PsiChick Laney

aaah I’m so happy you had a great time bb!! will you show us the pic? I’m so curious!!

i never post pics cause i’m paranoid but here you go cause i’m excited about it i also put the alaina one :)

Hi there Anon!

I wish I had a good answer for this for you. Being adopted I completely understand abandonment issues. It is a hard thing to deal with and even harder to overcome because it is about telling yourself that you are good enough and not giving another person the power to make you feel bad about yourself. I think this is probably something that people who are not adopted deal with as well. Anyone can have abandonment issues for any reason.

I know that it might not feel like you can talk to either of your friends about it. I am sure that you probably feel like if you talked to them they would think that you were being clingy, needy, or overly sensitive. You should know that you have the right to feel whatever way you feel about it. Your emotions are your own and you should not be made to feel bad about them.

If you do decide to talk to them I would recommend using “I feel” statements. Those are very good because it helps you convey your emotions without assigning blame to the other person. That is really the only suggestion that I can give to you as far as how to deal with the situation and maybe come to some kind of resolution.

If you really absolutely feel like you cannot talk to them no matter what then I recommend surrounding yourself with things and people that make you feel good. Sometimes avoidance is solution, maybe not a healthy one but it might be the one that your psyche can handle at the time.

Good luck!

Hello Anon,

Yes, I am still here. I still receive notifications on this blog so anyone can come and ask me questions at any time. I have no problem with that. I am sorry that I have not had much to say in terms of posting what I have been dealing with the last year. Mostly, my life is kind of boring.

However, I am always here for anyone who wants to talk about any of the issues that I have written about, or even ones that I have not but you think I may be of some help with.

You can always reach out to me.

Now though, I think it is important that more people know that there is more than one side to a survivor of sexual abuse and rape. I have been through a lot in my life. Although the blog name still is called damaged-girl-net and some people balk at the idea of a survivor calling themselves damaged I do not.

Yes, I am in a better mind set than I was when I first purchased the domain and started writing about my feelings and the issues that I faced. However, I still struggle, sometimes daily, sometimes just when I am dealing with other people.

What happened to me does not define me but it has changed who I am as a person and it is not something that I can ignore or will just go away.