bitter old young man

I was having a conversation with my boyfriend about my younger sister discovering her sexuality. (It’s not weird, we all live together, he’s basically her dad). Anyways. I’m super open to my sister embracing her body as a young woman. I want her to understand that masturbation is 100% ok and it’s a natural thing that should be normalized and not meant to make her uncomfortable, nor should she ever feel bad for doing it.

I work in a store that sells sex toys, and have very rarely seen mothers with their daughters buying them toys (Or men and their fathers, for that matter). I think this is shit. Young girls need this education so they don’t end up sticking a cucumber up there, or sleeping with shitty boys and getting an infection because nobody has talked to them about safe sex. Or made them so insecure that they had to hide their sex life from their parents for fear of consequences.

So I told my boyfriend that I wouldn’t mind taking her to get a toy and giving her the talk. She’s 12. She’s curious. In my arguement I said:

“She will be the best lover she will ever have.”

He didn’t get it, and immediately got quiet and offended. He asked me if I’ve ever pleasured myself while we’ve been together.

Oh fuck yeah. It’s quick, it’s easy, I know what I like.

You can beat off, because you’re a man and it’s your nature?? and I can’t because I am a women?? Psa, we are all sexual beings. I like having an orgasm just as much as you do.

See, he didn’t understand, because he assumed that 100% of my orgasms have been caused by him. He was THAT confident. Because to him, I have never had the pleasure he has given me.

No.

When you’re tired, and lazy, and give up while she was almost 99% there, she ends up finishing the job so she’s not laying there disappointed.

I also feel awkward while having sex and pleasuring myself, mostly because he IS insecure and must think that whatever he is doing isn’t good enough.

Then you have the audacity to ask her if she came? Or say sorry that it didn’t last long enough? Or say sorry that you didn’t make her cum? Which ruins the whole thing by the way...

REMEMBER THE CLIT BOYS. ALWAYS.

If you can make her cum with your magical penis without touching her a bit, congrats. But it doesn’t happen often.

Basically the point of this post is,

The woman can probably make herself cum in 30 seconds and can skip all the bullshit that makes you feel better about yourself. Sex is great, don’t get me wrong. But I stand that I will ALWAYS be the best lover I have, and will ever have. Because I know when to stop, when to move, when to switch it up, when to spit, what toy to use, etc. I know it all. Whereas, during sex, I will have to tell you, verbally or non verbally that I either like or do not like whatever it is you are doing. Sex is basically a guessing game for you. I already know the answers.