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I had thought, at first, that it was just these particular guys who are treating them with this type of neglect, but they’ve changed boyfriends several times across the year and they’re running in that exact same issue, over and over, to the point where it now repeats every single day. Not a day goes on without one or both my roommates going ‘It’s been over 6 hours since he’s last contacted me.’, or ‘he said he was going to call, what is he doing?’, ‘He’s online but left me on seen’, or ‘we were supposed to meet, but then he ghosted and later said something that sounds made up as an excuse’.

I remember sometimes having feelings for a person, and then getting anxious or upset if this person doesn’t get back to me, but it was never something I lived through every single day. I actually believe this is a type of torture to put someone through. My roommates will eventually get so nervous, annoyed, frustrated and mad, they will start to take it out on me and be very disagreeable to any kind of conversation or companionship. They’ll yell in frustration and insinuate that their life is painful and sometimes even talk about how they wish they didn’t exist.

they don’t have to respect her when it’s inconvenient to them, and they know she’ll be available at a moment’s notice whenever they want her attention—or sex—and be overjoyed to see him.

“do not defend her here” culty shit

And queen-administrator was friends with Probablyaterf back in 2020, and she commented this on one of Womenfrommars’ asks a few weeks ago:

So I’m pretty sure they’re the same person bc she’s used “luminifera” or some variant of it across several different blogs.

I also do think your slanderous behavior towards probably-a-terf is absurd, especially since she's a woman of color herself? Have you ever seen her? Jesus.

By the way, cute that you expect me to just magically know you're not a white English despite being from the UK, where the majority of people are... white... and English. But you're right that I shouldn't have assumed so. My original sentiment still stands, though: people from North America and Western Europe are overrrepresented on the internet and sometimes I get so fucking tired of hearing about yall all the time.

Also, menalez? WHAT is racist about acknowledging that most muslim immigrants go to the Netherlands without speaking Dutch, and that many of them are in fact not highly educated (I assume this means no university degree, it's what "high education" means in my country)? It's the truth. No one said anything about race, every race is perfectly capable of learning languages and going to uni. Wtf. By the way, I stand by what I commented: single men with extreme misogynistic beliefs should be barred from entering foreign countries. Regardless of ethnicity. In a perfect world, they'd be secluded from rest of their own country as well, for the safety of its other residents, but policing borders for that is at least more feasible.

For the record, it's not a "hettie server". We have mostly bisexuals, a few straight women, and a few lesbians (of several different ethnicities, should I add!). And I've yet to see someone being racist or homophobic without being called out and banned (iirc happened a couple times about two/three years ago). Your and your followers' continued obsession with it being a lair of evil women is insane. We're just like you: women with feminist views that enjoy talking.

1) Does the abusive man blow up to his friends? His parents? Other family (outside of nuclear family)? His boss? People important for his career? If not, his anger is clearly controllable. He is not ruled by his impulses or feelings like he may claim to the abused woman.

2) When he flies into an abusive rage and destroys things, whose things does he destroy? His objects? The things he uses? Or does he destroy (almost exclusively) the woman’s things. This also demonstrates that when he APPEARS out of control, his anger/rage is controlled for his own interest.

Rapists do not rape indiscriminately, they rape when they feel that the conditions will protect them from consequences. They rape to harm women, put them in their place, and intimidate women as a class.

“Exiled Princess” concept by Sohee Kim