I watched the new Jessicur video on the rqc, and itâs so gross to me.
(not direct quotes, please watch the video yourself and gain your own opinion.)
added before Im less frantic emotionally:
this video portrays the rqc as this hive mind or like we're all form the same cookie-cutter. yes, their are stereotypes, every community has them (examples: 'UwU t4t gay trans men' , '2000+ xeno weirdo did faker' , etc. I don't support stereotypes but those are common ones I've seen.). the video has a multitude of misinformation. it boils down the community to seem bad, when you can do that to every community, just like how every community has it's rotten eggs or bad apples.
the video also treats all radqueers like their little kids (I also mention this in my other section on my opinion, this one is more based around the whole video & less of my opinion). it severally infantilizes half the community then demonizes the other half, with little to no in-between.
it also acts like all transids (which in fact, does include transgender), are all harmful or harm based identities. when that is simply a subsection to the transit umbrella.
for antis or other none radqueers who want to have a RESPECTFULL and CIVIL conversation, please continue to read thks whole post in case your question or thoughts might be answered. if they are not, their is a list of rules, read those as their at the bottom of this post, once read and understood feel free to ask questions or for clarification.
âWhy would you like, want to be abused?â (speaking on conabuse & transharmful) - thatâs not your place to criticize. if someone wants a conabuse relationship, then thatâs their choice. If two bodily adults consent then why do YOU care, itâs not your responsibility to play the savior for someone else. this also goes for CNC, or other transharmful identities.
let me not forget to add, transNazis are usually N.I.Ns, or none ideological nazis. plus most transnazis Iâve seen were Jewish (aka one of the biggest victims to original nazis).
âitâs like a cultâ - cults have leaders. plus any community can be called a cult based of Jessis words.
âThey groom people into itâ - many have given their opinion on how they found the community and found that they werenât afraid to be themselves.
âas a vic of sa [âĻ]â (referring to TransRapist , TransGroomer , etc) - Iâm a victim of sexual assault, child molestion, grooming, bullying, harrasment and so much more, I think that just saying your a âvictim of somethingâ is fucking stupid. if you canât just share your thoughts and opinions on a matter without feeling the need to âproveâ you know what your talking about, I donât care. honestly I donât. the only time I wanna know your experience is if itâs related to the medical field, or other sciences where first hand experience is needed. that also being said, who cares about someone elseâs identity if itâs not hurting someone.
"proship & darkship are different / same" (watch the video for a correct quote) - technically no. this point includes misinformation. darkship falls under proship. if your darkship then your proship, but if your proshio your not admittedly darkship.
you want to know whatâs actually fucked up to me? That Iâm terrified that I might be killed, assaulted or doxxed for wanting the world to be more accepting and less oppressive. watching the video, I had an insane sense of dread, Iâm worried I might be harrased for something as stupid as a label.
if you want to truly call being radqueer a cult, then you should say the same for every other community as well. lgbtq? well it must be a cult since they say to accept your sexuality & gender, must be a cult because many lgbtq spaces offer comfort to queer folk, must be a cult because minors and adults happen to interact. See who fucking stupid that idea is.
whatâs also worse is the video acts like all radqueers are these little kids who canât think for themselves and MUST be victims. when most Iâve seen are older teenagers looking to have a place of comfort (which many communities have this factor), and theirs nothing wrong with looking for a place weâre your not fucking scared of being harassed and sent death threats for simply being YOURSELF.
I was more miserable pretending to be someone I am not, then when I stumbled across the rqc and felt safe. Iâm often SCARED to speak about me gender identity because itâs âto complicatedâ to the ânormal queer individualsâ (ie: Im multigender) , im often scared to be open about my kinks because their taboo & âgrossâ (all of which, are things I would consent to & never, NEVER force someone to see or do), im scared to be open about my own disorders because I personally think I should have full body autonomy & that me starving myself is my problem (many people think itâs âyour boy, my choiceâ or think people shouldnât allowed to do things to their OWN BODY).
this community has also made my pedophilic thoughts of myself actually lessen, because I used to think I was some whore who deserved it (edit to add context: pedophilic thoughts about myself being raped and groomed from the ages 2-14, most thoughts being about the times when I was 2 & 6 and was molested). But with so many conversations on consent, self image, and acceptance. I grown to understand that I shouldnât see myself like that. And I finally felt normal, to the point that those thoughts are relatively gone in that sense, though I now channel the lingering feelings and emotions of being upset into sexual feelings were I can let off that emotion in a positive and healthy way (ie: fauxcest sexual relations).
I was overjoyed to find a space where I could be open and honest, im not fully open about myself yet because Iâm still afraid of judgement, not because I think radqueers will judge, but because after being told Iâm disgusting & deserve to KILL MYSELF for my identities, that fear lingers, and videos like this continues the cycle of forcing others to box themselves in because theyâll be good enough for the ânormal onesâ.
mind you, the ânormal onesâ, are the ones who have told me I should kill myself, threatened to rape me, and have sent CHILD SEXUAL ASSUALT MATERIAL & ANIMAL ABUSE VIDEOS to radqueers. you are sick of you think the ones who claim to care for children yet donât actually protect them are the normal ones. Because Iâve seen antis PROTECT OTHER ANTIS WHO SENT THESE BEFORE, Iâve seen more radqueers say that that is fucked up and down right disgusting more then the âNORMAL PEOPLEâ.
added because I always have more thoughts:
trying to police others identities is why so many turn to the rqc, I myself being someone who felt that way. sure it's not the only factor, but it's one I've seen. their is many reasons why people might join, it can be because they were groomed into, and those who were I hope they do what they see fit.
weather it's stay because they found that they actually like it, or leave because they didn't want to join to begin with. I won't personally continue to comment on being groomed into the community as theirs not much to say, it's common sense that you shouldn't make someone feel like they have to join a community.
If you want to have civil, and respectful conversation. Then I will be fine with antis interacting under this posts comments, and this post only but their will be rules.
be respectful (no slurs, insults or threats)
share your opinion but keep in mind not everyone will feel the same way.
for serious allegations, show proof to prove your claim.
keep in mind that paraphilies are considered a disorder, and remember other disorders can include paras (ex: pocd)
donât start arguments or you will just be blocked (ie: keeping a respectful tone)
