arsalan.

this problem isn’t that men “misread” signals (and even verbal statements), it’s that men are unwilling to accept what’s being communicated, because it’d mean they won’t get what they want–and they value getting what they want more than they value their partner’s comfort, safety, and desires. this is a matter of will and values masquerading as a matter of knowledge and communication. men’s “confusion” is their justification for continuing with what they want to do (and society will accept it too!), so there’s always a motivation to be “confused.” that’s the problem.

RC told me he was reading an article on exposure and I got excited and asked him to send it to me. I thought it would be on receipt-collecting and tea-spilling but it was about photography…

If this ain’t the truth

#team checks themselves out in every reflective surface they walk by

@seulmates