Reverend randomblink

This is an update from Brian O’keefe! I’m still alive and struggling. I’m putting sentences together and working with a speech therapist and I’m about to begin to start working with a physical therapist!

Apparently, the Social Security Office has denied my first attempt at getting disability. So I’m still asking for assistance. We are near recent end times for rent and could use anything that could get us out up this.

I’m asking for anything. Thank you for anything you’ve all given and thank you for you what you’ve done. We are grateful.

I do boudoir and adult photoshoots. And I love doing them. I’ve done more than I can remember with more models and clients than I can count. I say adult photoshoots because I’ve done couple shoots where the couple wanted their intimate time together photographed for their personal enjoyment. It’s fun, it’s sexy and it’s never the same experience twice. I photograph my friends, my partners,…

How NOT to communicate

…and how not to. Have you ever watched a dumpster fire unravel in front of you, and since the communicators were not involving you, there wasn’t really a place for your voice to interject sanity? I was a part of that one Saturday. At the club there are multiple groups that mingle, you have poly and swingers and players and more that come to enjoy the space. Sometimes, not usually, but…

So over the last two years I’ve come to discover something about myself. A fatal flaw, if you will. I don’t process financial instability at all. I mean at all. It didn’t help that my unemployment was chaotic and non-standard. My payments turned off thanks to a glitch in their system, and on 3 separate occasions I had to make phone calls to get my unemployment turned back on and get back pay for…

When is a son, not a son

I’ve shared this story so few times, but each time is indelibly inked in my psyche because the story is raw… each… time… I tell it… She was my first wife. I met her at Fort Sill, which… had my recruiter or ANY of my fellow Marine’s done their job I would have been scared off of locals enough to never have thought to fall in love with her. But I did. A Marine stationed on an Army base made me…

Hunters of the Unicorn

If you’ve been in any poly group online you’ve seen the post. A couple looking for a third. And no, not an extra player for spades. Also, not “generally” a dude. So a couple, a man and a woman, look for a woman to join them for fun in bed. And this is a controversial topic in MANY circles. And I mean it’s so controversial that even the muggles know about this stuff. The Sun notes that the…

The Way of the Pips

TW: suicide . . . . . I wish I was dead. Like for real. I would be dead if I hadn’t come up with the ‘Way of the Pips.’ The Way of the Pips I realized a long time ago that each day has the potential to be the best day I have had yet.. My daughter could be born, I could fall in love, get hired for my dream job, or more. Granted, it could also be the darkest day yet. My grandfather dying,…

Sexiquette : Part 2 – The Dungeon

Welcome to Part 2 of Sexiquette. Where the irreverent Reverend Blink attempts to give you some Sexiquette on the how to’s of visiting a sex club, in this particular instance, a Dungeon! Make sure to read up on my Sexiquette series: Part 1! Where I discuss sexiquette that should covers ALL clubs Part 2! Where I discuss the Sexiquette for Dungeons.Part 3! Where I discuss the Sexiquette for…

We all exist. So far. For now. But is that a good thing? Not everyone thinks so. This card is for those of you that do not. Let Mom and Dad know what you think this year when the anniversary of your Entrance To Existence is marked on the calendar. Let them know. Then go back to bed. Sleep. Good night.

The End was here already and we were pulled from it into the Beginning and we’re supposed to be greatful?! Cheerful even? Here’s a card for those of us that really understand how it feels.

The Alpha Male Isn’t

In 1947 Rudolf Schenkel wrote about wolves and created a freaking phenomenon that would alter the course of history, for toxic masculinity. David Mech, the world’s most profiled wolf researcher, realized this was a mistake and has been trying to change this. He still is, to this day. Rudolf wrote about these wolves who created this violent hierarchical social structure.The Alpha male kept…

Being the Blink means a lot of things to me. Growing up as the oldest of 4 I was a caregiver from 6yrs old on. Watching over my siblings kind of crafted my identity from that point forward. I grew up always working with kids, watching them, working with them, guiding them. It was fun. That unending optimism infected my psyche, that endless creativity definitely permeated who I am. So to this day…

I am a Husband and a Father. My wife and daughter are my world. I hustle daily to make sure they are taken care of. Eventually I hope that my efforts create an engine that generates income regularly enough that I can stop running so hard, but for now I am moving constantly. For them, tho, it is worth it. I am the oldest sibling of 4. I was the babysitter, the guide, the fuck up, and more.…

Sexiquette : Part 1 – All Clubs

Make sure to read up on my Sexiquette series: Part 1! Where I discuss sexiquette that should covers ALL clubs Part 2! Where I discuss the Sexiquette for Dungeons.Part 3! Where I discuss the Sexiquette for Swinger Clubs. You’ve finally decided it’s time. You’ve been contemplating visiting that sex club you’ve learned about. You have had friends talk about it, your partner has discussed it, maybe…

The Thin Green Line

The alarms are screaming and I almost can’t block out the noises, people are moving around at an excited pace. Cubicles exploding with stuttered exclamations of shock and fear. “What the fuck! Server 2 is infected now!” “Has someone pulled the cable yet? Would that even help?!” “I’ll piss on a node if it’ll help! Can someone lock down the supply network? It’s showing signs of infection…

We’ve all seen it. That friend, family member, or just someone we know who is in a relationship and they do for their SO (Significant other) but that SO doesn’t ‘do’ for them? Maybe they care for them, take care of them, clean, cook, work, etc. Maybe it’s an emotional give, maybe it’s sexual, maybe it’s something else. But it’s always one-sided. I know that for a decade of my life I was in…