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I see a lot of posts bringing attention to some lesser known real life trans men, and I never see Tylan Grant mentioned so I thought I’d throw my hat into the ring and let everyone know about him!

He’s a British actor, and pretty much went through his entire transition on-screen while he was still acting in a Channel 4 soap called Hollyoaks from 2018 to 2024, which means during that time we actually got to see a canon trans man on network television!

And speaking of Hollyoaks, it now has another canon transmasc character when one of the characters came out about a year ago, and while he was initially played by a cis girl, they recently replaced her with an actual trans boy called Leo Cole, who’s only 17 years old!

It's old-fashioned. It's modern. It's butch. It's femme. It's snazzy. It's practical.

Wikipedia talks about the bloomers and the leg-o-mutton sleeves, but I'm also noticing a lot of these outfits have absolute supervillain lapels, which I also like a lot.

any time someone is in any kind of crisis or upheaval, offer to feed them. tell them they don't have to choose what it is if they can't make decisions, just ask about allergies and preferences and tell them you're just gonna make food happen at their house.

friend having a baby? delivery gift certificate to order food to the hospital after the kid shows up.

someone's relative passes away? offer to make them dinner.

buddy gets laid off? ask if you can order them lunch.

pal stuck in a depressive episode? offer to drive them to fucking mcdonalds, if that's what they want.

people in crisis are tired and sad and angry and the last thing most of them are doing is thinking about feeding themselves. so if you have the ability or time or money, providing that is always, always a good move.

While the big annual survey continues (until 13th August), I'm here to give you the results of the nonbinary name survey!

This is on the blog because it's technically a side survey for fun. The survey ran from 5th July to 3rd August, and there were 11,340 usable responses. You can see the spreadsheet of results here.

Top 20 names

Alex (1.01%, 204 people)

Jay (0.69%)

Sam (0.51%)

Charlie (0.49%)

Robin (0.48%)

Rowan (0.41%)

Ash (0.40%)

Max (0.33%)

Lee (0.31%)

Eli (0.31%)

Kai (0.31%)

Moss (0.29%)

Quinn (0.28%)

Wren (0.28%)

Aster (0.28%)

Jamie (0.28%)

Kit (0.26%)

Jack (0.25%)

Morgan (0.25%)

Ari (0.24%, 49 people)

Here's that top 20 as a graph, for the visual-brained folks:

The gender intentions of 18 of the top 20 names was "gender-neutral"; the two exceptions were Eli and Jack, where people were more likely to be aiming for something more masculine.

Here's the last name survey I ran, in 2023. The design was quite different, but the top 4 were the same names in the same order. The top 10 are the same names in a different order, but with one change: last time Kit was in the top 10 (this year it's at #17), and this time Lee is in the top 10 instead (last year it was #20).

This time I gave participants three slots to enter names. 20,118 names were entered in total, of which 2,358 (about 12%) were entered more than once. 22% of participants used all three slots, which seems like a lot to me, and maybe if I do this again I should provide more slots.

There were 8 names in the top 100 where people entering that name were more likely than not to be keeping a birth name:

Hannah (93.8% of Hannahs were keeping a birth name)

Elizabeth (93.3%)

Emily (91.3%)

Anna (86.8%)

Sarah (84.4%)

Emma (84.2%)

Laura (80.8%)

Claire (75.0%)

On the flipside, there were seven names entered over 20 times that were exclusively chosen by the participants themselves:

Aster (56 participants)

Rain (39)

Crow (29)

Niko (25)

Nyx (24)

Elias (22)

Briar (20)

Here's a graph of the gender intentions of each name:

Of the names that were not given at birth, here are the gender intention options and their top 3 names in each:

Gender-neutral:

Riley (74.2%)

Quinn (70.2%)

Sasha (68.8%)

Nonbinary:

Echo (50.0%)

Moth (35.3%)

Mars (34.1%)

Feminine:

Luna (64.5%)

Alice (34.3%)

Willow (30.3%)

Masculine:

Oliver (75.6%)

Alexander (70.6%)

James (65.9%)

Which means, this time, we have achieved our goal and discovered that:

the nonbinariest name is Echo! (24 people, 0.12% of participants.)

the most common name among nonbinary people is Alex, with an incredible ~1 in 100 nonbinary people going by this name.

And finally, despite the stereotype that nonbinary names are all three characters long, the most common number of characters in all names entered (including every name entry counted individually, and including names entered only once) is 4 or 5. Here's a graph:

As promised, the full spreadsheet of results doesn't contain individual responses, and any name entered only once is left out of the list. This is because names are identifying information and I don't want to risk anyone accidentally outing themselves due to having a very unusual or unique name.

Here's the results spreadsheet link again. Enjoy!

peer reviewed tags by @kaedanaida

Sorry friends but just because "and he's played by a white, thin, conventionally attractive actor" doesn't show up anywhere on people's conscious list of reasons they really like that character/blorbo doesn't mean it isn't hanging out in their subconscious where all their unexamined biases are running their little subroutines in the background of their minds. It doesn't mean that they only like him because he's played by someone white, thin, and conventially attractive, but the fact that he is played by someone white, thin, and conventionally attractive is very likely to have an impact on their latching onto him (and other characters like him) to that degree and denying that is doing everyone a disservice and actively downplaying the very real existence of unconscious societally reinforced racism (as well as other biases).