone can ever do.
exactly- real activism means doing things in real life or at least contacting your local elected officials, whatever you reblog or not doesn't really make you an activist!!!
I remember the era when people shared these things on messenger and it was "if you don't share it to x people your mother/your father/another close person/you will die" it got me so scared as a kid, who even thought it was a good idea? You didn't even have to think about people with ocd at least thinking about the children you may scare to death would've been enough but no
I couldn't sleep at night for a week when I saw these for the first time.
Apparently people still do these things I just stopped being the target audience since I don't believe this now as much and it really angers me
i really hate those and still do; especially cause it feeds on the fear of unknowing kids in particular
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as someone who's 99% sure they have moral OCD, posts that go "like/reblog if you support xyz" without any threat or further guilt tripping don't personally trigger me, but thanks to this blog i've learnt that those kinds of posts can still be upsetting to others who also have moral OCD, so thank you for helping me learn more about reblog bait and its impact! :)
you're welcome! i'm glad this blog could help you out
You are NEVER obligated to reblog something. If you see a post that says you are a bad person if you don’t reblog it ignore it! Whether or not you reblog something is YOUR choice and it should never be forced upon you.
i reallyreallyreally dont like reblog bait shit. and like "reblog this post if you support the gays!!" is like the same to me as "reblog this to find $100 dollars on the ground tomorrow!!". youre trying to get notes for no reason. IF I SUPPORT GAY PEOPLE IM GONNA PUT IT IN MY BIO??? ugh its just so annoying like i get that most of the time its not made with ill intentions but like idk get off my dash and making me worried that everyones gonna think im a bigot because i dont want to reblog the "i support the gays" post because if i do that im gonna be getting "reblog to get money" stuff all over my dash and i really dont want that. idk it pisses me off a little bit
All of the post content filters I currently have set to avoid reblog bait (and picker wheel posts):
please reblog
can and should reblog
don't scroll
dont scroll
do not scroll
should reblog
repost this
reblog if
reblog with
reblog this
reblog to
reblog post
reblog and put
reblog and write
reblog and tag
rb if
rb with
rb this
rb to
rb post
rb and put
rb and write
rb and tag
reblogging because
reblogging for
rebloggin' for
rebloggin for
rebloggin' because
rebloggin because
rebloging this
reblogin this
reblogin' this
reblogging this
reblogging from
rbing this
rbing from
reblogged this
reblogged from
rbed this
rbed from
spin the wheel
spin this wheel
spin wheel
random wheel
random picker
pickerwheel.com
picker wheel
always reblog
signal boost
reblog forever
reblogging again
reblog game
if you see this
just reblog this
just reblog.
just reblog bc
just reblog because
interact with this
share it
share this
spread it
spread this
a reblog could
reblogging could
put in tags
put in the tags
put it in the tags
write in tags
write in the tags
write it in the tags
mention in tags
i'll start
ill start
this post
tell me
what is your
who is your
legally required
I know some of these are redundant or contain each other but i don't feel like fixing it
Also that last one might filter out some news articles and related content but I had to put it in because people were genuinely saying "if you see this you are legally required to tell me [...]"
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