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I never wanted to do it, I was outspokenly against it, but I wound up giving into the patriarchal norm because of my abusive relationship.

My marriage lasted for nine months before I got the courage to leave. And I was left saddled with a name that belonged to my abuser, my own identity lost in the past.

I had to fight like hell to get my own damn name back. That process was almost as difficult and as long as getting the divorce. And in the meantime, every piece of mail, every bank statement, every receipt I ever got, was addressed to a name that wasn’t me, that was a reminder of my trauma.

There is no good reason to discard your own name and identity to take on that of a man. His name is not more important than yours. It is not romantic, it is regressive, and it damages your independence.

As Pride Month comes to an end, I just want to remind you that July is Disability Pride Month and there's a flag and everything!

Charcoal Grey: Mourning for people who have died due to ableist violence, abuse, suicide, and illness

Red Stripe: Physical disabilities

Gold Stripe: Neurodiversity

Blue Stripe: Emotional and psychiatric disabilities

Green Stripe: Sensory disabilities

This Disability Pride Month, please take the time to learn about these disabilities. Traumatic brain injury (TBI), stroke, autism, Down Syndrome, cerebral palsy (CP), fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASD), and so many more conditions can negatively impact the way an individual can think and communicate.

Especially in the past year, we’ve been seeing the hateful R-word making a comeback. This word was coined to hurt people with cognitive disabilities, and to excuse and enable acts violence against these folks.

If you haven’t taken much time to learn about the lived experiences of people with cognitive disabilities, please take the opportunity this month. The voices of this community are vital to disability rights campaigns, AND to your local communities.

the point of eowyn is "woman is depressed, wants to be free/respected/seen/known/loved, is put in a (metaphorical) box with the other women, wants to fight bc it will bring her either Respect or Death."

she kills the dang Witch King. she fights and wins and it's awesome and satisfying. but fighting is NOT her happy ending. it's her sad ending. she ends up wounded and broken, like everyone else in this stupid WWI-trauma story. Like Frodo. Like Faramir.

the op linked the study in the replies & i’ve been skimming it & it’s actually rlly rlly interesting to think abt

What’s more interesting is that they find most films depict torture as effective when, in real life, it often isn’t. This isn’t a misconception limited to film: they draw a parallel with a captured al-Qaeda member who was waterboarded over 100 times to find out about upcoming attacks when, the authors note, he likely knew nothing about them at all.

Another study they mention finds that if people think torture is effective, they’re more likely to treat it as acceptable: “college students who were assigned to see a clip from 24 where torture works were both more supportive of the practice (beliefs) and more willing to sign a petition to Congress about torture (action).”

So, as the authors found:

“Torture regularly appears in popular movies, is often shown to be effective, and is depicted in ways that perpetuate the narrative of “good guys” torturing out of necessity to avoid harm... Since the vast majority of the U.S. public have not experienced torture, people reasonably rely upon media to frame the practice. How torture is depicted in movies may help explain why a high percentage of U.S. adults think torture can be acceptable in counterterrorism.”