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Do you think this “male privilege” means that we’re no longer barred from all sports because our HRT is considered doping? Do you think that a judge or employer is any more likely to protect us from a cis person? Do you think that we’re in any less danger if/when we’re outed? Do you think male privilege lowers the 46% sexual assault rate that trans men face?

The nature of it is that masculinity in general is seen as predatory and aggressive. This affects trans women in obvious ways, but it also affects trans men in how we’re depicted as simultaneously confused girls as well as predators trying to trans your daughter’s gender. It’s in your parents telling you that you killed their beautiful daughter. It’s in how the queer community demonizes us for choosing masculinity. It’s in the assumption that transmasculinity is inherently misogynistic. It’s in the assumption that trans men aren’t in any danger in male spaces. It’s in the way our own community decides that passing or binary trans men aren’t queer. It’s in the benevolent third-gendering of trans men to insist that “nooo youre not like (real) men!”

Younger folk are getting really good at spotting AI slop, to the consternation of marketing execs.

The good news is that if it persists and Gen Z and Gen Alpha continue to scoff at the generated stuff, then marketing departments aiming at them will just have to give up on using it because they won't be able to figure out how to fool their targets with it.

The bad news is that this won't apply to scams and campaigns aimed at older people, so once again we're going to have a situation where the kids will be the ones lunging across the coffee table to stop Mom from giving her financial info to that really obvious fake scam mom oh my god do NOT buy that it isn't even a real thing.

similar to the way that black women are masculinized by misogynoir, east asian men often experience the opposite and are feminized by the racism they experience because having less facial/body hair and softer features than white men are signs of femininity by white cis-hetero-patriarchal standards.

if i’m being honest, this has had an pretty noticeable impact on my own transition. i’ve never really had much body hair or facial hair which means that i didn’t have to spend as much on hair removal as most white trans women. and even though my facial features are generally perceived as masculine by other east asians, white people tend to perceive me as feminine which makes it easier to pass as a woman.

in relative terms, i am able to spend the bare minimum amount of effort in order to pass. if i put on a little concealer, wear feminine clothing, and use a femme voice (something i’ve learned to do very well), i am able to pass as a woman most of the time. if i dont use concealer, wear clothing that hides my boobs, and drop my voice, then i pass a man (albeit a very androgynous one).

and this suits me just fine! i am a trans woman who has been on estrogen for 6 years but i also identify as agender and use any pronouns. im at the point in my transition where i feel comfortable with who i am no matter how people gender me and my pronouns are a reflection of the person using them and not of me. if someone uses she/her to refer to me, then they will interact with me as if i am a woman to them. if they use he/him, then they will interact with me as if im a man. if they use they/them or neo-pronouns, then they’re probably as cool as they think i am. no matter what i do or say, nothing will change how they perceive me but i am always myself no matter what people call me.

while this just sounds like an absolute flex (okay it’s a little bit of a flex), what i need people to understand is that the way that people perceive my gender is still a product of racism, even when it works in ways that benefit me.

this is why intersectionality is so goddamn important when we have conversations like this. are things hard for white trans women in america? yes absolutely. there is no question about that. but when black CIS women are misgendered and treated as masculine thanks to misogynoir, it is incredibly disingenuous to focus on white trans femininity as a marginalized identity without acknowledging that whiteness precedes marginalization. because for every ounce of effort that a white trans woman puts into her transition, there is a black trans woman who has had to put in ten times more in order to protect herself from both transphobia and misogynoir.

During the stop, Lorenzo had 3 coworkers with him in his truck who have all been taken into ICE custody.

His family described Lorenzo as a hardworking family man who didn’t deserve to be killed. All he wanted was to provide for his wife and see his sons become great people. His eldest son recognized his father by his cries and pleas when trying to identify who the victim was.

The Salgado Araujo family has set up a gofundme to help with funeral and legal costs, and to help keep their family supported since Lorenzo was the sole provider.