Anti-map

You know I'm no stranger to trying to raise as much awareness as possible about what antis have done in fandom. Heavy trigger warnings are on the page, but a rundown: rape threats, antis who are actual sexual offenders, death threats (graphic), suicide baiting, mentions of gore, pedophilia accusations, racism, ableism, transphobia, misogyny, homophobia, and much more.

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What the fuck? What the fuck???

I debated not publishing this, but no, the rest of the fandom needs to see how batshit insane this discourse has gotten. 

I’m assuming anon is referring to CyberTipLine, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children’s online form for reporting horrible crimes such as the manufacture, distribution, or possession of Child Sexual Exploitation Material, child sex trafficking, and sending unsolicited obscene material to a child. And boy do I hope this is a joke ask, because otherwise, this dingus is trying to report me for writing extremely vanilla ns/fw fanfiction of two adults who are canonically adults—or, in other words, basically the polar opposite of anything even remotely resembling CSEM.

Don’t fucking do this shit, people. 

Aside from the fact that freemance is literally not p*dophilia—it just isn’t, no matter how you try to spin it—submitting false reports to the tip line takes away time and resources that could be devoted to investigating actual crimes involving actual, living, non-fictional children. I am literally at a loss for words to describe how utterly, horrifyingly fucked up it is that there are people on this website who care more about fictional characters (who, again, are not even being fictionally victimized in this particular instance) than actual missing and exploited children. I really hope this is a one-off thing, because the thought that multiple people might’ve flooded the line with reports about my goddamn freemance fanfiction and distracted experts from a child who is in real danger makes me feel sick. 

I don’t necessarily blame the anon here, because for all I know, they’re a child themselves and they were led by others to believe that they were genuinely doing the right thing. But the people who started all this discourse are 17-18+ years old. They are legal adults or near-adults who should fucking know better. I checked a couple of their blogs and it looks like they’ve shared posts about CyberTipLine recently. Given that, I feel entirely justified blaming this on them. 

Just everything about this is vile. And what’s with the smiley faces? Antis think this shit is cute, when it’s a serious issue that they’re making light of for the sake of harassing people in fandom. 

I avoided porn as a teen. But I frequented a women’s bookstore that had a big poster, on the wall, with an erotic line drawing of two women lying together.

I guarantee you that if my peers had taught me that I had to run any porn by my parents first, I would’ve taken this literally and thought that I had to show them the poster. (And what? See if they approved? Ask them if it was okay that I thought it was hot?)

And I can tell you, my dad, who sexually abused me, would have reacted the same way he did when I foolishly asked if he and my mom still had sex.

He would’ve been WAY too eager to overshare about sexual stuff with me. He probably would’ve started gushing about how sexy he, too, thought the poster was, and then tried to talk to me some more about what my turn-ons were or something. UGGHHGHHGH

That would fuck anybody up. But if it’s coming from someone who sexually abused you, it’s literally traumatizing.

And that’s a pretty mild example. If I’d actually been into porn, being shamed into sharing it with my abuser, to get it vetted and approved?!, might have literally killed me.

This idea is completely against everything that psychology knows about developing a healthy relationship with sexuality. The absolute LAST thing a teen should be doing is bringing their parents into their exploration of sex.

Go to them with questions if they’re safe to ask.

But telling them that what they should be asking is, “please can you watch this porn and tell me if I can get off to it”… that’s covert sexual abuse from a distance.

I had been gonna say that not only is it against everything we know about healthy sexual boundaries between parents and teens, but also, it’s YET ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF ANTIS PUTTING SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVORS IN HARM’S WAY WHILE CLAIMING THEY’RE PROTECTING PEOPLE…..

But that’s redundant. Because even for teens who haven’t been sexually abused, this is downright abusive. Telling them they shouldn’t have sexual boundaries with authority figures is a BAD IDEA.

This clearly comes from the anti idea that their sense of “ewwwwww this is gross and bad” isn’t just being creeped out, it’s some kind of… goddamn psychic power that lets them know what is and isn’t healthy for all other people. And that they need to patrol all communities, using their superpower to protect everyone.

It never occurs to them that there might be information they’re missing. Because all the information out there contradicts their gut sense that something is gross, and their belief that that means something bigger than “I think that’s gross.”

So they end up demanding that teens not even develop, or respect, their own sense of what to talk to a trusted adult about, around sex, or what feels safe or unsafe to them, or whether they even have a trusted adult… they’re just like, “don’t have your own boundaries. Have the boundaries we tell you you can have, around sex.”