I promise you things will get so much better when you start processing people’s behavior as information rather than a verdict on your self-worth. If someone doesn’t text back, suddenly pulls away, whatever it may be, the solution isn’t to put on a tap dance for them and try to regain their approval. It’s not to crash out on them and try to force them to react a certain way. It’s just to take a step back, take a deep breath, and assess what this tells you. What’s this saying about them? What’s this saying about you??
Next level to this is moving away from analyses like "they don't value me as a friend" and considering interpretations like "they may have difficult and/or important things going on in their life that I don't know about" and in most cases settling on "i don't know them well enough to really know what's going on with them" and then to accept that that's okay.
Life works so much better when you only engage with others based on their words or actions and refrain from any additional analysis.
Someone didn't text back? Okay so you're not making plans with them. Someone consistently ignores your attempts to contact them? Okay, so you're not gonna be interacting with them now. You can move on with no additional drama. It doesn't need to be a big judgment on them or a big judgment on yourself.
Focus on the relationships where people are engaging with you and live your life.
