Final thoughts on Yumi's Cells S2 from 2022
Putting my YumBab thoughts here after- part of my closure.
The earthquake was really bad and heartbreaking and infuriating. I understand how Yumi feels, esp since it's one of her non-negotiables. I'm not a Babi apologist, but for some reason, I can't seem to totally crucify drama Babi. He tried to be nice and perfect, but he's human. Things like that happen, even to the best people. It was wrong and he realized it was wrong. And he took steps to correct it- selling his house, moving, then that somewhat rude goodbye to the girl. And he decided to remain committed to Yumi. To me that counts for something. But for Yumi, it was too late. Her trust was already broken. But more than being swayed or having a crush, the deal breaker for me was keeping everything from Yumi. Babi tried to "fix" everything by himself, yet whether he liked it or not, Yumi was involved. But that's me. Of course, it's different for Yumi. Admittedly, their LDR made their situation more difficult. Imagine if Babi had told Yumi about it over one of their Zoom dinners. Yikes! But it has to be done. Or he could have gone to Seoul. If it was serious enough for him to decide to sell his house, then it's serious enough for him to fly to Seoul to tell Yumi. Tell her you had a crush but didn't act on it. Apologize. Tell her you are committed to your relationship. Tell her your plans and maybe ask her if she thinks you're doing the right thing. Easier said than done, I know. Pero kasalanan mo. Pinabayaan mong lumaki yung daeun bulletin board mo eh. Now you gotta face the consequences. I don't know how Yumi would react, but it was best to be honest with her. Ang problem ng YumBab IMO, wala talagang open communication. Even after a year, nahihiya pa rin si Yumi ipakita na kaya nyang magmura.They don't share their real-est and deepest feelings. They don't show their "dark" sides. I read a tweet that said they always try to avoid confrontation. Agree with that. They both wanted to be the perfect bf/gf. Why are they both so scared of a little fight when that's part of a healthy relationship? Laging dinadaan sa kisses and hugs. Doubt was growing in Yumi after that first meeting with daeun. But instead of processing that feeling, she downplayed it. She allowed herself to be pacified by Babi's sweetness. When Yumi left Jeju, Babi said he wished that Yumi trusted him the way he trusted her. Gusto kong sigawan, eh itinago mo kasi eh! At least Yumi was willing to tell him about Woong on their first Christmas together. Babi should have come clean with Yumi. I don't know if that would have changed things, but being honest and upfront would have been better for both of them. Nadala nga ng emotions si Yumi nung nag reconcile sila. Pero yun pa rin ang tanong, pinag-usapan ba nila yung nangyari? Did they try to thresh out their issues? I was all for giving Babi another chance, pero naman, talk about what happened first. Deal with your issues, because they won't solve themselves. Parang they just got back together but didn't really try to work out those uncomfortable matters. They were just second guessing each other. Take the ring, for example. Puro assumptions sila. Tapos magpapakasal sila??!! Hawaii small wedding. Yan na naman si Babi thinking that a passionate kiss and a proposal would make everything alright. The reconciliation was good in the sense that it helped them realize that it wasn't meant to be. No more what ifs. I'm glad they still tried. Pero itong si Babi mukhang forever Yumi pa rin. TOTGA talaga. But this is all very ideal, of course. That doesn't and can't always happen irl. Many times we let emotions get the better of us. And that's not always a bad thing. I think YC showed that. But we continue to find our happiness and strive to live a good life.
I asked a really good guy friend who's not really into k-drama to watch YC2. Anyway, I mention him because we discussed YumBab's 1st breakup bec I wanted a male perspective. We agreed that Babi was wrong, but that they should have discussed the matter first. But he thinks Yumi's decision was too abrupt. When I said it was because of those little things about Babi that she initially dismissed, but eventually could no longer ignore, sabi nya she could have processed her growing anger instead of rationalizing. Yumi could still have given Babi another chance. To let that situation be a learning experience for both of them. When I told him that she was cheated on by an ex ex bf kaya ang taas na ng standards nya, he said we really should hold ourselves to high standards. But Yumi's was unrealistic na. He said ang ganda ng relationship nila and Babi has been a good bf. Yumi fought for herself, but she didn't even try to fight for their love. And their love is bigger and more precious than their mistakes. That was after the first breakup.
When he saw Ep12, he was surprised that Babi lied about the accident. My friend kept saying that what Babi did was wrong.
But all in all, I'm proud of Yumi for not giving up on herself and her dream despite everything she went through. It's so heartwarming to see her grow and mature into a strong woman who still has a healthy amount of self-doubt.
